August 24, 2016

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The Two Tools That Will Make Your DIY Wedding Hair Easy

Or hell, your day-to-day hair

by Meg Keene
If you’re getting married and thinking about DIYing your own hair for the wedding (and by DIYing, I mean probably having a friend help you with your hair), you already know the absurd pressure that your friends and family—and the Internet—will put on you to OMG JUST GET A PROFESSIONAL TO DO IT GOD YOU COULD MESS THE WHOLE THING UP. I know this pressure all too well, because when I got married, I told everyone to go to hell and had my friend Rachel help me with my hair and makeup. This is particularly amazing, given just how unruly [&hellip... read more


woman sitting in a pile of balloons

What Happens When a Woman “Marries Down”

We'll make it, I swear

by Rachel Gabrys
When I tell someone I don’t know well that I’m engaged, the first question they ask is, “What’s his name?” and then inevitably, “What does he do?” When I answer that he works in the warehouse of a big-box electronics store, they usually ask, “Oh, is he in school?” My doctor, my professors, that chick who sat next to me in the class I can’t remember—none of them seem satisfied to hear that he works in a job that is neither meaningful nor pays well. My Mother, The Accidental Breadwinner I grew up in a household where my mother was... read more
The Barn at Crane Estate wedding of Caitlyn and Chad.

You Hire This Photographer When You Want Intention in Every Photo

You'll love her so much (and she'll love you right back)

by Stephanie Kaloi
When it comes to finding a wedding photographer, you might be looking for someone you can send a contract and deposit to and then not chat with for eight months, or you might be looking for someone who is all in with you from the beginning—answering questions, inviting you to coffee, getting to know you and your wedding plans, and so on. If the latter is your dream, then allow me to introduce you to New England’s Kelly Benvenuto Photography, a longtime APW sponsor who is all about her people (and with rates starting at $3,490, you should... read more

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Do You Still Talk About Sex with Your Friends?

Married sex is hard to... discuss?

by Meg Keene
There are some things I knew I’d miss when I grew up and got married (which was always somewhere in my hazy future plans). I knew I’d miss sleeping alone, spread-eagle on a queen-size bed (check). I knew I’d miss having my own room (check). I knew I’d miss nights out with my friends whenever I felt like it (check). But it turns out there were a few things I didn’t see coming about my particular brand of adult life. I didn’t realize just how much I’d miss the lazy weekend mimosa brunch after we had kids. (... read more
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Bachelorette Party 101: How to Schedule, Plan, and Win It

Etiquette? Check. A timeline? Yep. Ideas for parties? You know we've got you

by Stephanie Kaloi
The inception of the bachelor party is weirdly credited to the Spartans. Who knew? Bachelorette parties, however, came into vogue in the US in the 1960s, aka the time when women were like, “You know all this dude stuff? We’re over it.” Well, kind of. The idea of having “one last night of being single” is both reviled and celebrated, but in general it seems the modern bachelorette/bachelor parties are just an excuse for a group of friends to get together, drink (or not), and indulge in mostly well-behaved shenanigans…... read more

August 19, 2016


APW Happy Hour

For when APW Happy Hour needs to be a literal experience

by Stephanie Kaloi
Hey APW, GIRL, whatta week. I mean, let me just give you this Olympics-related video treat and you can head on in to your Happy Hour, because I know I’m about to be looking for a happy hour experience of my own. Until next Friday, fam. XO, Stephanie Link Roundup Why don’t we just make gender-swapped versions of every single movie ever made? I’m down. “4 Reasons You’re Not Helping Racism by Refusing to Talk About It” When women were told they couldn’t be part of the Olympics, they held the Women’s World Games. Slay... read more
Megan and Andy's Tierra Retreat Center wedding in Leavenworth, Washington. Photos by Atlas & Elia Photography

Ever Wonder What Happens When the Florist’s Daughter Gets Married?

This wedding is lush af

by A Practical Wedding
Prioritize a few things you really want during your day and then let the other pieces fall into place. If you’re flexible on how the little details will look, tap your friends and family—sure, there is a chance it could turn out different than you originally pictured, but in my case, our day was a million times more gorgeous and special than I ever would have thought possible... read more

August 18, 2016


My Fiancé Won’t Marry Me If My Parents Come to the Wedding

And he's serious

by Liz Moorhead
Q: To my excitement, my boyfriend came to me and said he’s feeling ready to get married. We have decided we both want the wedding to be a small one, with a dinner party vibe. However, when it comes to the guest list, that’s where we have a big dispute. See, my boyfriend has said that having my parents at the wedding would be a dealbreaker for him. He says he enjoys spending time with my parents when we go out to dinner with them, but long periods of time (during the holidays) feel like torture to him—not because of anything about [&hellip... read more

Get Excited: Your Ceremony Music Problems Just Got Solved

Three cheers for supporting women who slay!

by Stephanie Kaloi
Planning a modern, intentional wedding ceremony generally involves navigating where and when to go traditional versus personal—whether that’s figuring out how to add individuality to a formal ballroom wedding, or how to make sure your backyard BBQ feels as momentous as the commitment you’re making to each other—and choosing ceremony music is one way to solve this (timeless) problem. Music can communicate so much—your feelings for your partner, your memories with family and friends—and your choice of music can say, “This is... read more

August 17, 2016


4 Things I Desperately Want to Tell My Newly Engaged Friends

Ditch that theme, girl

by Maddie Eisenhart
Two months ago, my best friend got engaged. Then, a week later, my other best friend got engaged. And not a week after that, my other other best friend got engaged. So basically, this is me right now: But as half my friend group is now actively planning 2017 weddings, I’m suddenly reminded of how quickly wedding planning can turn a sane person inside out. So far I’ve fielded every question from “How do we tell our dads we don’t want anyone giving us away at our modern feminist queer wedding?” to “How do you create... read more
woman working on computer

This Is the Feminist Career Advice I Wish I’d Gotten When I Was 25

What I wish I had known back when I started

by Jareesa Tucker McClure
Ten years ago, I was preparing to transition from graduate student to full-time employee. Throughout my years in school, I did the typical things students do to prepare for their future careers—I completed internships, participated in mock interviews, and attended career fairs. Yet internships, a work-study job in a student office on campus, and a summer working as a temp admin still didn’t fully prepare me for life as a full-time employee in a large corporation. Navigating career stuff can be hard for anyone, but sexism and biases can make it... read more

August 16, 2016


The Fight That Made Me Question Everything About My Marriage

When all you can hope is that the dark brings you to the light

We were just a few months into our marriage, and I found myself curled up in bed with tears trickling down my face, thinking, “I want to go home.” But then I realized I was home. In our home—the one my husband and I bought together with bright smiles, excitement, and all the hope our young bodies could contain. Are We A Mistake? Even though I was only twenty-four when we got married, I wasn’t naive to the idea that marriage would be difficult—after all, most of the people in my life told me this journey would be challenging at times. I had... read more
bride and groom in front of wall

Who You Hire If You Want a Personalized Destination Wedding in Hawaii

All the ease of a destination wedding with none of the compromise

by Keriann Kohler
I always wanted a destination wedding. In fact, we came this close to having a destination wedding. We were going to go somewhere warm with only our closest people, and it was going to celebrate our love of travel and nature, all while being stress-free and totally removed from the wedding traditions and expectations of my hometown. And then, as it turned out, one compromise I couldn’t make was giving up our aesthetic and creativity to pick generic “Flower Package A” and “Cake Package B” from a resort. Easy, yes. But us... read more

August 15, 2016

boat docked in the ocean

What’s Happening with Honeymoons Right Now?

What are your plans?

by Stephanie Kaloi
I‘m coming up on my tenth wedding anniversary in a few months… so suffice it to say, it’s been a hot minute since I’ve even paused to think about honeymoons. In general, I love the idea: I’m all in for travel, and have always found that road-tripping two states (or counties!) over is just as exciting as visiting a foreign country. I think travel with your partner will only do wonderful things for your relationship, and also, a trip without your family after the (sometimes stressful-ass) wedding is just a really good thing.... read more
woman with curly hairstyle

33 Modern Curly Hairstyles That Will Slay on Your Wedding Day

Updos and down-dos that work WITH your natural texture, not against it

by Maddie Eisenhart
If you've ever looked for curly hairstyles online, you may have noticed something funny: curly wedding hairstyles, it would seem, are not actually for girls with curly hair. Almost all of them are straight hairstyles in disguise. Which is why for so many naturally curly-haired girls, formal hairstyles can be a nightmare. First there's the "let's just pile it all on top of your head and call it an updo" technique. Then there's the "let's blow-dry your hair straight only to re-curl it" routine that leaves you praying to God no moisture comes within a ten-... read more

August 12, 2016

APW Happy Hour


by Stephanie Kaloi
NBC has more or less royally fucked up coverage this go-around (I've been streaming it online with my sister's cable login, so prime time hasn't been a concern), but I think we can all agree that the network (or the IOC) did *one* thing right: scheduling gymnastics right at the very beginning. Because seriously, they know why we're watching. Yes, I love diving and swimming and track and field (also curling? Because it's nuts) and maybe weight-lifting (though truth: I'm only interested because Kendrick Farris is vegan and I think that's hardcore!)... but... read more
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