July 27, 2016


man and woman sitting on couch together

I Don’t Like Being Friends with an Ex, so Why Should I?

It seems like it's either a big deal or not one at all

by Stephanie Kaloi
I am one of those people who has always thought that being friends with an ex made sense—after all, you spent a lot of time getting to know that person and caring about them, and in my experience, those feelings don’t simply vanish at the end of the relationship. I’ve also been relatively lucky: I only have two exes that were on the awful side of things, and neither of those relationships lasted very long. I also got married pretty young (twenty-two), so the exes I do have weren’t incredibly serious relationships to begin with, which... read more

Looking for Fresh, Stylish Wedding Invitations You Can Customize?

Enter to win a custom digital portrait illustration

by Stephanie Kaloi
When we introduced the newly launched Bojack Studios back in March, we were super excited about it for a bunch of reasons—namely because this design studio offers stylish, unique, highly customizable invitations and other paper goods at very not custom prices. Illustrator/designer and founder Aaron Hotchkiss has been designing day-of goodies like menus, programs, and place cards for friends for years, but now everyone can get in on the action. expertise + versatility + flexibility = Bojack Studios Aaron understands that engaged couples have... read more

A couple of days ago

bride and groom standing together

Do You Think You’ll Ever Want to Have an Open Marriage?

No, no, no, nope. Maybe?

by Anonymous
Before I got married, I thought marriage was all about monogamy—two people committed to one another and, ta-da! That’s marriage. Right? I skipped through the first few years of my own marriage more or less laboring under this belief that everyone did it our way, right up until my partner and I found out that our close friends were in an open marriage. Record scratch. I mean, it’s not like we cared in any sort of judgmental way. But this wasn’t something we had a lot of familiarity with, and we were curious about it. And frankly, we... read more
wedding party standing together

The Best Wedding Speeches for When You Need Tears, Hugs, or LOLs

Can we talk about the cute kid in #5?

by Stephanie Kaloi
A few weeks ago when I wrote fourteen tips for slaying at your wedding speech, I started to get curious about what wedding speeches actually exist on the Internet. As a wedding photographer, I’ve seen more than my fair share of best man speeches, maid of honor speeches, adorable parent speeches, even a handful of wedding speeches from kids (which will make me cry a hundred percent of the time). But I’ve never actually gone down the rabbit hole of Internet viral wedding toasts. Here’s what I have learned: any wedding speech video that... read more

July 22, 2016

mother and son standing against a wall

APW Happy Hour

Kids can work as temp employees, right?

by Stephanie Kaloi
HEY APW, I am on day nine of a ten-day journey with my seven-year-old son. We hit Portland for a wedding and to see friends; LA to visit Universal, JPL, and friends; and rounded out our trip in San Francisco and Oakland to hang with Meg and Maddie, work in the actual #APWOffice, and eat so much (approximately three thousand Jupiters worth, if you ask my kid) ice cream. Somewhere along the way, Meg hired my son (for about five minutes). She offered to pay him in ice cream; he countered by requesting cash. So for a hefty $1, he took [&hellip... read more
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Wedding Hair, Don’t Care: This Couple’s Mid-Wedding Dip in the River Is Everything

#TreeLife is real

by Stephanie Kaloi
After all of our decisions to please others, we really needed a moment to relish in the excitement of being married, so we turned our sights on the river near our venue with the intention of cooling our nerves, literally. A dip in the cool running water seemed like the perfect way to spend some quality time with well-traveled guests, and just a grand way to spend an afternoon in Montana... read more

July 21, 2016

bride standing alone outside

My Whole Family Is Skipping My Wedding (but Going to My Cousin’s)

I didn't realize we were competing until they made it obvious

by Liz Moorhead
Q: My family lives on one coast, and we’re getting married on the other. I’ve lived there for years, my partner grew up there, and his family still lives there. But it has meant that one side of my family is simply not coming to the wedding. I’m not angry at individuals, but more angry at the feeling that I’m not valued by this part of my family on a larger scale. My partner and I have also really made the effort over the years to be present at family events—red-eyes across the country, scheduling important work trips to... read more

You’ll Get Twice the Awesome with This Photography Team

These trained photojournalists and second-generation wedding photographers won't miss a moment

by Maddie Eisenhart
There’s something extra special about having photographers who are partners in life as well as in business by your side at your wedding. So we’re excited to introduce Sarah and Jeff Porter of New England-based Two of Us Photography, with rates starting at $3,000. As a recently married couple, these trained photojournalists get what it’s like to be—together—on the other side of the camera. And as second-generation (!) wedding photographers, they are well versed in all the things that can go down at a wedding in a way most ... read more

July 20, 2016

man and grandmother holding hands

What Will Being Family Caregivers Do to Millennial Marriages?

File under: Things we should have talked about a decade ago

by Stephanie Kaloi
There are a lot of conversations my husband and I didn’t have before we got married almost ten years ago. For example, we didn’t discuss money, kids, or even really what we wanted to do with our careers. We got married after barely three months of dating. We were twenty-two and twenty-one, and just figured, hey, all that stuff? It’ll work itself out. So I suppose it’s not surprising that I can add one more topic to the list of things we never discussed: what will happen to our parents as they age, and whether or not we’ll... read more

Minted Has Four New Wedding Services That Will Make Your Day

Including a brand-new pop-up store in SF where you can see it all for yourself!

by Maddie Eisenhart
If I had to pick the two biggest headaches of wedding planning (besides family expectations and not being a millionaire, but what are you going to do about those), they’d have to be paper and décor. I just wanted things that felt like our wedding, and the options were either to spend all the monies to make that happen, or create everything my damn self. I chose door number two. Spoiler alert: It turns out I’m not as crafty as I thought. (Also, our apartment wasn’t nearly well-ventilated enough for all that rubber cement.) But if I... read more

July 19, 2016

gender pay

6 Steps That Will Help You Conquer the Gender Pay Gap

Splashing your office's Slack channel with fire GIFs isn't the answer (yet)

As a workplace advice columnist, I receive lots of letters about how to ask for a raise. One piece of advice I’ve traditionally given over and over is to base your raise request on your own work and not to use your coworker’s salary as an argument for why you should be paid more. But there’s one big exception to that: when the disparity in your salary might be based on gender. It can be incredibly frustrating when you realize or suspect that you’re being paid less than your male coworkers. A big part of that frustration is because many... read more
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Amanda Summerlin Will Take Photos You Love of the People You Love

Amanda gets real about why she's a photographer and why photography should be a part of everyone's life

by Najva Sol
If I had to summarize the one-of-a-kind Amanda Summerlin and her work in emojis, it would go a little something like 😂😢😍👏🙏. Longtime sponsor and APW favorite, Amanda is the photographer who will make you laugh so hard you cry, who will be a steadying presence when you actually do cry, who will deliver photos that give you heart eyes for days, and who will earn your eternal gratitude for being exactly what you needed in a photographer: a source of mood-lifting jokes, a shoulder to lean on, and most importantly, a keen eye that will... read more

July 18, 2016


What Harry Potter Did for My Wedding Day Anxiety

Sometimes you just need a little help from your (wizard) friends

It was my wedding day. I had spent the night before at my sister’s house. We arrived at the church three hours before the ceremony started, as everyone had agreed to do. But other than the wedding planner, we were the only ones there. There was no photographer. No groom. No mother of the bride. This last one was what almost sent me over the edge. I remember turning to my sister, the panic already building up in me and threatening to spill out of my eyes, and saying, “Where is Mother? Weren’t we supposed to meet her here? Where is she... read more

30 Bridesmaid Hairstyles Your Friends Will Actually Love

Plus tips for managing expectations and keeping everyone happy

by Maddie Eisenhart
Having been a bride once and a bridesmaid a handful of times, I’ve learned that the only rule of bridesmaiding is that there are no hard-and-fast rules: expectations around attire, bridesmaid hairstyles, and makeup can vary wildly from person to person. What one member of your wedding party considers totally normal might seem absurd to another (personal taste is personal, y’all). So it’s smart to lay your cards on the table good and early, before you get too deep into planning, to make sure everyone is on the same page. But how do... read more

July 15, 2016

woman staring at the ocean

APW Happy Hour

Herein we will collectively feel all the things

by Stephanie Kaloi
Hey APW! I can vaguely remember the beginning of this year, when I thought that the worst thing 2016 was going to throw at us was the death of David Bowie. Make no mistake—that death hit me hard. Now I’m beginning to think that we should have all seen this entire year coming. I don’t mean to say that his death is as terrible as the many, many horrific things we’ve seen so far in 2016 in cities around the world, including Tel Aviv, Istanbul, Baghdad, Baton Rouge, St. Paul, Dallas, and now Nice, France (where over eighty people were [&... read more
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