Emily of Emily Style wrote a post recently about picking wedding music, and suddenly there I was googling “wedding music” and pondering what they heck we were going to do about it. Thankfully, we have lots of time to think about it, because it seems like it’s not going to be tremendously straightforward. First off, our venue does not allow amplified music at our outdoor ceremony location, which means we need a live musician or two. In theory, I love this idea, in practice it might be tough to keep this within the budget. Secondly, have you looked at wedding music? Apparently, once you cut out music relating to Jesus (most everything), as well as Wagner (a known anti-Semite, and Hitler’s favorite composer) who wrote ‘Here Comes The Bride,’ you’ve significantly narrowed the pool.
Lots of people are using popular music for their wedding music these days, which can work really well. In our case, though, it doesn’t feel quite right. At the same time, using a typical classical piece would feel odd as well, since we are not huge classical music buffs (at least, compared to the rest of my family). So, here is a short collection of some rough ideas I’ve had:
- The first song I heard that made me sit up and say “Oh! I would love to walk down the aisle to this!” was the lovely Falling Slowly by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irgolva from the Once soundtrack. It’s evocative, simple, and haunting. The one problem? Somehow the lyrics (Take this sinking boat and point it home/ We’ve still got time/ Raise your hopeful voice you have a choice/ You’ve made it now) are a little downbeat for a wedding. I love bittersweet and evocative, but I’m not sure even I can pull this off. That said, I’m still pondering what this tune would be like played on a single violin.
- On the classical music front, I’ve loved Pachelbel’s Cannon since I was a little girl. But of late it’s become *the* song for bride’s to process too. I want something that feels a little more personal, so that is off the list.
- My favorite Opera is Bizet’s Carmen, and the aria “L’amour est un oiseau rebelle” (love is a rebellious bird) is particularly lovely, and the lyrics are poetic and dangerous. But, it’s been so overplayed culturally, that I’d feel like I was walking down the aisle to a coke commercial. Plus, while the tune is nice, it’s a aria, spectacular when sung, and we’re not hiring a opera singer. That is not in the budget.
- Then there is the Klezmer violin option. In a funny reversal of fate, I cut my teeth on middle eastern music – hanging out with serious violinists in my teens – and as a result I feel a great affinity to Klezmer music since it has similar roots, while David doesn’t feel very strongly about it. I really like the idea of hiring a klezmer violinist to play our wedding ceremony. I’ve heard that there is a traditional klezmer bridal march that is “regal and dramatic, happy and sad at the same time, as all Jewish music is supposed to be.” This sounds right up my alley. Unfortunately I can’t find any evidence of it online. It’s sounds like I have some research to do!
As always, I love to hear how you are navigating this challenge. How are you working to finding personal and evocative music for your wedding? Anyone know of talented and affordable violinists in the Bay Area?
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