It Happened

I am not ashamed to admit that I’ve read Martha Stewart Weddings since 2006 (I just checked my bookshelf to give you an exact date). Maybe it was being the only girl in my urban-alt-theatre friend circle who actively wanted to get married one day, maybe it was my love of pretty things, I don’t know. But I used to buy them in the subway station, and sneak read them on the train, so when I ran into someone I knew I didn’t have to explain myself (hiding my addiction to Offbeat Bride was simpler). Lots of their weddings were froofy and gag-worthy and I mocked them, but every so often they had a wonderful homemade wedding, and I would sigh and swoon, hoping one day it would be me.

Today, as I was rushing through Rite Aid, I grabbed the new MSW, mostly out of habit. I read it without shame on the bus home (I have an alibi now), and in 10 minutes I was done with it, cold. It was an excellent issue, mind you, same pretty pictures as always, but life moves on. My wedding dress – not in the pages. My bridesmaids dresses – well, no. My colors? Right. No colors. And so. More and more I find that the articles I’m clipping these days are on long happy marriages, tiny babies, places to travel, ways to nest, or just my old standbys of politics and pithy news.

So, to you today, a ray of hope. Our weddings will one day be behind us, and we won’t mind a bit.

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  • This is great news! :) I’m still in the phase where I start doubting myself when I read MSW (and someone gave me a subscription as an engagement present).

    I can’t wait for the wedding to be behind me, as excited as I am for it, still.

  • Liz

    I got married a week and a half ago and as we got closer to the wedding I found myself feeling the exact same way. Our wedding was perfect – perfectly us and we’re married. That is the most important thing. :)

  • thank you for this post. this is kinda what i needed to get through my day. much appreciated!

  • I’ve had the same feeling recently! I think I was over the hump once we set a date/found a location, and I finally ordered my dress. We’re looking definitely forward to the wedding, but with a more relaxed, we-don’t-care-what-other-people-are-doing sort of way. I hope to hang onto that feeling for the rest of the planning process. :)

  • what a sweet sentiment! you’re refreshingly level-headed! After the wedding, I just didn’t think my interest in weddings would fade, but it did.. very quickly as it’s only been 2 months now. It’s the pictures of a happy day and sentiments that draw me back… all the other details’ appeal just fades.

  • Ah, Meg, I’m so happy for you. You’re absolutely right. This post kinda had the same message as my Christmas one, eh? So, it certainly does happen :)

    (Says the girl still reading the wedding blog… he he, only yours!)

  • here here!!

  • Very true! I just gave my stack of wedding magazines (inherited from someone married a few months before me) to another friend, getting married next year. I had a few moments of “should I save this Collectors’ Edition Color Issue?” and decided nope, no interest.

    The closer you get to the wedding, and especially afterward, you realize that those magazines are mostly fantasy, and if your wedding doesn’t look like the “Real Wedding” Martha features, it means nothing about how awesome the day was.

  • Oh, this brightens my day! I took your advice and didn’t think about weddings over the holiday, either. My brain stopped buzzing and it was amazing.

  • I’m less than three weeks from my wedding and can’t wait for it to be behind me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m looking forward to it but man, I just want to go skiing, drink micro brews, and be alone with my husband! No work, no bothers, just us and our future.

    I thought I would stay cool, calm, and collected but I’ve been nothing but antsy ever since we hit the three-week mark.

    Maybe I should drink less coffee during these times?

  • Last weekend I went through my stack of MS Weddings (the only wedding magazine I buy due to it’s DIY-ness) and tore out anything that interested me (much less than i imagined) and through them out. A bride with no Bridal Magazines… what a concept :) Although I did keep my Real Simple: Weddings, because that thing is like a wedding Bible.

  • Marina

    Heh, my mom just got me a MSW magazine, and I was just kind of… They had a whole article on personalizing your wedding. By monogramming everything. I was just like, what…? I don’t understand it at all.

  • a-men, friend.

  • Bless you, bless you, bless you. And here here! My favorite "wedding preparation" research is finding us a place to live. A home to be married in > the party.

  • I’m glad I’m not the only one who started reading MSW long before being engaged :)

  • Amy

    I know exactly what you mean.

  • That’s too funny! I have been holding onto mine for 3 weeks now (I have a subscription) and I still haven’t opened it, not even on the 5 hour train ride to my folk’s house!

  • I love this post! I feel exactly the same way, and I don’t think that people like to hear that I’m ready to move on with my life. It seems that they expect you to let the wedding not just take over but to actually BECOME your reason for existence, and this post (and your site) is such a breath of fresh air from that mentality. :)

  • I can relate. The magazines are a great place for ideas, but one you’ve had them… their suggestions aren’t as relevant.