Gender & Feminism
Continue reading Mmmm…. gender stereotypes
That said, I'm thinking of tossing my bouquet. Why? Because I am a professional on the bouquet catch circuit. I've been catching bouquets or wrestling other people to the ground while trying to since I was at least five or six. I love it! It's one of the most fun parts of a wedding, as far as I'm concerned. However, I really don't love the "woman who catches the bouquet is the next to wed" idea. So, we are thinking of just making it up for grabs for anyone to catch, and make it "good luck."
Continue reading The Bouquet Toss, And Other Gender Weird Traditions
Continue reading Wedding Sexism
Which brings me to my point: It's not the happiest day in your life. There are many reasons for this. First, I hope to God, for the sake of each and every one of you, that your wedding does not end up being the happiest day in your life. Children, grandchildren, promotions, hell, even a great vacation - these should be the happiest days in your life. The point - they're well ahead of you, perhaps somewhere around the age of 45 (and if you ARE 45, let's say 75). Most importantly, though, and I know that the industry is myopically unaware of this fact, there is another person there: Your Groom (my apologies to my LGBT friends for this gendered post).
Continue reading Groom Guest Post: The Other Point of View
I love your blog - it's a little haven in the sea of gender stereotype bullsh*t surrounding everything wedding.
I have a question about addressing wedding invitations. "Mr. and Mrs. Joe Blow" makes me sort of nauseous but my parents kind of want things a little more formal than "Joe and Jane Blow." What do you think about "Mr. and Mrs. Joe and Jane Blow" or "Mr. Joe Blow and Mrs. Jane Blow" or should it be "Mr. Joe and Mrs. Jane Blow" ... that kind of sounds weird, right? Any thoughts?
Continue reading Addressing Wedding Invitations (and staying a feminist)
In case you were on the fence about how to address your wedding invitations, and wondering if it would be more tasteful to address them all as Mr. and Mrs. Joe Blow, because it’s faaaannnncccccyyyy, I give you this comment:
Well, I just received my umpteenth wedding invitation addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. Joe Blow” when my name is “Dr. Jane Sassy-Blow”. Geesh! I’ve been married to this guy for almost 24 years now and no one in his family has still bothered to learn my name! Whoever said* the woman with the Dr. title should get to use it was right on! Or at the very least, let me use my legal – hyphenated – last name!
Right. Address people as they wish to be addressed, or failing that, by their names. Glad that’s cleared up.
*That was me. I said that.