August 31, 2016

huma abedin at work

Stop Blaming Huma for Her Husband’s Epic Fail(s)


by Meg Keene
Yesterday morning, I woke up to the delightful Page One New York Times print headline, “Weiner’s Texts Cast a New Shadow Over Clinton Campaign.” Of course the obvious response was, “HOW? HOW IS THAT? HOW COULD THAT POSSIBLY BE?”, which I screamed at my newspaper over breakfast. But beyond that, I found myself fuming, once again, about how we blame women for not only all of the things we perceive as personal failings (including but not limited to: working for a living, not raising perfect children, not always having perfectly... read more

25 Stunning (and Affordable) BHLDN Dresses for Under $1K

Plus a bonus: 15 super fab ones under $2K

by Maddie Eisenhart
Adona Dress ($570) When I was getting married, way back in the pre-Pinterest dark days of 2009, shopping for wedding dresses was a particular kind of horror for someone without a billion dollars at their disposal. I learned the hard way that while $500 or $1,000 (or even $2,000) might seem like a whole lot of money to put some clothes on your back, in the bizarro world of wedding dresses, those numbers were somehow considered “budget.” (How? How?!) And even still, the biggest problem wasn’t the cost. It was that almost every dress in... read more


once upon a time i was a perfect parent

This Is the Conversation You Need to Have with Your Partner Before Becoming Parents

It doesn't have anything to do with where the kid sleeps, trust

by Stephanie Kaloi
I spouted off a whole lot of stuff about parenting and kids before I had a child; I now recognize like 97 percent of that stuff as ideological garbage. But acting like you know everything is a great coping mechanism for when you’re about to enter into an arena you’re a little terrified of, and I’m not alone in my pre-parent (somewhat misguided, but deeply felt) ideas about how I would parent. Here is the truth, though: This is how two peacenik pacifist parents end up with a seven-year-old who loves pretending to shoot everyone and... read more

We Found You a Photographer Who Knows How to Blend Tradition and Art

In other words, she'll give you everything you need

by Stephanie Kaloi
If you’re getting married in the San Francisco Bay Area, you’re probably familiar with the region’s standard wedding photography rates and offerings (and it’s okay if you’ve shed a few tears over them). The struggle in planning a wedding with the dollars you have is real. In fact, this struggle leads to one of the biggest reasons we love sponsor Manali Anne Photography: She offers 8 hours of coverage and a second shooter for $3,500, but more importantly, her city hall elopement rates start at $650 (yep, six hundred and... read more

A couple of days ago

man and woman walking in a field

Have You Guys Ever Thought About Scheduling Sex?

Does it really... work?

by Anonymous
My partner and I tried a few different things before we ever sat down and had an honest conversation about scheduling sex. After all, making a timetable for sex is kind of the opposite of sexy, right? Anytime we even got close to talking about it, I would immediately flash back to an early episode of Grey’s, when Addison and Derek are discussing the fact that they never had to schedule sex in med school, with the implication that their marriage must be in trouble because they were now doing so. As the viewer, you understand that of course their... read more
bride and groom walking to venue

Here Are the Secrets to Easy Winter Wedding Planning

Baby, it's warm here

by Stephanie Kaloi
Maybe some of y’all are busy getting ready for autumn—aka the time of scarves, football (or so I’m told), and pumpkin spice all over the place—but for me winter is everything. Given that, it’s probably not a surprise that I am a big fan of the off-season winter wedding, and my husband and I eloped in mid-February. I find winter sunsets to be some of the dreamiest and moodiest to behold, crisp-to-cold temperatures make me feel alive, and long nights scream romance to me. If you’re similarly minded, and contemplating ditching... read more

August 26, 2016

ferris wheel at fair

APW Happy Hour

The Jareesa edition!

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
Hey APW, It’s your favorite intern, Jareesa, here! This week I’ve been behind the scenes working on a few things—brainstorming my next APW piece, knitting, and trying to not let my allergies kill me. It’s the last few weeks of summer, which is always bittersweet to me. I love summer (I think my July birthday has something to do with it) and summers in Minnesota do not disappoint. The end of summer in Minnesota means one thing: the Minnesota State Fair! I’m a huge State Fair fan (it’s called the Great Minnesota Get-... read more

We Crowdsourced Wedding Photos to Save Money and It Was Absolutely Worth It

Crowdsourcing and camera cake toppers for the win

by A Practical Wedding
We planned everything with an eco-conscious and thrifty mindset, so we opted not to include lot of things that would have been nice, but weren't necessary. That said, though, we know our type of wedding isn't for everyone. We didn't have a wedding banquet, and we didn't take many wedding photos because we wanted a relaxed and carefree gathering where we could kick back with a glass of wine or beer, and actually hang out with our friends without all the wedding obligations and duties... read more

August 25, 2016

table with slice of wedding cake

We Don’t Have to Invite ALL of Our Guests to the Reception, Right?

We love them, we just want an intimate dinner

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I’m a serious planner (stage management is part of my professional life) and my current job gives me a lot of downtime to dream things up. My pie-in-the-sky dream wedding looks something like this: church ceremony, small(ish) dinner with close family and friends, followed by drinks/dessert and giant dance party with everyone we know. Is there a way to make that happen that won’t make people feel left out? Can I invite people only to the ceremony and reception? Are we obligated to entertain guests straight through from ceremony on? I don&#... read more

Here Is a Photographer Who Will Travel Anywhere in Canada—for Free

Ben Kane brings epic photojournalism from Toronto to Vancouver and everywhere in between

by Stephanie Kaloi
Get excited, Canada, because Ben Kane Photography is back. Okay, I know, unless you’re a super-fan of wedding photographers, you’re probably like, “Ben who? Where’d he go?” Allow me to explain. We are all huge fans of longtime APW sponsor Ben Kane, and for good reason: His aesthetic is so awesome, Maddie coined the phrase “epic photojournalism” for it; he is committed to shooting all kinds of people having all kinds of weddings; and he manages to simultaneously capture both heartfelt emotion and epic beauty... read more

August 24, 2016


I’m Pregnant (and I Never Wanted to Be a Mom)

Going from #nokids to #yeskids is a trip

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
As I write this, I’m halfway through my first pregnancy. In fact, my baby person is moving around right now and it’s giving me great joy. Pretty much everything in my pregnancy has given me some joy, maybe because I never thought I’d experience any parts of pregnancy. Until very recently, I was the woman who was Team (Probably) No Kids. #NoKids, Please I can’t tell you the moment when I realized I wasn’t interested in having children. I do remember playing with my dolls, but my dolls were my friends—not my pretend babies. I also remember... read more
NuMeStyle (57 of 179)

The Two Tools That Will Make Your DIY Wedding Hair Easy

Or hell, your day-to-day hair

by Meg Keene
If you’re getting married and thinking about DIYing your own hair for the wedding (and by DIYing, I mean probably having a friend help you with your hair), you already know the absurd pressure that your friends and family—and the Internet—will put on you to OMG JUST GET A PROFESSIONAL TO DO IT GOD YOU COULD MESS THE WHOLE THING UP. I know this pressure all too well, because when I got married, I told everyone to go to hell and had my friend Rachel help me with my hair and makeup. This is particularly amazing, given just how unruly [&hellip... read more

August 23, 2016

woman sitting in a pile of balloons

What Happens When a Woman “Marries Down”

We'll make it, I swear

by Rachel Gabrys
When I tell someone I don’t know well that I’m engaged, the first question they ask is, “What’s his name?” and then inevitably, “What does he do?” When I answer that he works in the warehouse of a big-box electronics store, they usually ask, “Oh, is he in school?” My doctor, my professors, that chick who sat next to me in the class I can’t remember—none of them seem satisfied to hear that he works in a job that is neither meaningful nor pays well. My Mother, The Accidental Breadwinner I grew up in a household where my mother was... read more
The Barn at Crane Estate wedding of Caitlyn and Chad.

You Hire This Photographer When You Want Intention in Every Photo

You'll love her so much (and she'll love you right back)

by Stephanie Kaloi
When it comes to finding a wedding photographer, you might be looking for someone you can send a contract and deposit to and then not chat with for eight months, or you might be looking for someone who is all in with you from the beginning—answering questions, inviting you to coffee, getting to know you and your wedding plans, and so on. If the latter is your dream, then allow me to introduce you to New England’s Kelly Benvenuto Photography, a longtime APW sponsor who is all about her people (and with rates starting at $3,490, you should... read more

August 22, 2016


Do You Still Talk About Sex with Your Friends?

Married sex is hard to... discuss?

by Meg Keene
There are some things I knew I’d miss when I grew up and got married (which was always somewhere in my hazy future plans). I knew I’d miss sleeping alone, spread-eagle on a queen-size bed (check). I knew I’d miss having my own room (check). I knew I’d miss nights out with my friends whenever I felt like it (check). But it turns out there were a few things I didn’t see coming about my particular brand of adult life. I didn’t realize just how much I’d miss the lazy weekend mimosa brunch after we had kids. (... read more
beyonce in 7 11 video

Bachelorette Party 101: How to Schedule, Plan, and Win It

Etiquette? Check. A timeline? Yep. Ideas for parties? You know we've got you

by Stephanie Kaloi
The inception of the bachelor party is weirdly credited to the Spartans. Who knew? Bachelorette parties, however, came into vogue in the US in the 1960s, aka the time when women were like, “You know all this dude stuff? We’re over it.” Well, kind of. The idea of having “one last night of being single” is both reviled and celebrated, but in general it seems the modern bachelorette/bachelor parties are just an excuse for a group of friends to get together, drink (or not), and indulge in mostly well-behaved shenanigans…... read more

August 19, 2016


APW Happy Hour

For when APW Happy Hour needs to be a literal experience

by Stephanie Kaloi
Hey APW, GIRL, whatta week. I mean, let me just give you this Olympics-related video treat and you can head on in to your Happy Hour, because I know I’m about to be looking for a happy hour experience of my own. Until next Friday, fam. XO, Stephanie Link Roundup Why don’t we just make gender-swapped versions of every single movie ever made? I’m down. “4 Reasons You’re Not Helping Racism by Refusing to Talk About It” When women were told they couldn’t be part of the Olympics, they held the Women’s World Games. Slay... read more
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