April 26, 2016

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This Is What Inclusive Wedding Photography Looks Like

With free travel to the ENTIRE United States (yeah, including Hawaii & Alaska)

by Najva Sol
You know that that thing that happens when you’re engaged and the rest of the world stops viewing you as a complex human being with a unique back story and just sees you as The Bride (or Groom)? You know who, in a million years, would never ever do that? Nadiya Nacorda of Imani Fine Art Photography. Nadiya gets this—and you—because she’s been there. While planning her own wedding (during the same year she launched her business because she’s ambitious like that), Nadiya found herself navigating the same kinds of complicated ... read more

April 25, 2016

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How Beyoncé’s Powerful New Album “Lemonade” Speaks to the Truth about Marriage

What's worse? Looking jealous or crazy?

by Meg Keene
One of my girlfriends and I always talk about what we consider to the basic fact of life: women need to be able to provide for themselves (and their kids) on a moment's notice. While being a mother and wife are both important parts of our lives, our most important job will always be the one that pays the bills. Why? Because men can be dumb. Because you never know... read more
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5 Wedding Guest Outfits You Will Absolutely Wear Again

Because no one needs a closet full of outfits collecting dust

by Maddie Eisenhart
No matter how many weddings I go to, how many special occasion dresses I own, when it comes time to pack up for a celebratory weekend, I inevitably declare closet bankruptcy. I’ve made the mistake too many times of buying a dress on a whim before a special event, only to have it sit, unworn, for years after. Which is why I’ve begun to employ two rules when shopping for wedding guest attire: Nothing too expensive. No amount of specialness is worth it if I’m only going to wear it a few times. Versatility is the name of the game. If it... read more

April 22, 2016

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APW Happy Hour

When doves cry, like, a lot

by Najva Sol
HEY APW, Najva here. Don’t even know what to say other than: Prince is dead. My personal celebrity doppelganger and the human I consider the most talented live musician I have ever seen is no more. I guess other things have happened. I’ve had poke for the first time in LA, hung out with our writer Faz, and even got to spend a few nights in the old Disney cottages Snow White was based on. But really: Prince. Is. Dead. Let’s have a moment of silence for his gender-bending, shade-throwing, style-icon-status, unstoppable genius (and ignore... read more
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What We Loved about Our $32K Wedding in the Phillipines

NBD, just the the first time she's ever seen him cry

by A Practical Wedding
I was relaxed the entire morning until we drove up to the church. As soon as I stepped out of the car and stood before the church's closed doors, I felt nervous. When the doors opened I cried upon seeing everyone—our friends, our families, and our colleagues. I only stopped because I saw Brian bawling. It surprised me because I've never seen him cry... read more

April 21, 2016

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Do We Really Need Professional Photos of Our Courthouse Wedding?

AAPW: is this really something we'll regret? Because I kind of doubt it.

by Stephanie Kaloi
Q: I’m getting married in November 2016, and we’ve finalized the majority of our plans: venue, catering and alcohol, florist, and DJ. However, the one thing that we haven’t budgeted for (at all) is photography. I’m not a picture person. I never remember to take them, and the few picture frames I own are filled with pictures that were inserted about a decade ago and were never changed. In fact, I don’t have a single picture of my fiancé in a frame. The few pictures we have of ourselves together were posted on social media... read more
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The 3 New Glö Features That Will Make Guest Organization Easier

Weddings made (even) easier

by Najva Sol
It’s hard enough keeping track of my daily life… but add wedding planning on top of it? I can’t even imagine. Even just to get through normal work and life, I swear by websites and handy apps, systems (that I don’t have to build) to keep me abreast of a million moving parts. Which is why I find it exciting that one of our longtime APW sponsors, Glö, has been dedicated to streamlining the wedding guest organization process since day one. I don’t know how they do it, but the team at Glö keeps pumping out new features... read more

April 20, 2016

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Is Your Marriage Making You Accidentally Co-Dependent?

And is independence overrated?

by Stephanie Kaloi
Our household and the responsibilities that come with it have always been a little more egalitarian than the norm. If he cooks, I do the dishes. If I sweep the house, he’s the one on hands and knees with a tub of hot water and Borax. But there are still things that one or the other of us does. Marriage means co-dependence, at least to a degree, and it’s always a struggle to figure out exactly how to balance that. A few months ago, however, my husband switched to working nights, which has meant that all of a sudden there are more things... read more
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Why You Might Actually Want a Budget and Not Just Need One

I used to be afraid that a budget would restrict us. Instead it set us free.

by Maddie Eisenhart
A few short years ago, Michael and I looked at our bank statements and realized we were $33,000 in debt (not including our gigantic student loans). The story of how we got so deep is nebulous at best—lots of little unexpected things added up. Our wedding cost more than we planned for. Our dog got sick. We moved. Life happened. But how we stayed in debt is easier to pin down. I was afraid of budgets. My family is split into two distinct factions: hyper-vigilant budgeters who never seem to have any fun and carefree go-with-the-flow people who never... read more

April 19, 2016

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How Can You Make Your Wedding Fun Without Dancing?

The Cupid Shuffle isn't for everyone, you know?

by Meg Keene
Two of the questions we field the most frequently about wedding receptions are, “We aren’t going to have dancing. What should we substitute for that?” and “Will a wedding without dancing be fun?” As far as I’m concerned, the answers are as follows: You either have dancing, or you don’t. There is no substitute. And, of course it will be fun. Super fun, in fact. Think about it. Most parties you attend probably don’t have dancing, and they’re a delight. The truth is, if you don’t have dancing,... read more
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12 Unexpected Wedding Solutions from Zazzle

The personalization of DIY, but without actually having to do it yourself

by Maddie Eisenhart
When you’re shopping online for your wedding, there’s always this nagging worry—will my items arrive on-time and look as beautiful as they did online? I mean, yeah, it’s great to have lots of options, and it’s better if those options are affordable, but you also want those options to be good. And that’s where Zazzle comes in. From paper goods to decor to gifts and even this sparkly unicorn head (because why not?), Zazzle’s bottom line is if it can be personalized, they either make it or have plans to. Which is... read more

April 18, 2016

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5 Things to Look for When You Find Your Dream Wedding Gown on Sale

With love from your friendly alterations shop

I know we have seen it on television over and over—the sample sale or clearance rack dream come true. The bride who scores her coveted gown at a fraction of its original cost and wears her fantasy dress down the aisle while keeping her budget intact. We all love a good deal, especially when faced with all the other wedding planning expenses. But when you go out shopping, keep in mind that a dress is only a good buy if you also take into account what it will require to alter it. Sales people can gloss over significant problems to [&hellip... read more
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Where Do You Look for Positive Marriage Role Models?

Because real life isn't exactly serving them up on a silver platter

by Maddie Eisenhart
Recently I was exchanging emails with one of APW’s regular contributors, when the topic of fear and anxiety around major life changes came up. I don’t process transition well, and apparently, neither does she. She explained, “When I am faced with a situation where I either don’t have a clear vision, or have a vision that is negative, then I get very anxious and experience the stress of that imagined (or confused) future as if it is happening NOW.” Oh hello, light bulb. I didn’t see you there. That one small sentence... read more

April 15, 2016

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APW Happy Hour

In which Meg becomes a homeowner

by Meg Keene
HEY APW, So. This week… I bought a house. Or more specifically, we bought a house. And it turns out signing the papers to buy your first house feels a lot like getting married all over again. It’s just (way) more expensive, and you don’t get a dance party afterwards. A month ago, we were a hundred percent not in the market for a house, and then on Tuesday we became homeowners. When I can wrap my head around what happened and how massively I managed to shift my feeling about money this year, I’d like to write a little about [&... read more
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How We Planned a 160-Person Handcrafted Pennsylvania Wedding for $24K

ATTN: Bonus food truck photos included, because a food truck is always awesome

by A Practical Wedding
We had planned our wedding to take place in the late afternoon so everyone could bring their young children and travel back home if they had a semi long distance to drive. We were a little surprised when most of our family had left by 8:30-- but we were still surrounded by our close friends and family who love to dance. We were finally able to let loose, turn up the music, and play early 00’s hip hop jams we wouldn’t have played earlier... read more