8 Signs That You’re Actually in a Good Marriage

APW readers weigh in

by Stephanie Kaloi

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Whether or not you want to admit it, it’s likely that at some point in your marriage, you’ve wondered if your marriage is “good” in the first place. You know, probably during some horrible fight, when you probably shouldn’t be asking yourself a single serious question, but there you are, questioning the big stuff.

I’m no stranger to this question, mostly because I grew up with two parents who had what was decidedly a bad marriage—and I knew I just didn’t want to do whatever it was they were doing. Of course when you Google “how do you know you’re in a good marriage” you get messages that are not always helpful. Most of the articles focus on psychological studies and stats—you know you’re in a good marriage if your therapist says so. There are countless message boards wherein at least one person attests that you’re in a good marriage if you never fight, or you always agree with each other no matter what. People say you’re in a good marriage if you never go to bed angry, if you always do everything together, if you let things go. The Internet seems to be especially concerned with figuring out if men are happy in their marriages, but less concerned with whether or not women classify their marriages as good.

Like most married people, I spend a lot of time hoping that my actions, thoughts, and words are contributing to the overall health of my marriage. But… that doesn’t mean we don’t fight. In fact, I think being able to fight is a sign of a healthy marriage, and I never quite trust a couple when they claim they never disagree. My husband and I have most certainly gone to bed pissed at one another, because hey: we’ve been together for nearly ten years, and we need sleep.

A few weeks ago we asked you guys what you think a good marriage is, and the responses were on point. In fact, the responses were exactly the kind of advice I’d hoped to get but never had. It turns out that the tropes people tell you that you’re supposed to worry about aren’t really the most important things in a marriage.

1. when you stop comparing yourselves to other couples

As I have gotten older I have realized that comparing marriages and listening to other people’s standards does not work. I have been with my husband for ten years. I can’t even count the amount of “perfect” couples who have given us advice and told us about how wonderful their relationship is that are no longer together, or have had affairs. Meanwhile we sometimes fight, we aren’t always perfectly “in love,” we have tough times, but we keep going along happily every year. Years ago we would listen to these couples’ advice and worry that if we didn’t do or feel the things they bragged about, it meant that there was something wrong with our relationship. But time has proven many times over that we only need to worry about being true to ourselves, and that the ones who proclaim they have perfect relationships the loudest are often just trying to convince themselves.

2. when “good enough” Becomes Actually… good

When I was a teenager my mom seriously considered leaving my dad because she felt they didn’t have enough passion and connection. I really thought that they were a terrible match and maybe she should divorce him. Years later, I can see so much more of how they suit each other, how they bring each other joy.

There were bad times in their marriage, that’s for sure. But they decided to keep doing it—it was good enough. And now it’s actually good.

3. when you can both stay true to you

I think a good marriage allows both partners to become their best selves. Partners should help each other grow in positive ways, whether that’s through a gentle push, or cheering from the sidelines, or stepping back and allowing room for the other person to explore their passion. Your spouse should motivate you to be better, without ever forcing you to be untrue to yourself. Support can come in many forms, and I think the kind of support you need changes a lot over the course of a relationship, so really listening and responding to what your partner needs is key.

4. when good and bad are irrelevant

I don’t love the idea of “good” marriages and “bad” marriages, because it feels a little too much like comparing my inside to someone else’s outside, as they say. I don’t think someone outside the marriage can make a judgment call about whether someone’s marriage is good or bad, especially on the whole. The furthest I would go would be to say, “this aspect of their relationship doesn’t seem healthy.”

For me, the marriage is its own entity separate from both my husband and me, and it’s something we work on together. It’s either working well at the moment, or it needs some improvement right now. The term “bad marriage” makes me think abuse or some other major issue is at play. I think when you get to the point that you judge your own marriage as “bad,” you probably need to start getting out of that marriage.

5. when you understand that marriage comes with risk

It was reassuring to hear from everyone that yes, even a “good” marriage has moments of doubt and conflict and fear and anxiety. I asked my pastor’s wife if “marriage is just mitigated risk? Like you marry someone and make the best decision you can and do the work and hope it works out?” And she said, “Yes, basically. Marriage is really hard. But it’s also really amazing.” Which was exactly what I needed to hear in that moment.

6. when being there for one another is enough

I’m actually pretty proud of the relationship my husband and I have, considering we’ve only been together four years. The way we’ve chosen to openly communicate with each other has been one of the most positive qualities in our relationship—from the way he told me he had melanoma three months into dating (mole was removed shortly after and he’s cancer free!) to the way we’ve dealt with my recent miscarriage. Even if one of us doesn’t know exactly what to say, just knowing that those lines of communication are open and that the other person is always there, even if just to listen and be there for physical support, is huge.

7. when you’re happy every day

There’s a scene in Sex and the City when the girls ask Charlotte how often she’s happy in her marriage, and she says, “Every day.” Not all day every day, not all the time, but at some point in the day, every day, she is happy. That, to me, is the “good” or “good enough” marriage/relationship. I recognize that there are nuances here; for example, a strict twenty-four-hour time limit seems silly. I also recognize that the happiness can be fueled by something outside one’s marriage/relationship, such as a spouse who achieves a goal they’ve been working toward a long time. That line has always stuck with me, not as a goal to strive for, but as an internal measure of my own level of gratitude. What is the thing that made me happy today? Did I acknowledge it in the moment, or do I only see it in hindsight? Both of those things are okay, but I will probably reap more benefits from learning to acknowledge it in the moment, and find my new happy thing for tomorrow.

8. when you realize you might not know

I don’t have an answer to exactly what a good marriage looks like, but I’m working on it. It feels like it should be a relationship where a couple can communicate openly with each other. Where there’s an understanding that the marriage and the partnership comes first. Where there’s mutual respect and support. The communication thing has been incredibly hard for us—we’re both incredibly conflict-avoidant, so things that should have been addressed long, long ago got pushed aside and ignored for a long time until they got too big to ignore any longer.

if you missed the discussion the first time around (or just want to chime in again), tell us: what else would you add to this list? sub-question: is it enough to know you’re in a good marriage—even if you might not be forever?

Stephanie Kaloi

Stephanie is a photographer, writer, and Ravenclaw living in California with her family. She is super into reading, road trips, and adopting animals on a whim. Forewarning: all correspondence will probably include a lot of punctuation and emoji (!!! ? ? ?).

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  • Orangie

    “But… that doesn’t mean we don’t fight. In fact, I think being able to fight is a sign of a healthy marriage, and I never quite trust a couple when they claim they never disagree.” I think there can a huge difference between never fighting and never disagreeing. My partner and I disagree (regularly!) but we basically never fight. And when you look at our relationships with others, or our how we were growing up, neither of us are fighters. I can count on one hand the number of fights I’ve had in my entire life. And yet, I disagree with my friends and family all of the time. Perhaps it comes down to communication style, but I definitely don’t think fighting and disagreeing are always the same thing. Meg has shared stories before about how fighting loudly is their communication style, which is awesome, just not for us!

    • Kaitlyn

      I completely agree that they’re two different things. My partner and I have had one instance that I call a “fight”, but it really was a heated disagreement (over heat of all things haha) and we resolved it in about 10 minutes. We definitely argue though, in the married old couple kind of way (“what do you mean you don’t know where the strainer goes? We’ve lived here for a year!”). Disagreeing is important, it’s a way to hash out your different opinions or complications. Fighting signals to me shouting matches.

      • LJ

        re the strainer – my fiancé and I have started to call those “bickers”…. it’s us bickering, not us having an argument about a genuine disagreement. We try to limit bickers because it can be easy to fall into almost constant bickering if we’re having a bad day or busy. It’s made us more self-aware.
        And yeah, my definitions are: Arguments are serious disagreements, bickers are little disagreements we should let slide or discuss civilly as they arise, and fights are a type of argument that gets more emotional than is healthy/not a desirable because it stops being logic/reason-based and generally doesn’t get us towards a resolutions at a reasonable pace.
        So interesting to see people’s styles….

      • Anon

        Yeah, my husband and I occasionally fight-fight, but it’s usually because we’re particularly stressed out and we respond to stress very differently. While 90-99% of the time we talk and work through these differences, every now and then it comes out as overly emotional yelling and crying about a smaller disagreement.

        We don’t personally consider that response part of our “healthy” disagreements, even though we also don’t think that the fact that it happens occasionally means we’re a terrible couple–it just means we’re human beings working through our individual issues while being part of a partnership. What matters to us is that we recognize it a lot more readily and take active steps to ensure we “fight fair” as a lot of people say. It’s more of a catalyst that we have to work through, and the working through is the healthy part.

    • stephanie

      OMG SO: since writing this, we had a huge discussion among the staff about this very idea and I learned that how I think of “fighting” is VERY different than how others do. Like, in our house, we don’t yell. We don’t throw things, we don’t get loud. My husband and I talk about issues before they get us to an angry place, we do meditation, we take walks if we get heated. We totally argue, but it’s like what is below. In my head, fighting, disagreeing, arguing are all the same thing—but I totally get how you can say they aren’t, if for you fighting = yelling or being loud.

      • Lisa

        So much this. We’ve had disagreements over the fact that, to me, any slightly raised voice or heated tone = yelling. My husband maintains that he doesn’t “yell” even if he’s heated in defending his opinion. We don’t really have knock-down drag-out fights, but we definitely have arguments/disagreements, which I think is healthy for a relationship.

        • Kalë

          Lisa, sometimes I wonder if we are the same person. This comes up during almost every fight in my relationship. My boyfriend and I definitely define yelling as two different things – and have had a fight-within-a-fight about if he’s yelling or not. My stance is that I won’t continue the conversation if he yells. Sometimes this means he quiets his tone, other times it means that he starts yelling (to me) about how he’s not yelling, lol.

          • Lisa

            Bahaha, I love this! (Not the yelling/”yelling”, but you know.) I’ve heard my husband do what he would define as “yelling” exactly once in our six years together, and it was arresting. He’s a pretty easy-going guy, but he has got a set of lungs on him and a commanding tone that never gets used. He’s stubborn and will defend his opinions, but if that voice ever comes out again, it will be because he means business.

      • cpostrophe

        a previous relationship taught me an important distinction between being opposed to an idea and being upset. Disagreeing, arguing, critiquing each other’s ideas can all be done without upsetting the other person, but sometimes you say something, or the discussion crosses a line that instigates an intense emotional response for the person, and then what happens?

        My family has a tendency to raise their voice when they’re excited, so yelling kind of happens without any sense of a particular threshold being passed. But there’s definitely a different tone that comes in when it’s mixed with anger, hurt, or contempt; and it’s something that I’ve had to learn to both control, and educate my partners into, AND trust when they call me on it and say “you’re not just being excited now. You’re yelling.”

        my metric is: its ok to disagree. It’s ok to have differences of opinion. It’s actually necessary, because too much agreement probably means that one side of the partnership doesn’t feel safe about asserting their own opinions. However, it’s worth noting where one partner becomes upset or experiences an emotional hurt as part of the disagreement, and then seeing what the other partner does in that situation. Do you de-escalate? Do you double-down? Do you invalidate their emotion? Do you stop? That’s the key moment, I think.

        • Amy March

          It is so interesting to look at this way! For me though I wouldn’t be comfortable framing it this way. Because why are we assuming that someone’s emotional hurt is legitimate? What if you are legitimately hurt every time I disagree with you? Why are we placing all the burden here on the partner who isn’t experiencing emotional hurt to reassess their behavior instead of asking, well, why are you getting hurt about this? Because I’ve been in relationships where, in fact “disagreeing, arguing, critiquing each other’s ideas” couldn’t be done without upsetting the other person, and that felt very confining.

          • Elizabeth

            I say this as someone who can be emotionally hurt very easily, who will break into tears at what I freely admit is not a reasonable level to be crying at, and I completely agree with you. For me personally it’s been much better and healthier for me to admit that yes, sometimes I get upset when I know logically I shouldn’t, but the best way forward is sometimes through that, going forward and having the discussion anyway and letting me work thorugh that it’s not as bad as I thought it would be.

          • Amy March

            Yeah I don’t mean at all to suggest that no emotional reactions are ever permitted or anything, and I think one obvious solution is that you just can’t marry someone if you fundamentally don’t trust that their emotional hurt is, by and large, legitimate.

          • Elizabeth

            Yeah, there’s definitely a matter of knowing and understanding and working with the other person. But I don’t want someone to back off the instant I feel emotional hurt, and that’s not how I deal with emotions within my relationship. I can — and do — trust that my fiancee is genuinely emotionally hurt and upset and still want to work through that, to figure out why and how and for us because these spots are things we’re better off working through. And maybe it’s that our disagreements have tended not to be shouty ones, but I think it serves us personally better not to abandoning the topic which caused the upset but to work through it from another angle.

          • cpostrophe

            in my past relationships, when a partner and I just consistently upset each other, we’ve just taken it as a sign that we aren’t emotionally compatible or that our communication styles aren’t suited for a certain level of intimacy. I think you and Elizabeth bring up a good point about the need to separate an upset response from some deeper (or more genuine?) emotional state. Again, here I’m thinking about my tendency for the volume of my voice to increase as I get excited, which can be misconstrued for anger or being defensive, when I’m just being engaged and I sometimes need to recognize it and take a step back and realize what’s going (though that sounds not quite the same as what you’re describing).

            I guess what I ought to clarify is that I don’t believe that you should never upset your partner, or seek to avoid crossing those lines, but just pay attention to what happens when those lines are crossed and understand if you have productive ways to handle those situations.

          • stephanie

            “Why are we placing all the burden here on the partner who isn’t experiencing emotional hurt to reassess their behavior instead of asking, well, why are you getting hurt about this?” OH this is a great point! I agree.

      • Orangie

        It is soooooo interesting to see different styles. I used to work for some people who were married, and they would have screaming, fist-pounding-on-tables, door-slamming, stomping-away fights over business matters. And then the fight would just be over, and they’d calmly be discussing what they were gonna have for dinner or whatever. No grudges were held, even though they said things to each other that would be terrible, horrible attacks according to my marriage’s norms. It worked for them, but goodness, just listening to them freaked me out!

        • Amy March

          So true. Like, I never ever ever want to fight with anyone, if by fight we mean “scream at each other loudly in front of our friends including cursing at each other.” If we mean “disagree strongly and spend a couple days kinda doing our own thing” then sure sounds fine.

          • Meg Keene

            Oh my god. I’d rather scream and be done with it than disagree strongly and do our own thing for a few days. (DAYS!? OMG). Our fights last like, 10 minutes tops. Loud and done.

            Not in public, but do four letter words happen? Sure.

            Different strokes. But days??? Holy moly. Yelling is so cathartic and FAST.

          • tr

            The husband and I have totally different styles of fighting. He’ll loudly yell lots of horrible things that aren’t *actually* horrible because they’re clearly just a string of meaningless curse words, and then, ten minutes later, the storm is over. On the other hand, when I fight, there is not a single word said. I behave like I always do, except that for a day or two, I’m quietly thinking to myself “I hate you so much” while figuring out tiny passive aggressive ways to get everything out.
            Given a choice, I would SOOO much rather deal with a yeller than someone like me.

        • Rebekah Jane

          I knew a couple that would get so heated in their arguments that the husband would often put his wife fully clothed in the shower and turn the cold water on her when she got to a certain level of yelling. They both agreed that it was a good move on his part and they are blissfully happy in their marriage to this day, but it 1000% freaked me out!

          • stephanie

            OMGGGGGGGGGG! Equally freaked out!

        • Kayjayoh

          That’s how fighting works in my family of origin. My husband comes from family of repress and simmer. So we’re still getting down the art of fighting.

      • Rebekah Jane

        All the this! My fiance loves to debate on topics and he and I will engage in passionate discussions all the time that we don’t classify as “fights.” Normally, those end with us calling a draw, me playfully calling him a doofus or him shaking his head at me, and a kiss.

        But our real fights? Generally, they start with a “I’m mad at you and here’s why.” We clearly articulate what’s bothering us, listen to the other side, clarify our needs, and come to a resolution/apology if necessary. We both grew up around a lot of dramatic yelling and it isn’t conducive for either of us so, from the very beginning, we tried to fight fair so we could come to a happy resolution quickly and easily. Granted, we might need to be pissed and grumpy for a minute before we can talk it out, but that’s par for the course.

        • Alexa

          I was going to say almost exactly this. My husband and I will argue passionately (and sometimes loudly) about silly/academic things, but I don’t think we’ve ever done that about stuff that actually mattered. For those issues we aim for the calm, rational discussion. The result can sometimes include cutting remarks, long silences, or tears, depending on how long the issue has festered, but we try to minimize those, and actual yelling doesn’t seem to ever come up.

      • NolaJael

        My FH and I got home from a party the other night where a couple ended up yell-fighting with each other and we realized that we just don’t witness that kind of behavior regularly anymore. Maybe it’s that people mellowed out in their thirties, but I almost never see what would be considered couples’ “drama” anymore. Personally, I think that’s a big part of respecting your partner — not to hide fights behind closed doors and pretend to be perfect — but to fight in private so that you can struggle to find the words or take something back after the heat of the moment without it being a theatrical production for your friends/neighbors/relatives to witness and feel compelled to take sides or have opinions, etc.

        • Amy March

          It’s also incredibly rude to force other people to witness you fighting. It’s not just respect for your partner, its respect for your community and for the occasion for which you have gathered.

    • Kara

      This so much. My husband and I don’t fight (where fighting equals heated arguments). We talk about our disagreements and figure out a way forward. We’ve never fought, but we do certainly disagree.

      I still think we have a healthy marriage.

    • Eenie

      I always thought fighting well was really important in a relationship. Then I met my husband. We don’t fight. Ever. We disagree, but we’ve never raised our voices at each other in a discussion.

    • Kalë

      I’m digging this thread about fighting. Since we’re on the subject, is anyone a crier? When I get upset, my main emotional response is to cry. I could be frustrated, angry, sad, hurt, whatever – tears. It makes it a lot harder to talk through things rationally. And it make things that aren’t *that* big a deal seem a lot more emotionally charged – turning a “disagreement” into a “fight”.

      • Kelly

        Yep! I’m definitely a crier. Which makes it difficult for me to always communicate how big a deal certain issues are when I have the same emotional response to most situations like you described

        • Kalë

          Yeah, it can be a real struggle when all you want is to discuss something calmly but instead you’re dealing with snot and a lump in your throat and needing to find a tissue.

      • Rebekah Jane

        I call it “leaking.” There are times when I’m actually crying with the big snuffles and the hiccups and the snot and those are the times when my fiance pays attention to the tears. But I’ve taught him that if we’re having an emotionally charged discussion about a topic that I’m not naturally comfortable with (like money), tears may fall. It’s not because I’m actively upset enough to cry, but rather because I’m fighting my decades-learned instinct to suppress and ignore such matters (what’s up, WASPy Southern upbringing!).

        Gradually, in our relationship, the leaking has lessened considerably as we’ve gotten more and more comfortable with each other, but it still shows up occasionally and my fiance (bless him) and I will keep pushing right on through them.

        To help my fiance better understand this fun nuance, I always used Rachel from Friends when she has a conversation with her boss – “Now, just to brief you, may cry, but they are not tears of sadness or of anger, but just of me having this discussion with you.” That’s leaking!

        • Anjli

          Somebody else is a leaker! Thank you! We call it leaking too, because I’m not actually crying like I’m upset, just my face leaks when having tough conversations sometimes. It took a while to convince my partner that it wasn’t him upsetting me, I’m just really not used to discussing my feelings openly with someone and it causes leakage. He thinks I cry a lot, everyone else I know thinks I never cry.

      • Annie

        I’m a crier! I cry when I’m *frustrated* especially, so if I’m feeling highly emotional about a complex situation and can’t articulate myself as well as I normally could, I’ll just start crying. I’m sure a gender studies PhD would have a field day with how socialized that reaction is!

        But yeah, my husband used to get very defensive about my crying, thinking that he was doing something HORRIBLE and would lash out a bit at that, since he’d think he was fighting/arguing/disagreeing fair and I wasn’t recognizing that. It took awhile for him to realize that crying is just something I do sometimes when we have tough convos and for me to articulate that when we’re disagreeing (“I’m crying because I’m frustrated that I can’t think of how to clearly articulate my feelings, not because you’re not handling this well” etc…albeit through gasping breaths and snot :p)

        • Annie

          Replying to note that one time I even wrote it down on legal pad! I think my note said something like, “I don’t know how to say what I’m feeling so give me 5 minutes to cry.” Thankfully my husband appreciated it instead of thinking I’m totally bonkers! Not that the two are mutually exclusive…

        • NolaJael

          Sometimes I say to my FH, “I want to keep talking about this but I can’t do it without crying. So I’m going to cry and talk, and I don’t want you to stop just because I’m crying.” Sounds weird but it means we can keep working on something without tears bringing things to a screeching halt.

          • Kalë

            Yep, I do this too. Or, “If you want to talk about this now, I’m going to cry. We can either talk later with (hopefully) no crying, or now, with it.”

      • LP

        I ALWAYS cry when I’m angry/frustrated. In fact, I can’t tell you the last time I cried from being sad, but from anger/frustration, it’s all the time! In fact, now husband used to feel bad when I’d cry during arguments, now he just knows that means I’m angry with him!

      • raccooncity

        YES, but also I laugh when I feel guilty. That’s a rough one. If i feel bad about something I’ve done that affected my spouse and he tells me about it, sometimes I laugh. It’s very different than my happy or amused laugh but it’s still something I try really hard to stop doing.

      • nutbrownrose

        YES so much. Actually, anything i’m passionate about, super frustrated by, or angry about makes me cry. I’ve been slowly training my fiance to ignore the tears when they’re just streaming and not making me snotty or sob. What makes it extra difficult is my dad used to get mad at me for crying during serious discussions (in which he told me I was a terrible person) because it would make bosses think less of me and I should just stop that crying already. So, guilt for crying, in addition to the embarrassment from it, and the emotion that caused it in the first place. Let’s just say I’m in therapy for all those issues.

    • tr

      Also, two people can categorize “fighting” very differently–if you asked my fiancé, he would insist that we never fight. If you ask me, we fight a few times a month.
      The difference? To me, every cross word counts as fighting. To him, a fight is where both parties yell horrible things and threaten to break up.

    • EF

      heh, totally this. i was a debater in college and then went to law school and literally make a living out of arguing. my partner? not so much. probably lots of people would think we’re fighting when it’s really just, ‘hey, debate with me on this one thing! please! i’m gonna annoy you until you help me tease out this argument!’

      of course this means that for serious discussions we gotta be careful too. early on in our relationship he complained that i used my ‘lawyer voice’ when we had serious discussions. so every couple of months we do a ‘state of affairs’ meeting with a timer, like in a debate round. i’m not allowed to interrupt him (though can raise my hand on a point and he may or may not call on me) and then it’s my turn — but only for that same allotted time. and this, people, is how you deal with annoying, argumentative debaters like myself.

      • Alexa

        I have a similar experience. We deal with the actual serious discussions a bit differently, but being able to have intense debates about random stuff (recently: which job characteristics make an activity most likely to switch to being done by robots/machine learning) is super important for me in my marriage.

  • LJ

    “good” seems like a weird thing to quantify. I think the term healthy is way more fitting. Physical health is generally described as the absence of illness, and I believe that healthy relationships are similar – the absence of toxic behavior with negative impact.
    I hate being told to be good or aspiring to good. It’s very subjective and arbitrary and vague.

    • Violet

      I totally agree. There are different ways to be “healthy.” As long as there is the absence of something detrimental, health is there.
      My litmus test for determining whether something is unhealthy is to think, “Could I tell my mom about this incident?” As long as the answer is yes (and it has always been in my marriage), then we’re not engaging in anything unhealthy. Maybe unpleasant, maybe painful, but still, nothing toxic or unhealthy. If something ever got to the point where I didn’t feel I could tell my mom about what happened, then I’d know the marriage had crossed over into “unhealthy” territory. (Doesn’t mean I tell her everything that happens in our marriage; the litmus test is just whether or not I could tell her.)

  • Emi

    Thank you SO much for writing this.

  • Rese Hollemeyer

    I LOVED the reference to Charlotte’s quote- that one has stuck with me for years, too. Honestly, now that I have that, I realize it’s completely true. But the fighting is important as well. It felt like our first year and a half was one big fight. We moved in together too quickly and had that “first year or marriage is the hardest” while barely knowing each other really. Fortunately, we both thought our relationship was worth the effort and by our second anniversary we were stronger and happier than ever. Honestly it all comes down to communication and a clear line of respect. We make sure we say I love you every day, and that we’re speaking each other’s love languages. If you’re openly appreciating each other daily, it’s more difficult to be unhappy.

    • JC

      “Openly appreciating each other daily” is the best way to describe it!! (That original quote is from me.) I was struggling with how to put it originally, given how many (including myself) feel about being responsible for another’s happiness. That was definitely not what I meant by “my relationship makes me happy every day,” but that “I openly appreciate him every day,” and that helps ensure our continued success as a couple.

  • Glaci Lux

    I know it is a bit different for everyone, but for my partner and I it is two things. The first is that his happiness makes me happy, and when he sees me happy, it makes him happy. The other is open communication. It lets us know that there is no worry about how to hide something, and that we work through things together.

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