“I don’t like when the ladies come up and say, ‘Oh, you broke barriers for women.’ And I say, ‘I’m still breaking barriers.’” —Joan Rivers
This week has been a total blur of catching up because it’s fall. (I mean, it’s work-fall, not real-life-fall. I’m totally going to the pool this weekend.)
And then Joan Rivers died.
If you want an unapologetic feminist role model, she’s it. Yes, she made offensive jokes about everything under the sun. Yes, she was always, always, over the line—so far over the line you couldn’t even see the line anymore. But man, did she have it. She was a survivor, she was force of nature, she was a woman with a big heart. And she was talented and, more important to me, relentless. You get whatever talent cards you’re dealt, but it’s what you do with them that matters. And as much as she hated hearing it when she was alive—because damn if she wasn’t still relevant—I think today we can finally call her a pioneer. While she insisted her goal wasn’t breaking barriers for women—it was just to break barriers and make people laugh—she indisputably did just that, and I am grateful.
Of course, Joan Rivers isn’t just a feminist role model, she’s a Jewish feminist role model, and partially because of that, it’s David that sold me on her in the first place. We are sad in our household today, and when she died we were still only halfway through her Emmy special for fashion police—which is how fast this whole thing happened. The last thing I said about her before she collapsed was, “She is on fire!” And that, I think, is how she wanted to go out.
So this week, I’m pouring one out for a woman with no fucks to give. May her memory be a blessing.
P.S. If you haven’t seen the amazing 2010 documentary Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work, that’s your weekend watching. You won’t regret it.
Highlights of APW This Week
Writing intern Kelsey is getting married TOMORROW!!!! Can we all wish her loads of luck?
A golden and glamorous restaurant dinner party wedding.
Planning a wedding after losing a parent.
The universal gift registry that marries gratitude with good design.
Coming clean about all those adult tasks we’re putting off. Accountability: check!
The pursuit of the imperfect wedding.
We don’t always get to feature New Orleans weddings, but when we do, they’re awesome.
Now sit back, grab a mojito, and enjoy our link roundup.
Behind the scenes with Uzo Aduba at her first Emmys.
Motherhood: the big fat fuck you.
“The problem is, I’m black.”
Mindy Kaling: motivation for your day.
Calling his shots comes naturally.
Djuan Trent, Former Miss Kentucky, on why she came out as “queer.”
The conditions upon which one may claim to be a victim of “reverse racism.”
A federal judge strikes down the Texas abortion regulation.
Why one man spent a year giving haircuts to the homeless in NYC.
Why so many college grads are highly educated, well placed, and going nowhere.
Celebrity Photo Leak
The great 2014 celebrity photo leak is just the beginning.
Jennifer Lawrence’s nude photo leak isn’t a scandal, it’s a sex crime.
Behind every bullied woman is a man yelling about free speech.
This is why you shouldn’t click on the naked photos of Jennifer Lawrence.
From Rachel, a brief refresher on a woman’s right to privacy.
Jennifer Lawrence is not a thing to be passed around.
This isn’t about iPhones. This is about women being shamed, objectified, and treated like property.
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