If you look back at the weddings you’ve attended, what you generally remember is not the centerpieces, or the flowers, or even the dress. Chances are, what you remember is the emotion. The maid of honor who started crying during her reading, that bride who just couldn’t stop grinning as she said her vows. Two people, who seem so perfect for each other, making huge promises- that’s what the wedding ceremony is about. We’ve got all the resources you’ll need to craft your own ceremony.
GETTING STARTED ON YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY
Most of wedding media focuses on the pretty details, and the things you can spend piles of money on. But the actual wedding isn’t the first dance, or the cute photobooth, or even the emotional first dance. The wedding itself is the ceremony, and the ceremony is the part that is often forgotten till the very last minute. But a great wedding service? Well aside from the fact that it’s free, it also sets the tone for everything else that follows on the day. If your wedding ceremony is an honest reflection of your feelings for each other, everyone will be so high on happiness, that they’ll fail to notice if you even bothered with centerpieces at all. In short, a great ceremony is the ultimate wedding hack.
Whether you’re writing a wedding ceremony months in advance or at the very last minute, these resources will help you create something that makes you feel at home. They’ll help you make a religious service your own, build a wedding service from scratch, write your vows, find traditional vows that are right for you, or just pick readings. Because when you look back, it turns out that what you said when you promised to build a life together often matters more than the color of the bridesmaid dresses.
START WRITING YOUR CEREMONY
The first step in constructing your wedding ceremony is to pick a basic structure, which you’ll then fill in with readings, text, vows, and maybe even music (or dancing, or puppets!). Think of this structure as your outline, the framework that you’ll fill in with the good stuff. The basic western wedding service is constructed out of a handful of building blocks (at least one of which is usually legally required). This article on creating a wedding ceremony outlines those building blocks, while suggesting you pick an overall tone for your ceremony. For those of you who are working to create a secular ceremony, here are some thoughts on trying to steer clear of religious traditions, as well as a roundup of resources for creating a secular service.