A Big One: Law School Graduation

This weekend David graduated from Law School. And while I’ve written a lot about our wedding, and very little about law school, on Friday I David and I were exhausted cuddling on the couch, and I said, “This is the biggest thing we’ve ever done together,” and he agreed.

And it is.

It’s not that I did law school, because I didn’t. In fact, for the majority of the last three years, I was so stressed out that I didn’t even listen very hard when he talked about criminal procedure or California’s second degree federal murder rule. But.

When David and I started dating, five and a half years ago, we were 23 and 24, broke, living in New York, and both working in Theatre. Actually, the exact day that we started dating we were both unemployed, but I digress. Over the next two years, David tried to figure out what he wanted to do, and moved from a professional theatre job to a legal job. And he loved it. And then we discussed law school, and we discussed where we both might be willing to move for law school, and we discussed LSAT courses. And then we moved into the action phase – LSAT course taken (him), LSAT weekends spent making solo plans (me), law schools applied to (him), hands held and anxiety soothed (me), law school acceptances and rejections received (him), breath held – prayers said – tears shed (us), law school selected (him in theory, but really, us).

Then boxes were packed, jobs were quit, Penske trucks were rented, toasts were made, decade long friendships were cried over, cross country trips were taken, new apartments searched for, new jobs were found, new friends were made (us).

Then studying was done, tests were taken, grades were given, accolades were earned, new law schools were applied to, transfer applications were accepted, tears were shed, friends were missed, the-smartest-decisions-for-the-future-we-think-but-man-it-hurts were made, daily commutes were commenced (him).

And did I mention? The economy collapsed. Things got sh*tty, fast. I was stressed, I didn’t always love my job, I worked all the time. But I had the benefits and the earnings, and as savings got eaten up by law school tuition, the burden of paying rent, keeping on the lights, keeping us fed, and keeping us insured, increasingly fell to me. And it was really hard. It turns out being the sole breadwinner is unimaginably stressful, especially when you are watching the economy collapse in slow motion around you. But I did it, and it also turns out that being the breadwinner as the economy collapses in slow motion around you gives you a tremendous sense of pride and self worth. Almost as much pride and self worth as a well earned prestigious degree.

And now we’re done. We both, in our own ways, worked our asses off for Friday. And in the past three (or really four) years, we both learned a lot, both about ourselves and about the world. And when the words, “I now confer on you a JD, with all the rights and privileges therein” were said on Friday, I cried. When we walked from party to party in North Beach on Friday, looking at the moon on the bay and Coit Tower by night, the air crackled with possibility – not just the possibilities of the future, but with the possibilities achieved. And when we attended our friends’ graduation in downtown city hall on Sunday, even more tears were shed, and hugs were given. And what had just happened felt enormous.

We didn’t plan a wedding kids, we started a life. Together.

Pictures: #1 – After Sunday’s Graduation, taken by me; #2 Us at the end of the weekend, taken by a friend. Yes. They are real Polaroids.

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  • Jenn

    Congratulations to both of you!!

  • This is amazing. Congratulations to both of you!

    My fiance and I may be in a similar situation you and David were in 3 or 4 years ago. We’re scared, but it’s always good to see people come out even more connected than they were before. I always tell Josh (who is kind of in a rough spot right now) “It’s not just you anymore, it’s us. Don’t feel like you need to do anything alone.” And it’s true. It’s “us” and it’s “we” and it kicks ass.

    • Sevillalost

      Yes, exactly. I tell my man the same thing. He’s about to get out of the military and go to school full time, which means that it will be the first time since he was 18 that he won’t be earning his own cash. (He’s 25). Which is scary, bigtime scary, and I can completely understand his anxiety about it.

      But it’s not just him anymore. It’s us, together. And, as you said, Angie, “us” kicks ass. :)

  • Hannah

    As someone about to marry a full-time student and looking ahead to the next 3-4 years with a sense of dread and excitement for the end result, I really want to print this post and keep it handy for the days when I wonder what the heck I got myself into. This is so amazing and strengthening and wonderful. Congrats to you both!

  • Congratulations! That’s really exciting! We kind of went through the same thing as Leah just graduated with her MSW – and just as she started grad school two years ago, I was let go from my job (mortgage industry!)

    I eventually found a job, we got married, and then somehow, we’re now on the other side of all those school years and look at how exciting life is for all of us :-)

    Congratulations to you both!

  • Kimby

    I was on the verge of clicking ‘exactly’ when I realized that what I wanted to say was not ‘exactly’ but more explicitly I had no idea how BIG starting a life together is, how HUGE this decision to uproot your lives and start over somewhere new is until we did it. And it’s really great because the decision itself was easy–i.e. If you’re going, of course, I’m going–but the implications are huge. Yes, we’ve been dating. Yes, we’d been living together. No, we hadn’t confronted the big issues of intertwining our finances or even marriage. But then we decided to move, and my father began hyphenating the term “boyfriend-fiance” because “where he comes from such a decision implies some greater commitment.” And even if we aren’t engaged, he is right that we are building a life together. And it is a big deal.

  • Eliza

    Thankyou for writing this! I have been thinking of you and David this week and how momentous it all must feel. Congratulations! And best wishes for the life and work and amazing adventures ahead, post-JD graduation! Can’t wait to hear what happens next…

    (And yes, law school was *not* a good place to be when the economy crashed. I was just in the applying for jobs stage. Very. Bad. But so much better on the other side, pretty much, now.)

    PS I moved from the realm of pre-engaged to fully properly engaged this weekend – so excited!! Hooray for ‘us’ and ‘we’ and the rest of our lives!

    • kahlia

      Congratulations on the “proper” engagement!

  • Jovia

    Congratulations! Your description of starting a life together is so moving, but the beauty and joy in the picture of the two of you actually made me gasp.

  • Mollie

    Congratulations! I just sent this to Todd– we’re embarking on this journey, soon, except I will be the student. We’ve budgeted and planned, but it is still a bit scary (mostly exciting).

    Two years from now, I hope to feel like you do this week! Congratulations to you both, and many more adventures to come….

  • A.

    Congratulations to you both!

  • Hooray! Congrats! It was beautiful to hear how it all felt…

  • Amy

    Congratulations! I know what a huge deal this is for the both of you- I just graduated on Friday with my Au.D. and my fiance kept saying that it was his graduation too. He moved with me to TN four years ago for grad school and finally getting that diploma in hand was as much for “us” as it was for “me”. He supported me both emotionally and financially through the past 4 years; he was the one who had to deal with my panic/stress/crying when I felt like I was barely keeping on top of my school work. As stressful as grad school was for me, he had to bear the brunt of that stress so finally being finished means that our lives can finally start for real.

    • Where in TN? I’m in TN too!

      Congratulations on your graduation!

      • Amy

        Well I’m back in MD now (and about to move to OR) but we were living in Nashville while I was in school at Vanderbilt. You?


  • woot! congrats :-)

    also, I absolutely love the dress you’re wearing. very cute!

    • Eliza

      And the shoes! Those are *gorgeous* shoes, Meg!

      • meg

        Thank you. You can’t actually see the cool side in this photo. They are 70’s vintage mary janes, and the strap crosses diagonally (so it’s really low on the proper side).


        Yeah, and this was a dress I bought 2 sizes too big and got taken in. I’m BAD like that.

  • Alyssa

    This was amazing. A HUGE congratulations to the both of you.

  • Yay!!! Congratulations!!!

    I can completely relate- Andrew (fiance) is waiting to hear about grad school. If he gets in, finishes, it will be a life decision that I helped him make that by the end, will have taken four years to complete. and I will be SO glad to have helped him accomplish that together.

    Many Blessings!

    • Rachel

      Hee! I’m also engaged to an Andrew who’s about to start a PhD program. Do we need a support group?

      Thanks so much for writing this post, Meg. It said some of the things I needed to hear in the few weeks before my boy’s program begins. Best of luck to you both!

  • Allison

    I want to write some long comment about how I can totally relate and how hard it can be but really I should be saying is CONGRATS!!! Your baby family is a little more grown up now that there is a Law School graduate!!

  • ddayporter

    having recently had a mini-meltdown about money, this post was wonderful to read. it’s harder than I imagined, being the primary earner while he’s in grad school, but it’s going to be so amazing when we come out on the other side.

    great big congrats to both of you!! also, love the polaroids. they really multiply the romance x 100.

  • Courtney

    Congratulations! My fiance and I are in the same boat, except the roles are reversed. He’s supported me through law school for the past 3 years (and really the year before as we endured everything you mentioned), and I am about to graduate next week. It’s been grueling, both for me and him. But he gamely stepped up to the plate and has been 100% supportive. I consider myself extremely lucky that I’ve found someone who is willing to move halfway across the country so I can pursue my goals . . . and it sounds like David is extremely lucky as well!

  • What a beautiful reminder of how much more there is to marriage than the wedding itself. Congratulations to both of you!!!

  • Congratulations! And the journey just begins!

  • JLM

    I think this is my favorite post ever. Really, really happy for your both.

  • my love and i are experiencing a similar “big-ness”…except everywhere you write law school, insert medical school. I graduate from med school in two weeks…four days AFTER i become the wife of my best friend, Tommy….and then four days after my graduation we pick up our entire lives and move to New York for my residency.

    it’s a lot of big stuff. the biggest stuff actually.

    • kahlia

      Wow! Congratulations on all of that! I’m sure it’s hard to handle all at once, but it’s all such great stuff that I hope you’re enjoying it (in between moments of stress)!

  • Vee

    I love this post, I love those pictures, and a HUGE congrats to your husband – and to you, and your relationship together – for making it through law school. That is such a Really Big Deal. =)

  • kate

    Hmm, so it is possible for an unemployed theater type to develop an interest in work that pays you and gives you health insurance and takes place in (gasp) an OFFICE?

    Not that I might (ahem) be dating someone like that, but this is comforting news.

    Congratulations to the two of you on accomplishing something so great together!

  • redfrizzz

    Mazal Tov to both of you- you are blessed for all that has brought you to this moment!

  • Alice

    Congratulation! Such a big wonderful thing to have been achieved by you both.
    My only point of contention is to suggest that getting married wasn’t the start of a life together, but an acknowledgment of your commitment to each other, and the continuation of it as husband and wife. But that’s just my perspective. : )

    Reading your posts, especially in this week before my own wedding, fills my heart with joy, and strength, and reminds me why my fiance and I are doing this thing. Thank you Meg.

    • meg

      But that is the point of the post. Of course marraige wasn’t the start of our life together. We’d been together five years when we got married, and David was almost done with law school….

  • CarMar

    Yay! Congrats! I just graduated from law school as well, am getting married this summer, and am moving to a not-as-exciting-location-as-San-Fran to financially and emotionally support my soon-to-be husband through his last few years of medical school! Thanks so much for your insightful and perspective-giving posts!

  • Congratulations!

    As other have said, this is a comforting post to read and offers a nice little slice of perspective, especially as I’m in the early stages of planning my own wedding and wondering how on Earth we’re going to be able to pull it off along with the stresses of work, money, and time. My fiancee and I are in the midst of an extended low-earning period, with her getting her teaching credential and me acting as primary breadwinner – even though I ain’t earnin’ much bread. But we have a silver lining on the horizon.

    Clouding that silver lining is the looming expense of our wedding next summer, however, but I feel more and more confident we will be able to do it for under $10,000 with the help of all your amazing advice, and other awesome blogs as well.

    Perhaps what I love most about your blog, and your perspective on love and marriage, is how you view it all as a “team sport,” so to speak – I so appreciate how you view his graduation from law school as a challenge the two of you undertook together. It sounds so obvious, at times, but the attitude that a marriage is a partnership and a family is worth reiterating, and is an attitude I cannot even fathom not having with my fiancee.

    • kahlia

      Congratulations to you as well! And I absolutely think that “the attitude that a marriage is a partnership and a family” is one of APW’s most-repeated–and most important–maxims. So, welcome!

    • kahlia

      ps- depending on where you’re located, it can so totally be done for under $10K.

    • Tina

      Can I just say that I love that this post has also brought some of the men out of the woodwork? I also really appreciate your comment for that very reason. Maybe it’s because I went through my own struggle of gathering my teaching credential while my partner supported me (although from a distance). I also want to show this to my partner that he’s not alone as a man in this “team sport.”

  • I felt the same way when my husband graduated medical school! Such an amazing feeling. I went back to school his last year of medical school and the year before our wedding (holy, tight fiances). While I’m still in school it is such a relief to have someone else working too. Congratulations to you both!

  • Alison

    Huge. Monumental. Life and identity altering. Well done to both of you! For the graduating, surviving and being excellent role models!

  • This was so comforting to read. Neither my fiance and I are in grad school, but when we’ve discussed it, he has automatically shut it down as impossible. We don’t really know what we want to do just yet, but I hope when we get there, we can make the necessary sacrifices it will take to make us stronger as a unit, just like you and yours. Congrats to both of you!

  • Ruth

    Congratulations! I’m six months into my PhD here in Wales, and although I still work part-time, the financial responsibilities fall harder on my Mister, just as they have through my last two degrees…so big hugs to David for his achievement (seriously law? law is *hard*! Well done) but big hugs to you for all your hard work, and as the David of my twosome we studying freeloaders are so very, very grateful.

  • Morgan

    Just beautiful.

  • Jessica L.

    Um, tears. “We didn’t plan a wedding kids, we started a life. Together.”


  • Liz

    Congratulations to both of you. My law school graduation was yesterday, and I know that you and my girlfriend and all of the partners had just as much work and stress and heartache as we did. It’s definitely something to be so proud of accomplishing together.

  • Shantel Nilson

    Love this! Congrats!As my fiance’ and I are preparing for him to go back to school for his Master’s in Physical Therapy this is an encouraging and meaningful post. You rock Meg!

  • Kim

    So proud of both of you! My fiance was trying to go to dental school, so for the last two years, I’ve been the primary bread winner. It certainly is stressful! Especially with planning a wedding at the same time. I don’t know how we’re going to make it (especially since we have to move this summer, which means I have to save up more for our moving costs. keeps me up at night). Amid all of this, he decided he’s not going to dental school after all. In theory, it’s great timing, as he realized he wants to contribute more than just an increasing amount of student loans to our burgeoning family. However, because of the economy, it’s not as easy as we/he thought it would be.

    Your story gives me hope. Hope that one day (soon!?) we’ll be where you are now. This story is like a light at the end of the tunnel. I can’t wait to be there!

    Keep us posted on what it’s like when the bread winning balance shifts back towards the middle? I’m curious to know what that’s like…Thanks for sharing this!

  • Yea!! Congratulations! Parabéns!!

  • Emi

    Hooray! Congratulations to Team Meg and David and their awesome accomplishments. I loved this description of how school was a joint effort.

  • Sarah Beth

    Yay! Congratulations to you and David! It’s encouraging to see a couple that’s weathered such a big thing together and come out smiling.

    My fiance takes the MCAT in June, and is applying for early admission to his dream school in the fall. By Christmas, we will know what newly-wed life will look like. Either four years of med school for him, with me as the somehow bread-winner. Or the two of us spending our first year just working, while he “takes a year off” to regroup and reapply. Or start a masters program instead, or….something.

    I love hearing from everyone. You hear so much doom and gloom that it’s nice to hear from people who are brave enough to bite the bullet, people who’s love for each other is sound and tough, not flighty and overly romanticized.

    • elyse

      just wanted to say good luck! i met my fiance the exact same week he started med school, so even though i wasn’t there for the preparing / applying part, we’ve been together for all 4 years, through 2 board exams, away rotations, residency applications (and the ‘where do we move next’ conversation) and next week he graduates AND we get married. it certainly wasn’t always easy, but i do think it made us stronger both as a couple and individuals.

      • Sarah Beth

        Thanks. We’re going to need all of the luck we can get, in addition to perseverance and a whole lot of love.
        I’m actually the most worried about finding employment for myself.
        “We all know that writing essays is useless. If you don’t believe me, just ask your waiter about his English degree.” Haha, Steven Colbert. You are not funny. You can crush souls with remarks like that.

  • Erin

    Hey Meg and David — Thanks for the awesome example of your commitment to each other and your partnership, and this beautiful illustration of what a marriage can be. So many congratulations to you both!!

  • I feel like this is my EXACT STORY. Down to the ages, the LSAT weekends, the cross-country trip, the missing the loved ones, the hand-holding and extreme anxiety. Now you have the Bar to look forward to! Hah! No, I think that first year of law school has to be the most difficult part of the whole journey, the bar pales in comparison to that first year. My husband was so stressed that year, I almost can’t believe he got through. But. He did get through and is now in his third year at a small firm where they love him. The anxiety and hand-holding continue though, as the hours the first few years are tough. Like still pulling All-Nighters on a regular basis tough. Congrats to both of you! What an awesomely exciting thing you two have accomplished.

  • Mary

    Congratulations to both you and David! I can almost feel the warmth of your pride and smiles!! Great job!

  • They should read this post at graduations. I also graduated from law school on Friday! Our Dean asked the spouses and partners of the graduates to stand up and be recognized for their support. It probably would have annoyed me if I were single, but I did like hooting and hollering for Collin, because he did deserve that moment of recognition. And so do you, Meg! Congratulations to David and cheers to both of you!

  • Paige

    I’ve read every post, but don’t comment often because I haven’t gotten very far in wedding planning…. but your posts about relationships and real life really ‘sing’ to me.
    My fiance and I lived abroad for the last two years and were able to save money. However, even though we were a team in every way we would still bicker about money: who was spending more on things than the other, etc. I feel a bit ashamed about that in retrospect, but I try to view it optimistically as a growth period.

    Immediately after we get married he will also enter the world of law school. I’m so excited for him to achieve his dream and I know those years will be tough for him. He will need lots of support and encouragement. Not only that but I will also be the primary bread winner. Some how I’ve transitioned from comparing our every expense to being excited to support him. He always says ‘don’t worry, i can get lots of financial help, loans, etc’ but I would rather be able to help pay for his tuition with my earnings. I mean we’ll be married!!! Of course I want to put as much as possible towards his education. In the end, I would feel as if we were both ‘graduating’ from law school. I think the exact sentiments you stated.

    Bravo to you and David and thanks for being a realistic and inspirational person:)

    • Hey, we live abroad, too! I spent 4 years with him in his country, and now we’ve been in a different country together for 8-ish months. I would love to hear your experience in transitioning back into the American lifestyle (we’re planning a tentative moving-to-the-US date of next spring, which is “coming home” for me and will be his first time living there as an adult). If you’re so inclined, I’d love to email about it! (kahliabear _ gmail)

      • Sol

        Many people are surprised about the reverse culture shock. It is good that you are thinking about it!
        Those returning can be surprised at how they don’t fit in, and those at home often don’t understand why you don’t fit in.
        One thing that helped me make a good transition was planning the closure of my time abroad: The places, people, experiences I wanted to see/do before returning. It took over half a year to do it all, but I was ready to leave. This made arriving easier. Best of luck!

    • Also, I’d like to echo this one for Meg: “thanks for being a realistic and inspirational person”!

      • Paige

        Yes of course! I’m not an expert, but I actually grew up overseas (“3rd culture kid”) and grew accustomed to moving to different countries.
        Originally the hardest adjustment I had was when my family moved back to the U.S. before high school (talk about a-w-f-u-l). I spent high school and college in America and the first thing I did when I graduated? Move overseas of course! However it’s DIFFERENT this time because now it’s with a partner. Our current transition is pretty hard because after moving back, we are currently apart in different states with our families…
        I won’t go on too much on this comment here, but you are more than welcome to email me (paige.elyse.dofton@gmail.com).
        This whole transition with a partner is new to me as well. Actually last night we were talking about summer plans and of course got into an argument because we wanted to do so many things and not all of them worked for each other, you get the point…:)

  • Amazing picture. And even more amazing post. This is big, Huge. You did it!!! So congratulations. And here’s to your future life, possibly just as full of (different) challenges and big joys, each in their own time. Take care.

    (And you guys make me realize I’m so lucky I met my husband *after* he graduated from law school…)

  • Jess

    Congratulations, Meg and David! That polaroid looks like the kind that future generations will cherish.
    This is my first comment on APW, and I think it was the dose of ‘how do we fit our personal ambitions and goals into our marriage and how do we achieve them together’ that inspired it.

    To be honest, since we got engaged I’ve had a constant battle with the panic in my chest that is telling me we need to be all grown up. Because suddenly we have the eyes of all of our family and friends on us, and they’re wondering (rightly so) how are you guys going to survive when neither of you is ready to give up your passion for something more stable? I’m an under-employed actress/writer/singer in a deeply loving, committed relationship with a philosophy student…. everything about our relationship is grown-up, except our finances. And I’m terrified that sooner or later one of us is going to have to give up the ghost, and as the more practical of the two of us, that someone might end up being me. Even if my fiance does end up in grad school, which is the plan at the moment, I still need to find a way to help him get through his education…

    Meg – how did you manage to do all that breadwinning and still keep your passions alive (as evidenced by this wonderful site)? I want to give our baby family all the hard work and energy and support it deserves, but what brought us together in the first place was our shared dedication to a life off the beaten path, and that mostly means living with uncertainty. I guess we just keep believing in each other…

    • “I guess we just keep believing in each other…”
      Yes, I think that’s it. At least, that’s what’s working for us as we both start up as freelancers at the same time!
      You’ll get through it, even if it means working in an office for a bit, as long as you’re both committed to working together to make it happen and to making sure you’re fulfilled outside of work hours. Good luck!

  • Anicka

    Congratulations to both of you. Posts like this give me courage to do anything I want.

  • Shelly

    Congratulations to both of you!

    I’m glad you wrote this post because I think it speaks not only to commitment and enduring difficulty, but also to sacrifice, which is something that’s been on my mind a lot. My fiance and I live in separate states, and because of the specifics of our situation, I will be moving to his town in the near future. There are lots of things about this that excite me, but there certainly is a lot that I have to give up to support some of his goals. What I *didn’t* realize until recently, was the fact that I won’t be the only one sacrificing something – I’m just starting to recognize how much a good marriage requires us both to give of ourselves for the other.

  • You both deserve a congratulations! It most certainly is an effort by both of you, and even more so since it fell to you to be the primary breadwinner. I was with my ex the whole time he was in law school, and it was an emotional investment for both of us.

    Best wishes as your life together takes its next turn from here!

  • Oh, this is just so sweet. That last line was just beautiful. I don’t know you guys but congratulations! We’re a broke couple too trying to make it on one salary and it’s hard! But we celebrate with every couple that makes it through the other side!

  • Congrats to you both!!! It is a joint accomplishment – we did law school (him) while dating and then moved across the country for an LLM (while engaged/married) after a few years of work. He just finished the LLM program on Friday and I felt I was in it too – although I have no knowledge of tax law to show for it, but… Love this post and cheers to you both!!

  • lfaith

    that was amazing, i just graduated from law school this Friday as well and its so true – I couldn’t have made it without my boyfriend, and as we have started planning our wedding I really do feel like even tho the last couple years were tough, i’m so glad we did it together and we’re starting our life together now. nothing could compare to him waking me up the day after graduation and saying, “i’m so proud of you.” i sent him this to read, because it is so us!!

  • Oh Meg, congratulations, I am so happy for you all! And thank you for this…ever since Ryan and I have been dating, he’s had his eye on coaching cross country at the collegiate setting. Everyone told him to give up on it and get a back up job that was more lucrative, but we stood together and went for it. And you’re right, it’s an “us” thing. We find out this week if he got a coaching job (after living apart for almost our entire engagement so he could add to his resume and I could stay employed) and I know I’ll cry!

  • Mary

    Congrats to both of you!
    My partner supported me (in every way possible) through three years of law school and then the CA bar exam this past February. When I found out a few days that I passed the bar, there was no better way for me to celebrate our accomplishments than just the two of us, together, far away in the mountains, reveling in what we had done. Together. It’s like we’re grown ups (or something).
    Good luck to your husband on the bar exam, there is light at the end of the tunnel!

    • kahlia

      wow, congratulations!
      Also, I loved this:
      “It’s like we’re grown ups (or something).”

  • Meg, y’all are adorable. Also, huge congratulations to you both for making it through that. We’re just starting on law school (LSAT prep course for him, while we’re both working), and, silly as it might sound, it’s really comforting and encouraging to see that you two (and others) have done it and made it through, and you still like each other.

    Good luck on the bar!

  • Congrats! This is huge. Is David going to be sad if he doesn’t get 500 comments (ha)?

    • meg

      Um, David will probably be happy, because then I won’t have a nervous breakdown, and I might get some sleep ;)

  • kahlia

    Yay! Congratulations to you both!

    We haven’t made any decisions as big as whether to go to grad/law school together (we met while already doing our Master’s), but we did pick up and start over in a new place together just this year. And while we’re definitely still in the midst of that experience, we’re already planning on where we’ll go next. I was thinking earlier today about how we’re actually not all that adventuresome (or so we thought before), but this is working out well for us!
    So I’m glad to see it’s gone well for you guys, too! Congratulations, not just on the momentous accomplishment of law school, but also on the huge life changes you’ve undergone along the way.
    And maybe we’ll join you in SF some day…

  • Megan

    Congratulations to you and David! I know exactly how you feel. Mister is in Law School right now. We made a similar move, leaving jobs, friends, family. And like you, I am also learning the stress that comes along with being the sole breadwinner. But we will survive and prosper. And we have learned and will continue to learn so much. And I can’t wait for the day when I can share your feelings about graduation! It sounds so wonderful…only two more years to go.

  • What a happy day a happy huge moment. Congrats.

    Also. this… ‘We didn’t plan a wedding kids, we started a life. Together.’

    this is why read APW. thank you for that.

  • AussieAndy

    Congratulations David (and Meg). As someone who has been through the law school thing, huge freakin’ congratulations. It means the world to have someone stand by you and tell you that if the scary scary essay or the great big text book glaring at you from the corner of your desk is the Goliath then you are the David and that you will overcome.

    In Australia it takes SIX years – five of law school, one of college – and my man was there with me the day I got into law school and is still with me now. He stuck by me through my tantrums, breakdowns, tears, rage (at the universe which unfortunately included him) and, most difficult, my own lack of faith in my abilities. I couldn’t have done it without him, my manly Meg-equivalent. And you’re right Meg, it does make you stronger as a couple to go through that.

    Now I’m on the other side of the fence. Supporting him whilst he gets his teaching degree. I’m still not sure which side of the fence is better. On this side of the fence I feel kind of helpless really. Oh well, once he gets through his degree we can finally get married, start (officially) our baby family and it will all be worth it.

    Congrats again guys – sorry for the long post.

  • Congratulations to you and your husband. I am that person right now as I am have been working contract on and off since getting laid off in February 2009. My fiance supported the both of us for the first 3 months of 2010 and I am working another contract right now but I am not sure of the duration. I am grateful for his sacrifice for US and I look forward to becoming his wife on 9/26/2010!!!

  • Theresa

    GOD, that’s what it’s all about.

    I remember being a full-time undergrad student, and Jake trying school, trying this-degree-or-that-degree, becoming depressed, working out of it, health problems (for both of us)…and that was pre-marriage! Our lives are woven together before the “I do,” and that’s great. But sometimes it’s so easy to overlook what you’ve been through, where you’ve come from.

    Great post, Meg! :)

  • A big one indeed :) Congratulations to the both of you, again.

  • Kim

    Congratulations to both of you! My fiance has been supporting me emotionally and financially for the past 2.5 years that I’ve been a full-time grad student…so Meg, I seriously understand what you meant when you said you BOTH worked your asses off for this graduation. Cheers!

  • Laura Johnson

    Congrats to both you and David Meg! I graduated from law school in Canada last year, and will get called to the bar in June. There is no way that I would have made it through without my partner; so I’m certain that your support and love had been invaluable to David throughout law school. Hope you both had a great celebration!

  • Sara

    I’ve loved this site from the beginning, but posts like this one prove that it’s just getting better and better.

  • Sophia

    CONGRATS to you both!
    My fiance graduated from law school last year and I’m currently in graduate school myself and we’ve both counted on each others’ support throughout. You guys just accomplished something big and deserve to celebrate.

  • Diana

    Congrats! I can totally feel ya on that bread winner thing. My fiance is a small business owner and for several years, it was totally up to me to bring home the bacon, make sure the bills are paid and that everyone could go to the dentist. No matter how hard it was at times, how I wish I could chase down a cool vs. practical job, it was worth it to support him in his dream – after all, he was doing it for a better life for US. I’m glad that you both are starting to realize the fruits of your struggles.

  • agirl

    Congratulations to you both! And yes, this is exactly what it’s all about.

  • Wow. Now I know how my boyfriend must have felt watching me cross that stage at my own graduation. We weren’t together the entire time I got my master’s but the time we were together was filled with his supportive words and actions. Not to mention quite a number of small fights because I came home WIRED at 11pm and tried to recap all my classes while he fixed me dinner at the end of his own long day. It is not easy living with us graduate school people. Thanks for such lovely words and congratulations! Good luck on getting through the bar together!

  • Banana

    Hi Meg,

    Sorry I’m a bit late to the party; I’ve been making my way through your archives for the past week (spending the summer as an unemployed undergrad has some advantages) and been doing a fine job of lurking, but this post really resonated with me. As a pre-pre-engaged twentysomething with grad school on the too-quickly-approaching horizon and an unknown future with the Boy, what you wrote is an awesome reminder that though the road of life is wrought with challenges and hard work and stress and uncertainty, IT* can be done. And when IT is done, it’s amazing.

    *grad school, law school, finding a job, finding an apt/house, etc.

    Thanks again for all your words of wisdom

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  • LCB

    Hi Meg,

    Just wanted to leave a note– I can’t believe the coincidence! I found this LITERALLY the day after I graduated and got engaged. My fiancé and I met in our first year of law school. We both worked full time and took the evening division, starting school in the immediate jolt of economic collapse. 4 years later, (aka- yesterday!) we graduated. Now we are studying for the bar. And you hit a really great point– this is work. For everyone involved. For our poor parents and non-law friends who have had to listen to us go on and on about some obscure statute and the stress. And for our relationship as an object/character/entity of its own. David (coincidence!) and I fought over answer choices, study techniques and habits, deadlines, schedules– AND fought about where to go to dinner, when to move in together, and other couple-y things. You’re absolutely right, and that was a great word for it: enormous. And a little exhausting. I know we have a long 2 months ahead with the bar, and lifetime ahead after that, but I know beyond a reasonable doubt (sorry!! had to!) that we will make it through.

    I guess I’m trying to say thanks. I’m glad to know that someone else understands all of this. :)