Why do you want to work with APW Couples?
The APW community constantly renews my faith in weddings – APW is the only blog I recommend when I start working with a new couple, and I often tell them to read any others at their own risk, and to stop immediately if they start feeling stressed out. Weddings are not about how magazine-worthy your photos end up being; weddings are about making this huge and amazing commitment, and doing it in front of people who love you – that is an amazing thing, and APW readers get it. It ultimately doesn’t matter if the napkins match the bridesmaids’ shoes, which match the envelope liners from the invitations – what matters is that two people are standing up in front of the world and saying, “Yes, you’re it. I choose you, and I’m doing this publicly and joyfully in front of our community.” (Even if you elope, whenever you tell someone that you’re married that’s what you’re doing – publicly choosing your partner.)
So, the reason I want to work with APW couples is simple: I want to be a part of more of these joyful, public, community and love-filled events, and I want to help with them in the best way I can, which is by making them as un-stressful and un-crazy as possible, so that when you are standing up there making that commitment you’re not also wondering if the cake has arrived or the guestbook was forgotten back at home or how exactly you’re going to keep everyone and everything going on time. You can deal with your big, huge, life experience, and I’ll deal with wrangling the centerpieces.
Describe your artistic approach to weddings?
I believe in marriage. My grandparents were married for 62 years and I’m currently planning my parents’ 40th anniversary party. I have seen first hand how powerful the institution can be, how marriage can let people help lift each other up to the best versions of themselves. I also believe in parties, but know that the amount of pretty details or money involved in the party has very little to do with the strength of the marriage (my parents’ 1972 wedding cost $750 and was held at home and self-catered by her family. Even in today’s dollars, that’s less than $4000.)
My wedding planning focus is always to work with my clients to plan and execute the wedding that *they* want, and that truly reflects them. While I’m more than happy to give opinions and advice, in the end it really doesn’t matter if I like your centerpieces or not (it also doesn’t matter if your cousin, or your mother, likes them or not) – if you love them, then I will be *thrilled* with them. I see wedding planning as a collaborative effort between myself and the couples I work with – I have the experience and knowledge to guide you towards a variety of options, but in the end only you can decide which one of those options is exactly right for you.
I have cried at almost every wedding I’ve ever been to, and I will probably cry a little bit at yours. I will certainly wear party shoes. I will also run interference, take care of details, do my very best to fix any problems before you’re aware of them, and generally do everything I can to make sure that you are able to be fully present at your wedding, not worry about logistics or problems, focus on the commitment you’re making and, oh, hopefully also have a sh*t load of fun.
While I work on every size and type of wedding, I’m going to be honest and say that my favorite weddings tend not to be typical-hotel-ballroom-affairs (an aside: I have been to more than one *truly awesome* hotel ballroom wedding.) I love backyard weddings, weeknight weddings, barbeque weddings, church weddings, weddings done on tiny budgets, cocktail party weddings, park weddings, giant guest list weddings, restaurant weddings, museum weddings, beach weddings, courthouse weddings, and small weddings, just to name a few. (Yeah, I pretty much just love weddings.) Above all, my favorite weddings include people who are bursting with joy and love.
What are your non-work-related hobbies?
reading, searching for the perfect iced latte, going to galleries and museums, sitting on decks, spending time with interesting people.
What’s your favorite book?
Angle of Repose by Wallace Stegner, but Bel Canto by Ann Patchett comes in a close second
What’s your favorite movie?
Rachel Getting Married
If you could have a one minute dance party at your desk, what song would you pick?
Otis Redding’s Hard to Handle
Explain your travel policy:
I love to travel. My travel rate to New York City is a flat $250, and travel to Los Angeles County is a flat $150. Anywhere else in the world I’ll travel for cost – there are never any nebulous “travel fees” – just the actual expenses.