Dear Everyone,
You notice I turned the comments off on the please discuss post, and that comments are off on this post. I’m not quite sure why, so many of the times we talk about wife-hood on this site the comments get hijacked to talk about some sort of mythical fight between stay at home moms and working moms, but let me be very clear:
- As far as I’m concerned there is *nothing* to debate. Whatever choice you make about caring for your children is between you and your partner. I hope we are able to make these decisions based on what is practical and what brings our family joy, not based on ideology of any sort.
- As Cate, who read the comments in shock while she nursed her baby girl pointed out, there are many ways to skin a cat. It’s not working moms versus stay at home moms, its how each of us chooses over the years to find a balance that works for us and for our children.
- This is *not* a parenting blog. Period. This is a blog for talking about weddings and for talking about our experiences with marriage. Part of the reason that I’m tackling talking about marriage is that I think that there need to be more places to discuss our lives and experiences as married people (for most of us that means wives) totally separately from being parents (or mothers). Sometimes kids tangentially are part of the discussion, but that is not what the discussion is about.
All of this is to say that after much thought, and quite a bit of discussion with my lady blogging crew, my decision is this: At least for the moment, I will be editing threads, and deleting any posts that bring up the SAHM vs. WM debate. This blog is not the place for it, and it is getting in the way of the discussions that many of us are trying to have.
Now, here is to empowering women to live in ways that bring them joy, whatever that looks like.
