June 14, 2016

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My Broken Engagement Saved Me

An attempt to explain what went wrong

by Amanda Balgaard
When there’s a beautiful sparkly rock on your finger and everyone is cooing over your new status as a fiancée, it’s very easy to stifle the small but insistent doubts that keep whispering in your ear. After all, you’ve been “chosen” by someone. You’re welcomed into this strange club where everyone smiles at you and thrills in the happiness they assume you’re feeling, and it can be easy to get swept up in that current. When I became engaged, my brain kept assuring me this was what I wanted, but my body was crying... read more

10 Stunning Bridesmaid Dresses You’ll Want to Wear Again

Plus maternity and flower girl dresses

by A Practical Wedding
Bridesmaid dress shopping is notoriously not fun, even for those among us who usually love an excuse to go shopping. There’s nothing like facing down a Pinterest board with hundreds of pins from dozens of stores and designers in twenty-five different shades of eggplant to kill the joy of the search. Enter longtime APW sponsor Joielle. If you have a bridesmaid dress problem (and you probably do), they have a solution. Let’s review! Lela Rose LR206 ($228) Alfred Sung D722FP ($198) THE Problem: Seeking out legitimately stylish bridesmaid... read more

June 13, 2016


A Muslim-Raised Queer Responds to the Orlando Shooting

Plus an open thread and group hug

by Najva Sol
The largest American mass shooting of the last century happened in the early hours of Sunday morning in Orlando, Florida, at a gay club celebrating a Latinx dance night featuring transwomen performers. This happened during Pride Month, and Ramadan. The same day, another armed shooter was caught on the way to LA Pride. You probably know this. Or at least, most of this. I’ve been in Bali, glued to my computer since the story broke. Far away from all the candlelight vigils and blood bank donation lines, all I’ve had is the Internet to keep... read more
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7 Wedding Website Etiquette Rules That You Need to Know

Help your guests help you

by Maddie Eisenhart
What did we ever do without wedding websites? That’s a serious question from your friendly neighborhood invitation misplacer. Did we just spend boatloads on invitation enclosures? Or hope that our parents/spouses/friends knew where the couple was registered? In any case, I’m glad we have them now, because there’s a ninety-nine percent chance I’ll be the person looking up the ceremony location while driving to the ceremony, five minutes late. But wedding websites are relatively new in the scheme of things. Heck, the aunties don&#... read more
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The Best Wedding Ideas Right Now from Instagram

When your mermaid of honor helps you get #marriedaf

by Najva Sol
Who made a “timeless wedding” the only goal? There’s something wonderful about seeing an ’80s wedding photo (or hell, an 1880s wedding photo) and getting a window into a frozen moment of wedding history. Plus, #realtalk, things change, and how long till emoji cakes are considered the new classic? So in honor of trying something that’s very right now, here are some of my favorite wedding ideas from the last few months of hanging out on Instagram. Because there's a cake that includes the BEST PART OF CEREAL. 😍🎉🍰... read more

June 10, 2016

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APW Happy Hour


by Stephanie Kaloi
Hey apw, Stephanie here, and I’m super pumped that my inaugural Happy Hour is happening the week that the United States officially nominated a woman to head a major party ticket (complete with an Obama endorsement). I was That Person who was sitting up until 1 a.m. Tuesday night/Wednesday morning, staring at the numbers coming out of primaries and still having a happy cry about Hillary’s hell-yes-I’m-the-nominee speech. After all, you guys probably have an idea as to how I feel about Lady H, right? We feel like this week is also an... read more
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We Made Our $10K, 120 Guest Modern Navajo Wedding Our Own

These moccasins were made for walking (down the aisle)

by A Practical Wedding
Some people asked us why we didn't have a true Navajo wedding, and the truth was I had already been married in that way. In Navajo tradition, you cannot marry twice out of the Navajo wedding basket, so we had to get creative. I love my heritage but also respect the laws of it, and I wanted to marry in a way that was respectful but also reflected both our faith and culture... read more

June 9, 2016


Can I Stop My Sister-in-Law from Wearing White to My Wedding?

AAPW: She's wearing a white floor-length ballgown. Whyyy?

by Liz Moorhead
Q:My soon to be sister-in-law and I have always had a rough go of it. She is extremely close to my fiancé, and she made it very clear to me when we told her that we were planning on engagement that she was not a fan. Since that point, our relationship has been strained and tense, but we both try to put on a good show when we are around both my fiancé and their family, and have an unspoken agreement that we won’t bother each other or rock the boat. Now that we are about ten months into a [&hellip... read more

The Dos and Don’ts of a Best Man Speech

Please do not discuss sex or drinking. Please.

by Stephanie Kaloi
Even though I’ve gone to tons of weddings as a wedding photographer, toasts are still one of my favorite parts of the wedding. Hush, I’m serious: I get immediately emotional when a close friend or family member steps up to say nice things about the people getting married. Well, I do when the speech is good—but that doesn’t mean they all are. So today we’re going to address the dos and don’ts of the best man speech, which has it’s own particular way of sometimes going… off the rails. Way off the rails, if the... read more

June 8, 2016

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What You Can Do to Improve Your Sexless Marriage

Spoiler: Porn doesn't help, like, at all

by Anonymous
When I married my husband, we were five years in. I was only twenty-three, but our sex life was pretty absent. We had sex once a month, maybe, and it was all, always, on my terms. If he made a move, or even tried to be intimate, I froze. I didn’t think too much about it. He wasn’t the guy to push things, and I sort of just assumed it was normal. Men always wanted to do It and women were just less sexual, right? When I met my now-wife, we ran hot, like any new couple. I discovered a [&hellip... read more

June 7, 2016

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How To Tell People Your Uterus Is None Of Their Business

AAPW: Seriously though. How do I get them to stop?

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I find it extremely annoying when people ask when we plan on having kids. Firstly because that’s a very personal question. Secondly because when we say we don’t want kids, people get all defensive and start telling us that we’ll change our minds. As if they know us better than we know ourselves. We’re getting married this fall and kids seem to be the first thing everyone asks about when they find that out. Dealing with that topic recently got more complicated, frustrating, and depressing. Just after I turned twenty-two a... read more
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Work One-on-One with This Artisan to Create Your Dream Wedding Band

Working with Kendra Renee Jewelry feels like working with a friend

by Keriann Kohler
 Most of us do not enter into the planning process with much, if any, knowledge about, you know, how to throw a wedding. But many of us do have a sense of what our personal style is when it comes to jewelry. It’s figuring out how to find or design jewelry that we want to wear for the rest of our lives that can feel completely overwhelming… sometimes in a “teetering on the edge of financial oblivion/oh my god is this crap and am I getting ripped off” kind of way. This is why featuring vendors with top-notch customer service is a... read more

June 6, 2016


Want to Print Your Own Wedding Invitations? Here’s What You Need to Know

With a little research, your home printer can be your best friend

by Meg Keene
So you want to make your own wedding invitations. Fantastic! This makes perfect sense. Because back when I got married, we wanted the feel of custom invites without the budget for custom invites. So we improvised. It involved a bit of a struggle with our home printer (there was no solid information online on best practices those days). But after some trial and error, we got good results. So to save you from jammed printer trays and bleeding ink, the folks at LD Products rounded up all the information you need on how to make-your-own-wedding-... read more

What Counts as Cheating in Your Relationship?

And what do you do if that line gets crossed?

by Najva Sol
Maybe you glance at your partner’s phone and see an intimate text from a strange number. Maybe you see a tagged photo at an event… that happened while they were supposed to be at work. Maybe you just feel it in your bones. Maybe they come clean and tell you they slipped up. For many of us, the moment you realize you’ve been cheated on is the worst. Nobody ever expects it, even though it’s a relatively common occurrence. You start to wonder if everything else is a lie, if your sexual health has been compromised, if your... read more
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