APW Happy Hour Birthday edition! by Meg Keene HI APW! It’s balance month at APW, which is fitting, as I’ve been living a life of aggressive balance lately. My life consists of family time, kid time, workworkworkwork (you’re not done with work but now you’re out of time) time, kid time, family time, partner time, bed. It’s good, and I’m grateful for it, but man, could I use a little unfocused Meg time. Or maybe staring at the ceiling time? I’d like to write about how this all feels, if I can just find the… time. At least, as of this weekend, it’s Maddie’s birthday time. Not quite the same as Meg time, but bound to be fun. (Actually, it’s Lucy and Maddie birthday time this weekend. I’m sure it would be one massive APW editor party, if Lucy didn’t live in Georgia, but happy birthday to them both just the same.) With that, I’m kicking it to some excellent links and your open thread. And while this isn’t the kind of death Twitter goes crazy over, RIP Elaine Stritch. I hope you’re having a smoke and a laugh with Judy Garland in heaven. Cheers, Meg Highlights of APW This Week “My past and my future, intertwined.” So you want to make a wedding website that includes all those fancy engagement photos? Maddie shows you how (and how NOT to make your life hard). “Decisions don’t make themselves… but how to we make this one?” How ethical and beautiful engagement rings are made. How to plan wedding weekend activities without losing your mind. “Crying for my father, celebrating for us.” A colorful museum wedding in Florida. How to set up a DIY bar for your wedding. Don’t forget the bottle openers! Life without checklists. Link Roundup How to breastfeed appropriately. A working mom arrested for letting her daughter play at the park alone. A.K.A., my childhood all the time? Bustle raises another $5 million in funding. Goodbye indie women’s web… not run by rich white men. It’s been nice knowing you. The Russian flower queens of Instagram. “What happened when we gave our daughter my last name.” (This? Story of my life, more or less.) The state of the American dog. (Fun fact: the dogs photographed in this article are from the same shelter where Lucy adopted her dog, Topher.) The G.O.P and a woman’s level. For your weekend listening: Maddie’s newest summer jam. Reclaiming “homemaker” “It’s such a comfortable pose, gathering around women and deciding what we think of them—hot or not, alluring or tragic, moral or immoral, responsible or irresponsible, capable of consent or incapable of consent, maternal or neglectful.” The secret of effective motivation. Steven Soderbergh, on why he really quit movies. The case for female astronauts. APW’s 2014 Happy Hours are sponsored by Monogamy Wine. Thank you Monogamy for helping make the APW mission possible! if you want to learn more about monogamy (and possibly win birthday treats), head over here and sign up for their newsletter. Meg Keene Founder & Editor-In-Chief Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. She has written two best selling wedding books: A Practical Wedding and A Practical Wedding Planner. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in Oakland, CA with her husband and two children. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit MegKeene.com.