An $80K Doubly Dapper Gay Brooklyn Wedding

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Jashvant, assistant professor & Joseph, fashion designer

sum-up of the wedding vibe: Just a fun celebration of our union with our closest friends and family; none of the traditions that we don’t like.

Planned Budget: $50,000
Actual Budget: $80,000
Number of Guests: 93
Location: The 1896, Brooklyn, New York
photographer: Aaron & Whitney Photography

Where we allocated the most funds:

Food and an open bar throughout the night; we have been at weddings with a cash bar, but that wasn’t for us. We also did a rehearsal dinner, pre-wedding cocktails, and post-wedding brunch.

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Where we allocated the least funds:

Cake and flowers.

What was totally worth it:

Our photobooth was really fun. Making our own playlist and using the fade-in/fade-out feature instead of a DJ (who may or may not play your favorite songs). We did our rehearsal dinner in a more intimate setting (Freeman’s Restaurant on the Lower East Side). Having a good photographer! Or in our case, photographers. Nice, tailor-made, non-standard tuxedos. Light-up shoes! A big brunch on the day after the wedding, to see and thank everyone who traveled.

What was totally not worth it:

Can’t think of anything; it really was the perfect day.

A few things that helped us along the way:

Glasserie restaurant did our catering, and they assisted a lot with the planning, which was extremely helpful!

My best practical advice for my planning self:

Take time to relax, and don’t stress. Always remember that it’s about you celebrating your union, and not about pleasing everyone.

Favorite thing about the wedding:

Everyone danced! We loved our own selection of cocktails. Our own playlist. The rehearsal dinner in an intimate setting. We specifically asked everyone to not give us any gifts—we both felt that this is one of the things people hate the most about weddings, and we just don’t need more stuff. As a result of making our own choices, we felt that people enjoyed that ours was a non-traditional wedding.


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