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The last time we talked about Zachary Hunt Photography (serving Austin, TX, the surrounding Texas areas, and beyond with super affordable rates), Zach was celebrating shooting his first ever APW reader wedding. And while that seemed un-toppable (I mean, the bride was throwing an uncooked chicken around the grocery store), man, did he show us. The excellent Zach (who I'm super excited to meet in Austin because he's one of those people who's both such a talented artist and the kind of chill guy you want to get a beer with) has spent a year shooting APW weddings, and what an awesome year it's been.

The great thing about Zach is that he just doesn't see things the way other people see things. I've talked before about how his photography has this feeling of belonging in an art book, but in a phenomenally alive way. He's capturing these moments in a way that no one else would (which is my definition of a real artist), but he has the rare ability to also fully capture you, your partner, your personalities, and the day as it unfolds. (And still get all the necessary wedding shots. No sacrificing function for art here.)

The two APW weddings that we featured from Zachary Hunt Photography's treasure trove this year were each so different and so well captured (and trust me, I know. I went through the full galleries for both these weddings, and it was hard not to pick every picture to share with you). There was Jennah and Gary's wedding that was full of the couple making hilarious faces. This was hands down the funniest wedding I've ever edited for the site (and you know I love that). And then there was Irene and Bob's unbelievably cool Austin bike wedding, which had a totally different vibe that Zach captured just as well. And that, is what true talent looks like, kids.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg. This year, Zachary Hunt Photography  has been shooting APW weddings all year, and if you ask me, each one is more gorgeous than the last. Zach says, "I am proud of all of the APW weddings that I have photographed this past year because many of them were so full of joy. I couldn't be happier with the couples I worked with who found me through APW."

And why wouldn't he be over the moon thrilled, given your weddings that he's gotten to shoot? I mean, every single one of them is a wedding I wish I could have been at. He says, "There was an APW Jewish/Marine wedding which was a perfect blend of traditional and nontraditional elements. I had never photographed so many crying people before. (The bride is a huge APW reader by the way.) There was an Austin musician's wedding that I loved. There was a moment in which the bride and groom sang in unison with a backing band. Also, there was a lovely portrait of the bride and groom with their cat, Meatwad. She found me through APW as well." (Editors note: Meatwad is one of our only cat readers! Hee.)

In the end, one of the (many, if we're being honest) great things about Zach, is that he just loves people who are passionate about things (bikes! tossing chickens! singing! getting married!) and he wants to be there documenting it for you. Here is one of my favorite of his stories: "I asked a couple (who found me through APW) about their interests and hobbies during an engagement session. They told me they performed in a drag king troupe called Kings N Things. Then they asked if I could photograph one of their upcoming performances. I, of course, said yes! Photographing the event was an awesome experience. I loved hanging out with the couple, seeing them perform, and documenting such amazing people doing what they love and are passionate about. I'm photographing another Kings N Things performance next month that I can't wait to share on my blog." I mean, RIGHT? (The pictures are incredible, by the way.)

In closing, Zach says, "Basically, I'm so grateful to the APW community for existing and all of the APW couples for trusting me. I had such a memorable year, and I can't wait to meet and photograph my next APW couple."

And I'm pretty grateful for Zachary Hunt Photography . He's such a kind and awesome guy. His rates are crazy affordable. He's so talented I can't even wrap my head around it. And he wants to work with APW-ers in particular. I mean, how much better can it get? So Texas, and beyond, you're in so much luck. Go browse, and then drop Zach a line. I'm frankly envious of how much fun you're going to have together.

APW Book Tour: Boston

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First! It's Friday, but this is not Ask Team Practical. The thing is, Alyssa has some rather big news these days (Congratulations Alyssa!!!) which means she's getting the next two weeks off from Ask Team Practical to take a nap. Ok, I can't actually prove to you that she's napping during her newfound time off, but I certainly hope she is. So, that means instead of getting wedding advice on the next two Fridays, you're going to get me telling you about the book tour events, during which I'm totally giving out wedding advice (see how it all ties in??). This is good for several reasons: A) Alyssa gets to nap, B) I get to tell you about life on the road, which makes me feel like I'm carrying all of you in my pocket, C) Pretty pictures. And yes, regular wedding related content (and lots of it) will totally be back Monday. But, the book tour is going to be over soon (I'm already at the halfway point, if you can believe it) and I want to record this moment before it passes.

First, before I even dive into Boston (wonderful, wonderful Boston), I thought I'd catch you up on life on the road, and what I've learned. Maybe it will help you for your upcoming adventures, even if they happen in the comfort of your own home. Because bravery and adventure is, well, bravery and adventure. So, now, in no particular order the news:

  • You will miss your husband (but it will be worth it). David is coming into New York tonight, and I've never been more excited to see him.
  • You will miss your teddy bear. Sigh. (Shut up.)
  • You will need more sleep than you normally do. I don't know why travel and unfamiliar places are tiring. But they are. And you will. So take care of yourself.
  • Which brings me to: take care of yourself. It's pretty much your number one priority because you can't do the other stuff if you're a mess of falling apart.
  • Drink a lot of water, not a lot of drinks. I know. It sounds like a bummer, drinking less. But you cannot wake up hungover every other day because people in every city want to toast you (god bless 'em). Conserve your strength. Because you will need it for things like….

BOSTON. Boston hit me like a sledge hammer in the best possible way. First of all, I stayed with Lauren of Suburbalicious, and yes. You should totally be jealous.  I got to stay in their attic, which I was super into. (Why don't I have an attic?) Plus, her husband cooked for us, and she has a truly impressive booze collection.

The first morning I woke up terrified because I had my first ever radio interview. It was The Emily Rooney Show, and you can listen to me chatting about how to make your centerpieces really memorable (have them accidentally light on fire), and wedding inflation. I went on after two political reporters, which of course just annoyed me because I wanted to talk about Mitt Romney! I have Things To Say! And then I realized that in the hilarious alternate universe that is NPR (a universe I totally live in, by the way) I am the fluffy programming. Me, talking about feminism, breaking out of the cultural narrative, and constructing egalitarian life transitions, I'm the "light" one. HA! Also, when the producer for The Emily Rooney Show walked in, I immediately knew why I'd been booked. I mean, I could tell she was APW people/my people from a mile away. Her name is Frannie, and I love her. We spent twenty minutes chatting after the show, and that might or might not have been one of the most fun parts (I couldn't say…).

And that wasn't it when it came to media. No! The next day, I woke up and did some Local Access Television (rad) where the host was super nice and let me talk about whatever I felt like. And then, off to…

Talk of The Nation, on NPR. I don't want to be all dramatic and tell you that being on NPR was the pinnacle of my professional life to date, but it TOTALLY was. I don't even know what to say about the experience other than, they put me in a tiny one-person radio booth (I was glad I'd gotten to practice my interviews over the last few days and whittle down my stories) and then suddenly I was on air. Getting the APW message out was fun, but the call-in stories were possibly even more awesome. There was the woman who got married in her teens in a Justice of the Peace mobile home (her kids love the pictures), the woman who had a potluck hoedown for $500 (she doesn't regret a thing), and the woman who got married with her closest friends on a dude ranch (she remembers every second of it). NPR listeners really are the best people.

And then, my friends, there was the event at Porter Square Books. I'm still totally overwhelmed by it. In short: about 140 people showed up (and the super kind staff looked like they'd been hit by a truck), they sold out of books before I even started talking, and there was a line out the door for signing for 45 minutes. It was… crazy, amazing, wonderful, overwhelming… all of it.



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When we were driving over to the bookstore, I was chatting with Lauren and her husband about working outside of the artistic medium that I was trained in. I commented that, since I was trained as an actor, writing just felt like something I did and I didn't self-identify as a writer (which can be a great thing, since my ego doesn't get in the way of the work in the same way that it used to). So then I went to the reading and signed books for an hour straight, which totally blew my mind. And when I got back, Lauren's husband said, "Do you feel a little more like a writer now?" and the funny thing was, I totally did.

So thank you Boston. For making me feel like a writer, for asking the smartest, funniest, and most feminist questions, and for letting me take off my shoes and use the word vagina a lot.

Photos by: Calin Peters Photography, Emily Sterne Photography, and Kelly Benvenuto Photography (all awesome ladies!) roll over the pictures for the photographers name.

If you found your way to APW through NPR's Talk of the Nation, welcome. You've found the website about wedding planning and marriage where every single (American) reader is also an NPR listener. (I'm pretty sure that's factual, actually.)

A reader once said, "APW is like a secret club that cool/smart/sassy women should get a link to when they get engaged. It took me way too long to find this..." And here you are. Welcome.

Photo of me & the book: One Love Photo

PS. You can listen to my interview on Talk of the Nation here.

BOSTON! Holy Moly, Boston, you were incredible (and yes, pictures and more coming tomorrow). But now, I'm on Amtrak (God bless them) on the commuter train (yeah Acela!) to New York. And I'm having champagne. On the train. Because that's what you do when you just finished your first ever national NPR interview (listen to it here). I mean, talk about having something to celebrate! In Boston I had two NPR interviews, my first TV interview, a completely packed book event where the books sold out before I started speaking, and a national interview on Talk of the Nation. Rather clearly, I need a nap. Which I get, courtesy of Amtrak's relaxing hum and riding in first class (Amtrak, I love you), which means free ponies food and drink. I just ordered the short rib. What??

Seriously, I'm swimming in gratitude for all of you right now. And shortly, I'll be swimming in dreams. I'm typing this up for you fast because you and I both know that I'm going to fall right asleep in five seconds, which, really, is the whole joy of the train. Years ago, I used to take the plane from New York to Boston or New York to DC. I hated it. It was stressful, I had to run to the airport, run through security, run on the plane, take off, land, get a cab back to the city, blah. And then one day I added up the time it took, and realized that all in, flying took four hours out of my day, and I could have taken the train. During which I could have been asleep. Because that is How I Do on the commuter train.

So off I go, toasting, eating, and then sleeping. See you soon, New York City! I've missed you.

Pictures from Instagram, where I'm documenting the trip. Follow me on Twitter for more. I'll do a proper photo round up at some point, never fear.

**This post was made possible by Amtrak, who is sponsoring my book tour. Thank you Amtrak!**

Long time readers know about one of APW's pet projects: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Dress. This project started years ago when there were far fewer of us hanging around these parts, and it involved readers passing dresses, one to the other. It was one of my very favorite things in APW-land, but like all good things, it eventually needed to wind to a close. A few dresses were shared and loved, but far more often the idea of sharing a dress was more powerful than the difficult reality of sharing a dress, and tears were shed. So, to bring the series home, I'm honored to bring you Rachel and Jenn (whose new paper venture is over here), talking about the dress they shared, and loved. And just a warning. This one might not be safe for work. I cried when I least expected to...

Jenn: APW and The Sisterhood changed my life and shaped my wedding. And I stumbled across it by accident, after a small misunderstanding with my photographer.

I found my photographer (sponsor Jenn Link) on another wedding website. When I emailed to contact her, she thought I had said I found her on APW, and offered me the APW special price for that year. Because this was better than my wildest dreams, I decided to take a gander at this website she mentioned, so that I could honestly say I had seen her over there too... and the rest is history for me.

I read the whole archives that first weekend, and it was just like a cartoon lightbulb came on over my head. I think many people here feel the same way, but across the ocean in London, feeling alone and swamped by how much everything would cost (and yet could still look tacky) APW felt like a shining beacon cutting through the fog of WIC bullsh*t. I finally experienced the delicious freedom to let go of everything the WIC wanted to sell me, but I knew I didn’t need.

The first week after I started reading, Meg ran a post on venue chairs, and why it seemed to be one thing sensible women were still willing to spend money to upgrade, despite the obvious unimportance. When I left a comment about how much I hated my venue's pepto pink chairs, but didn't know my sensible side could bring myself to rent new ones, Liz left a comment telling me she was happy for me to borrow the chair covers she had bought for her wedding. And then a few weeks after that, Rachel's post arrived, giving away her dress.

I put myself forward after a long debate, with both myself and my friends/family. I wondered if I would regret not having the experience of "finding the one" with my mom, surrounded by loving bridesmaids, I wondered if I would regret that it was only about 50% like what I had envisioned wearing, I wondered if it was the right size, I wondered if it would even look good on me... there were a lot of doubts. But the buttons—they were just so beautiful! Rachel looked graceful and elegant wearing it, but not in a fussy way, which is how I wanted to be. And also, she partied hard in it, and it was still standing. So I decided to go for it—what was the worst that could happen?

A few months later when I moved back to DC from London, I met with Rachel (and also Sarah) for the hand-off. We had a few beers, got to know each other a tiny bit, and took some immortal Polaroids (with Rachel's actual Polaroid camera, not just an iPhone app) where I have my eyes closed. Once I got the dress home though...I put it on, with great difficulty, and knew I could not wear it in that form. It barely fit me—I felt like a little sausage in a casing, and could definitely not breathe. I really didn't like the bows on the front and back, as I felt like they didn't suit me, and I wondered if I would get to a point where I actually liked the dress, or could sit down while wearing it.

Continue reading Sisterhood of the Dress VI – Dress Worn!

*Jenn, Architect/Stationer & Brandon, Data Technician*

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Today's wedding graduate post encompasses a single, and hard to accept fact about our weddings: we can't control how we're going to feel, either during them, or after them. Maybe we'll show up and be swept away by radiant joy, maybe things will feel gritty and raw, maybe it will just be a fun party. But today Jenn, she of The Sisterhood of the Traveling Dress (who now has hot new stationery shop), talks about coming to terms with not adoring (but liking) her wedding after the fact. (And yeah, you know it, this afternoon she's talking about the dress.)Carnegie Institution for Science Wedding (13)

There have been a number of wedding graduates who have spoken before about not loving their weddings. This post is only half like that—I loved my wedding, and yet, here I am five months out, in post-wedding limbo. I'm somewhere between remembering my wedding with joy and fondness, and still caught up in planning and what might-have-been. I imagine there are a tons of recent brides out there like me, not certain how to feel about the day of the wedding.

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When I was planning, I was planning. A little intense, yes, but doing otherwise wouldn't have been very me. This is one thing I am at peace with about myself—making things, and then making them complicated appears to be a central tenet of my personality. I threw myself into wedding planning and DIY/DITing with intensity.

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I collected blue and white china vases at thrift stores so I could do my own flowers. When I couldn't find enough one weekend, I decided I would buy some porcelain paint and create my own. The vases were totally worth it—my relatives loved that they got a tangible, useful item to take home with them, and they love that I made a bunch of them myself.

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You may have read my post about making your own letterpress. I went on to make the rest of the paper goods for the wedding, and a guestbook/scrapbook collection of our old photos.

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I became obsessed with the idea of a photobooth wall that people could stick their faces through, and then I became even more obsessed with the problem of transporting it to and from my venue.

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My biggest DIY failure (notice I didn't say only failure) were these huge urns I had bought to be an altar backdrop. I painstakingly spray painted branches to stick into them like trees, then made little hanging votives for them and bought LED candles. I thought they would be so cool... except once inside the niches of my venue, they were so small as to be laughable. On any other day I think this would have really bothered me—on the day of the wedding, I giggled to myself, and moved on.

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I felt amazing on the day of the wedding. There was no one thunderbolt moment, but I was happy, and Brandon and I got married with as many of our nearest and dearest who could make it in attendance.

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Things progressed smoothly, if not flawlessly. Even though I had guests dropping out at the last minute and stage manager/sisterhood-member extraordinaire Rachel had to dash around changing place cards, no one got confused finding their seats. Even though the Reverend had messed something up every time we rehearsed the ceremony, on the day of when it mattered, he got it perfect.**

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Despite the fact that my caterer had been duped into buying some bad seafood and had to swap it out last minute for other things to put in the pasta, all the guests enjoyed the food. People were having trouble using the remote and camera I had set up for the photo-wall, but were taking it into their own hands and we got some great photos anyway. The dance floor wasn't packed, but that gave the rest of us more room to move.

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So when people asked me how the wedding was after I got back from the honeymoon, it was really upsetting to me to find that my typical response was, "I think it was ok." I had a great time, and I got married. To a man I love. Nothing went wrong. I spent the better part of a year and a half crafting every meticulous detail I could think of. And it all seemed to go beautifully. Why didn't I feel more positively about the wedding?

Continue reading Wedding Graduates: Jenn & Brandon