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APW Happy Hour

The Jareesa edition!

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
Hey APW, It’s your favorite intern, Jareesa, here! This week I’ve been behind the scenes working on a few things—brainstorming my next APW piece, knitting, and trying to not let my allergies kill me. It’s the last few weeks of summer, which is always bittersweet to me. I love summer (I think my July birthday has something to do with it) and summers in Minnesota do not disappoint. The end of summer in Minnesota means one thing: the Minnesota State Fair! I’m a huge State Fair fan (it’s called the Great Minnesota Get-... read more

We Crowdsourced Wedding Photos to Save Money and It Was Absolutely Worth It

Crowdsourcing and camera cake toppers for the win

by A Practical Wedding
Hester, teacher & Iain, product manager Sum-up of the wedding vibe: There was a rainstorm and no plan B, but everyone pitched in to make it happen with lots of love. Planned budget: $5,000 Actual budget: $3,800 Number of guests: 70 Where we allocated the most funds: Champagne at the wedding reception (bought wholesale by the crate), as well as the free flow at a little bar owned by someone we know where we had wedding drinks and the after-wedding gathering. This was more than a third of our budget. Where we allocated the least funds: Our wedding... read more

A couple of days ago

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We Don’t Have to Invite ALL of Our Guests to the Reception, Right?

We love them, we just want an intimate dinner

by Liz Moorhead
Q: I’m a serious planner (stage management is part of my professional life) and my current job gives me a lot of downtime to dream things up. My pie-in-the-sky dream wedding looks something like this: church ceremony, small(ish) dinner with close family and friends, followed by drinks/dessert and giant dance party with everyone we know. Is there a way to make that happen that won’t make people feel left out? Can I invite people only to the ceremony and reception? Are we obligated to entertain guests straight through from ceremony on? I don&#... read more

Here Is a Photographer Who Will Travel Anywhere in Canada—for Free

Ben Kane brings epic photojournalism from Toronto to Vancouver and everywhere in between

by Stephanie Kaloi
Get excited, Canada, because Ben Kane Photography is back. Okay, I know, unless you’re a super-fan of wedding photographers, you’re probably like, “Ben who? Where’d he go?” Allow me to explain. We are all huge fans of longtime APW sponsor Ben Kane, and for good reason: His aesthetic is so awesome, Maddie coined the phrase “epic photojournalism” for it; he is committed to shooting all kinds of people having all kinds of weddings; and he manages to simultaneously capture both heartfelt emotion and epic beauty... read more

August 24, 2016


I’m Pregnant (and I Never Wanted to Be a Mom)

Going from #nokids to #yeskids is a trip

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
As I write this, I’m halfway through my first pregnancy. In fact, my baby person is moving around right now and it’s giving me great joy. Pretty much everything in my pregnancy has given me some joy, maybe because I never thought I’d experience any parts of pregnancy. Until very recently, I was the woman who was Team (Probably) No Kids. #NoKids, Please I can’t tell you the moment when I realized I wasn’t interested in having children. I do remember playing with my dolls, but my dolls were my friends—not my pretend babies. I also remember... read more
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The Two Tools That Will Make Your DIY Wedding Hair Easy

Or hell, your day-to-day hair

by Meg Keene
If you’re getting married and thinking about DIYing your own hair for the wedding (and by DIYing, I mean probably having a friend help you with your hair), you already know the absurd pressure that your friends and family—and the Internet—will put on you to OMG JUST GET A PROFESSIONAL TO DO IT GOD YOU COULD MESS THE WHOLE THING UP. I know this pressure all too well, because when I got married, I told everyone to go to hell and had my friend Rachel help me with my hair and makeup. This is particularly amazing, given just how unruly [&hellip... read more

August 23, 2016

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What Happens When a Woman “Marries Down”

We'll make it, I swear

by Rachel Gabrys
When I tell someone I don’t know well that I’m engaged, the first question they ask is, “What’s his name?” and then inevitably, “What does he do?” When I answer that he works in the warehouse of a big-box electronics store, they usually ask, “Oh, is he in school?” My doctor, my professors, that chick who sat next to me in the class I can’t remember—none of them seem satisfied to hear that he works in a job that is neither meaningful nor pays well. My Mother, The Accidental Breadwinner I grew up in a household where my mother was... read more
The Barn at Crane Estate wedding of Caitlyn and Chad.

You Hire This Photographer When You Want Intention in Every Photo

You'll love her so much (and she'll love you right back)

by Stephanie Kaloi
When it comes to finding a wedding photographer, you might be looking for someone you can send a contract and deposit to and then not chat with for eight months, or you might be looking for someone who is all in with you from the beginning—answering questions, inviting you to coffee, getting to know you and your wedding plans, and so on. If the latter is your dream, then allow me to introduce you to New England’s Kelly Benvenuto Photography, a longtime APW sponsor who is all about her people (and with rates starting at $3,490, you should... read more

August 22, 2016


Do You Still Talk About Sex with Your Friends?

Married sex is hard to... discuss?

by Meg Keene
There are some things I knew I’d miss when I grew up and got married (which was always somewhere in my hazy future plans). I knew I’d miss sleeping alone, spread-eagle on a queen-size bed (check). I knew I’d miss having my own room (check). I knew I’d miss nights out with my friends whenever I felt like it (check). But it turns out there were a few things I didn’t see coming about my particular brand of adult life. I didn’t realize just how much I’d miss the lazy weekend mimosa brunch after we had kids. (... read more
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Bachelorette Party 101: How to Schedule, Plan, and Win It

Etiquette? Check. A timeline? Yep. Ideas for parties? You know we've got you

by Stephanie Kaloi
The inception of the bachelor party is weirdly credited to the Spartans. Who knew? Bachelorette parties, however, came into vogue in the US in the 1960s, aka the time when women were like, “You know all this dude stuff? We’re over it.” Well, kind of. The idea of having “one last night of being single” is both reviled and celebrated, but in general it seems the modern bachelorette/bachelor parties are just an excuse for a group of friends to get together, drink (or not), and indulge in mostly well-behaved shenanigans…... read more

August 19, 2016


APW Happy Hour

For when APW Happy Hour needs to be a literal experience

by Stephanie Kaloi
Hey APW, GIRL, whatta week. I mean, let me just give you this Olympics-related video treat and you can head on in to your Happy Hour, because I know I’m about to be looking for a happy hour experience of my own. Until next Friday, fam. XO, Stephanie Link Roundup Why don’t we just make gender-swapped versions of every single movie ever made? I’m down. “4 Reasons You’re Not Helping Racism by Refusing to Talk About It” When women were told they couldn’t be part of the Olympics, they held the Women’s World Games. Slay... read more
Megan and Andy's Tierra Retreat Center wedding in Leavenworth, Washington. Photos by Atlas & Elia Photography

Ever Wonder What Happens When the Florist’s Daughter Gets Married?

This wedding is lush af

by A Practical Wedding
Prioritize a few things you really want during your day and then let the other pieces fall into place. If you’re flexible on how the little details will look, tap your friends and family—sure, there is a chance it could turn out different than you originally pictured, but in my case, our day was a million times more gorgeous and special than I ever would have thought possible... read more

August 18, 2016


My Fiancé Won’t Marry Me If My Parents Come to the Wedding

And he's serious

by Liz Moorhead
Q: To my excitement, my boyfriend came to me and said he’s feeling ready to get married. We have decided we both want the wedding to be a small one, with a dinner party vibe. However, when it comes to the guest list, that’s where we have a big dispute. See, my boyfriend has said that having my parents at the wedding would be a dealbreaker for him. He says he enjoys spending time with my parents when we go out to dinner with them, but long periods of time (during the holidays) feel like torture to him—not because of anything about [&hellip... read more

Get Excited: Your Ceremony Music Problems Just Got Solved

Three cheers for supporting women who slay!

by Stephanie Kaloi
Planning a modern, intentional wedding ceremony generally involves navigating where and when to go traditional versus personal—whether that’s figuring out how to add individuality to a formal ballroom wedding, or how to make sure your backyard BBQ feels as momentous as the commitment you’re making to each other—and choosing ceremony music is one way to solve this (timeless) problem. Music can communicate so much—your feelings for your partner, your memories with family and friends—and your choice of music can say, “This is... read more

August 17, 2016


4 Things I Desperately Want to Tell My Newly Engaged Friends

Ditch that theme, girl

by Maddie Eisenhart
Two months ago, my best friend got engaged. Then, a week later, my other best friend got engaged. And not a week after that, my other other best friend got engaged. So basically, this is me right now: But as half my friend group is now actively planning 2017 weddings, I’m suddenly reminded of how quickly wedding planning can turn a sane person inside out. So far I’ve fielded every question from “How do we tell our dads we don’t want anyone giving us away at our modern feminist queer wedding?” to “How do you create... read more
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This Is the Feminist Career Advice I Wish I’d Gotten When I Was 25

What I wish I had known back when I started

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
Ten years ago, I was preparing to transition from graduate student to full-time employee. Throughout my years in school, I did the typical things students do to prepare for their future careers—I completed internships, participated in mock interviews, and attended career fairs. Yet internships, a work-study job in a student office on campus, and a summer working as a temp admin still didn’t fully prepare me for life as a full-time employee in a large corporation. Navigating career stuff can be hard for anyone, but sexism and biases can make it... read more

August 16, 2016


The Fight That Made Me Question Everything About My Marriage

When all you can hope is that the dark brings you to the light

We were just a few months into our marriage, and I found myself curled up in bed with tears trickling down my face, thinking, “I want to go home.” But then I realized I was home. In our home—the one my husband and I bought together with bright smiles, excitement, and all the hope our young bodies could contain. Are We A Mistake? Even though I was only twenty-four when we got married, I wasn’t naive to the idea that marriage would be difficult—after all, most of the people in my life told me this journey would be challenging at times. I had... read more
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