Big, Enormous News! (And A Story)

In which I quit my day job.

Well, hello, you.

Those of you long-time readers have probably noticed that over the last month, I haven’t been writing a great deal, and perhaps you have been wondering if something was up. Had I given up writing? (as if ) Was something going on with me? Well, yes. Something has been going on with me. Something headspinningly huge, and awesome, and scary, and also something I wasn’t at liberty to talk about yet. So instead of writing, I ran around making a lot of appointments, and waving my hands around in panic and/or excitement, depending.

You see, the week before Christmas, I quit my job to go full time on APW. My first day of working full time on the blog was Tuesday. This is what my workspace looked like at 9:30am Tuesday morning:

And no, none of this has sunk in yet.

To answer your first question (everyone’s first question), no, David does not have a job yet (though he does go to court and wear a suit a lot, so we do count him as pretty lucky in this economy). But. There comes a time where the endless martyrdom needs to end, and the risks such-that-there are need to be taken, and leaps of faith must be made. So here we are, leaping.

Let me back up the time-line and explain things a little better, now that I’m not under contract for an employer, and I feel like I can.

When we moved to San Francisco, I took a job as a research writer in an investment bank. The story of how I took that job is too long for this post, but suffice to say: New York theatre jobs were quit, New York temp jobs were acquired, boss at said temp job thought I was the bee’s knees, San Francisco jobs were offered, shoulders were shrugged and new jobs were taken. It always helps to learn a little more about how to read a balance sheet, right? Yes.

So, there I was, at an investment bank, writing about “the most boring sector in the world, banks” in 2007. And then this small thing happened, called the global financial meltdown, and there I was on the front line, writing about banks. Not the plan at all. Also planning a wedding, which was far more part of the plan, but I was doing it in a world where $100,000 weddings were the norm. Hum.

I was really stressed. I was crying a lot. David suggested I start a blog called A Practical Wedding. I did.

And then the financial meltdown really took hold. The afternoon that Lehman Brothers collapsed, I was sitting on our couch, blogging long pushed to the side, with my company laptop in my lap, my blackberry sitting beside me, CNBC on the television, trying to write and crying. Because rather unfortunately, I understood what was playing out across my TV screen, and just how bad it could get. David bundled me up and drove me across the Golden Gate bridge that day, sat me on a rock over looking the bay and the city, and told me, “See that? Even if our money is worthless next week, that city is still going to be standing, and we’re still going to be alive.”

And that’s when I decided this experiment in working at a bank? Not the best experiment. Unfortunately, I had a husband in law school, and bills to pay, and I didn’t have a lot of choices. But I could write, here at APW, and write I did. And write, and write, and write.

About this time last year, right after our trip to New Orleans, it became clear to everyone (me very much included) that writing about bank stocks was not for me. It also became really clear to me that I wanted to write on the internet for a living, d*mn it, but that I couldn’t make that happen working 6 am to 6 pm (yes, those were my real hours.) So they offered me as an overpaid secretary,* and I took it. And let me be clear, that was one of the hardest choices I’d ever made in my life. Being a secretary as I turned thirty? Not exactly what I had planned for myself.

It was, however, extremely motivating. (And I was paying the bills, d*mn it, which was something to be proud of.)

So last spring I re-launched APW. That seemed like the first step towards getting my already-pretty-well-read-blog taken seriously… but there was this little catch I didn’t see coming. The work tripled. I went from APW being a really fun hobby, to APW being a full time job, when I already had a full time job. I stopped having any free time. I kept getting really sick from the nonstop working. (And let me just add, lest this sound like a sob story, one of those times I got really sick? We were flying to Italy, so clearly things were not *too* awful. There are upsides to working way too much.) All of this time, I kept my fingers crossed that David would find a job… soon. And he didn’t (nobody we knew did).

And then Mighty Summit happened, and my take away from that weekend was, “F*ck it. I’m just going to make this thing happen.”

{Picture: Me at Mighty Summit with a little message from the universe.}

So this fall was a non-stop to-do list. Get interns, check. Get an accountant, check. Review and update my business model so I can support a family, check. Get quickbooks set up, check. Meet with the accountant to set up a budget, check. Hire interns as staff members, check. Get an office.

Oh, did I mention? I actually have an office. Of my own. That I go to, to work for myself (more on that coming soon).

So here we are. This morning I’ll get up at 7, I will get dressed in jeans and boots and a cute sweater – because I can wear that to work now – and go to my office. I’ll panic a little bit, trying to decide how crazy I was, exactly, to decide to support two people working on an internet website that I made up myself. Then I’ll shrug, make myself some tea and I’ll get to work. And so it goes.

So what is going to happen to APW you ask? Well, nothing much is going to change right this second. This site has been a full time job for the past six months, so the first thing I’m going to do is work on it during the day, and try to spend time with my husband at night and on the weekends, and sleep. Oh, and I’m going to start working on answering the last six months of emails you guys sent me. Sorry about that.

Over the next year, I’m excited that I’ll get the chance to begin growing APW into the more-comprehensive-life-resource-for-smart-and-funny-ladies that we all know it can be. I’ll expand the Reclaiming Wife section, I’ll bring on new features (the return to the How-To column is the first of those). APW will keep growing, but its focus and message is staying exactly the same: you can build the kind of life you want for yourself, no matter how much money you have. The only difference? I’m actually going to be doing that for myself now too.

Oh, and because I’m me, I’m going to keep right on blogging about my life (that’s what Reclaiming Wife is all about, right? Our lives?) Which will mean telling stories about building a business, now and then. I know there are tons of you who are trying to figure out what you want to do with your professional lives (Been there. That involved a lot of crying for me), and are considering building businesses of your own. So if you have questions for me, or stories you’d like me to tell, just let me know. I’ll be here writing.

And till then? Cheers. You guys made all of this possible, and I’m sitting here in my office, in my very first week of self-employment, toasting you.

*Here is the thing about being a secretary: everyone always tells you not to use the word, and to say “administrative assistant” instead. But, well, I was a secretary, and I find that, as we discussed yesterday, there are power in names. So to those of you out there secretary-ing? My hat is off to you. I know exactly what it entails, and I know it takes a special kind of grit (and some blog reading) to make it through.

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  • Congratulations and best wishes on this new venture in life! :)

  • Allison

    Congratulations Meg! This is the best news I’ve heard all week. You are such an inspiration, and I am so happy/excited/proud that you are making this transition. :)

  • Meghan

    This is awesome, Meg, and you are a total inspiration to me. Hats off to you, lady. You make me SO over the 9 to 5.

  • Congratulations, Meg! I only just started reading (I just got engaged a week ago) but already I’ve been raving about your site to everyone I know. It’s wonderful that you’ll now be able to make this site – which you are obviously so passionate about – your full time job! Congrats, and good luck!

  • holy f*ck, meg!!! this is such awesome, amazing, bad-ass news!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • sophia

    Oh my! Congrats!! This is well-deserved

  • Yaaaayyy!!!!!! There are not enough exclamation points to express how happy I am for you!! I am soo glad we’ll get to hear more of your voice. Not that the others aren’t amazing but I spend a lot of time forwarding your posts with the words “what she said” as the email subject.

    Once again you inspire me to finally get off me behind and stop doing the job I hate (pharmacist) and start doing the job I was put on this Earth to do (massage therapist and healer).

    So um yeah. Yay!

    • meg

      The world needs more healers (as someone who’s spent the last few months in intensive acupuncture, going OFF my meds), so you rock that out lady.

  • It’s really interesting to me, that given the state of the economy, how many people are doing “crazy” things like you are. I mean, sure. There are the people who are out of work anyway, so since there’s not much hope on the horizon in the traditional sense, they’re forging their own way. (My husband is a prime example of this. He’s traveling the country and writing a book about his experiences.)

    But I’ve also seen people like you, who have realized in this tumultuous economy, that money isn’t everything and “stability” is a relative term. I saw my mother give up her job of 18 years (which was becoming a toxic spiral for her) to take a leap of faith on a brand new job, that required a lot of travel (eep!), public speaking (double eep!) and a longer commute (triple eep in the Northeast winter!), not to mention that her seniority went from 18 years to 1 year, in an industry that values seniority when looking at layoff scenarios. She LOVES it, and is so much happier now than she was before she started a little over a year ago, and she’s even said to me that, if she does get laid off, she’ll “be OK.” The mom I used to know would NEVER be that calm about such a scenario.

    I, myself, have been thinking a lot about my future and where I want to go with it. I am not miserable at my job – I actually like most parts of it on most days – but I know it’s not what I want to do long term. It is, however, helping me to decide what I may want to do long term, and that is turning out to be something I always said I NEVER wanted to do, despite so many people saying it was a great path for me. Maybe they knew something I didn’t.

    These are things that people don’t think about in a stable economy, and I find it interesting.

    • meg

      The weird thing is, in a lot of ways my new job is more stable than my old job. In my old job, they could lay people off with no notice. In this job, I built something, and it keeps on chugging along as long as I do the work. Plus, when we need money, I can say, “Ok, we need X amount of money, time to hustle for it.” And you can’t do that in traditional work.

      So yes, it’s a weird time to give up a fulltime job (erm, this new job is also fulltime, but you know what I mean). But if you’re sensible about it, it can be better.

      • I do like that part where if you need more money… you can actually do things to produce it, unlike a salary gig.

      • Plus, when we need money, I can say, “Ok, we need X amount of money, time to hustle for it.”

        That’s a REALLY good point, that I hadn’t thought of.

  • JT

    Congratulations! I’m working really hard to pursue my career goals and sometimes it feels overwhelming and impossible. Hearing about others’ successes always makes me happy and relieved because it reminds me that a lot of persistence and really hard work can take you wherever you want to go. I’m looking forward to watching APW grow!
    Oh, and I LOVED your message from the universe!!

  • Awesome!!!!! Someday I will follow you and jump into a profession my heart desires. Keep inspiring us Meg!!! You rock!

  • Alice B

    Congratulations! As a not-quite-living-my-dreams-yet-but-getting-there (and over thirty) reader I look forward to seeing this evolve. Best wishes to you and APW.

  • Yay, hurrah!

    Congrats meg!
    May your new life adventure be fulfilling!

  • Yes yes yes! I’m so happy for you & for APW. Congratulations on taking the leap and I look forward to hearing more about how you made it possible and any tips you have. This is one of my favorite blogs and I’m glad the gal(s) behind it will have some free time now! Best of luck.

  • Richelle

    Hot damn!

  • Congratulations and Well done.

    Ok, so I’m recovering from surgery, which does funny things to a person, but your post got me quite emotional!

    I already think APW is a wonderful site, and I’m very excited to hear that it’s going to grow. I had no idea that it wasn’t already as official/staffed as it now is, as I read it on my googlereader, so it gets smushed together with a number of other things and ideas get muddled.
    I wonder, then, if you could tell me, because I don’t know enough about the internet, would it help you as a business if I clicked through to to the site each time I read a post on my feed?

    Best wishes for the future.

    • meg

      Awww…. it actually does help when you click through. I want to give you cookies for asking. Post-surgery cookies.

      • Haley

        Thank you for letting us RSS readers know this, Meg! I am a huge & long time APW fan and will now be clicking through to read each post. (best of luck with this new leap!)

      • Yikes, I had no idea! Granted, I end up clicking through to read the comments anyways, but I’ll make double and triple sure. Congrats a million times over and over again!

  • Erika

    HOLY HELL YES! Sweetest and most inspirational news to hear this morning after my evil boss literally had me in tears yesterday. CONGRATULATIONS!

  • Rose in SA

    Congratulations Meg! I’ve been waiting all week for the “big news” and had a sneaky suspicion from your tweets that this would be it. Well done and wow – you are brave!

  • Yay Meg!!!!!! Congratulations times a trillion! I’m looking forward to following your business lady journey. My job may be 9 to 5, but I love it, and I know how soul-scraping an unloved job can be, so kudos to you for taking the leap.


  • eRiN

    SO inspirational, at a time it is very much needed. Thank you!!

  • Amy

    You make living and actually doing dreams feel possible. Cheers to you Meg, and thanks for being the little glimmer of “it can happen, and you can make it happen” in my week.

  • Zan

    Congratulations Meg!! You can do it!!! (and we will help)

  • Amy

    Congratulations Meg! That is so brave of you, and so very inspirational. I can’t wait to see what the site grows into over the next few months and years, and I’m particularly excited about the reclaiming Wife sections growing! Because really, the N*st gets waaaay too much traffic from people desperate to talk about the whole wife and mother thing, and I hope I can just come here to have those conversations instead.

  • Julia

    Huzzah! This is great news on a snowy Thursday morning in Chicago. I take my (fuzzy with pom poms) hat off to you, thank you for APW, and wish you, David and all the APW staff the very best!

  • nicole

    Congrats, congrats! As someone who has been a reader and a fan of APW from the start, I’m so excited for you, and for APW. And hey, if you’re ever looking for a “married 2 years and a baby on the way” perspective, just holler.

    • meg

      We’re interested! Send that sucker in!!

      • I’ll start writing!

        • meg

          PS NICOLE! BABY! Just clicked through and realized which Nicole you were. Write, write, write. You’ll go in the “Wedding Graduates To Wives” folder. You were one of the first wedding grads, only fitting you should be one of the first of the new series.

  • Holy shitballs, I am so excited and proud of you. We will celebrate this next Saturday. Oh yes we will.

  • Erin

    Good, good, good, good.
    I love it when the universe is like that. Way to go Meg!!!

  • Congrats, congrats! As someone who has been a reader and a fan of APW from the start, I’m so excited for you, and for APW. And hey, if you’re ever looking for a “married 2 years and a baby on the way” perspective, just holler.

  • Kate

    Wow! Meg! What a kick. Congratulations to you and David on having the bravery and ovaries to make this happen!!!!

    • Rasheeda

      absolutely love this “on having the bravery and ovaries” !!!

  • Congrats, Meg! I know exactly how scary it can be to take that leap – but you are going to be crazy successful. I can’t wait to see where it takes you!

  • Congratulations! I just ranted about the expensive weddings and how unnecessary they are. The success of your blog and site is an indication that people are planning for a marriage and life, not just a big party. I look forward to great things from you and your staff!

  • Many congratulations Meg! I’m so very happy and excited for you!

  • Sarajane

    Congrats Meg! This is incredibly inspiring and courageous. I’m so looking forward to your reclaiming wife posts and I’m especially thrilled that you now get to focus your (obviously strong) work ethic on something you love!

  • JEM


  • carrie

    What an awesome post to read first thing in the morning. Congratulations, you effing rock. You are living your dream, and you are consciously contributing to your happiness and your life. AMAZING.

  • Congratulations and thank you for continuing to provide one of the best wedding websites there is.

  • m

    yay! good for you!

  • Meg

    Congratulations! Woo Hoo! I am so excited for you. I am leaving my job at the end of the month to go after my dreams too. It is such a boost to hear of more people doing the same. Hurrah!

  • Wow. Long-time reader but I almost never comment but I think this post warrants it. Congrats to you for creating this incredible site and making it a viable option to earn a living from. I love APW, the message it sends to readers, especially us crazy brides trying to plan a wedding, is invaluable…Thanks for everything, Meg, you rock!

  • FM


  • This is so awesome! CONGRATULATIONS! Very very exciting news and I’m so happy I’m along for the ride to see what amazingness comes next!

  • Wow! This is awesome, and inspiring.

    Reading this blog has given me so many thoughts on what I want to do with my life, so different from the conventional.

    Cheers to your big leap! Who knows, in the next few years, how many of us you might inspire to join you on the other side.

  • Chantelle

    Amazing news! Congrats on taking the leap, you are doing something big and brave, and I’m so excited for you!

  • Hooray! I’m so so so happy for your and proud of you. You have guts lady. And you’ll make it and so will this website, because it has the best, kickass content out there by far.

  • keira

    Way to go! From one 30 ish secretary to another. This hit close to home (in a great, kick-in-the-ass, inspiring sort of way).

  • Yipes stripes! This is freaking AWESOME news!!!!!!!! So so so many congrats– can’t wait to see what the future of APW holds!

    ps. I hope you are actually toasting us at work today. Just because you can. ;)

  • Congratulations! This is amazing!

  • LPC

    I tee oh ell deee you so:)! Seriously, another thing you did very well Meg was ask the right people for advice and support. Not in a needy, pesky way, but so that we who were asked felt fortunate to be part of your project. We invested in you. And your success pays us off in spades. I am very happy to know you and for my place at the fire. Go you. Go APW. Go all you young women with these risks still to take.

    • You know, the pay-it-forward attitude in this community gives me such hope for my future and for the future of the community of women. I feel that by banding together and supporting each other in the way that you clearly have for Meg and that Meg has for kids like me who are just starting this process themselves, it’s a giant f*ck you to a world that would rather have us in-fighting, acting petty and calling each other skanks.

      I’m so proud of you Meg, and so grateful that your success allows me to have a place to feel smart, successful and listened to.

      Yay ladypower.

      • meg

        Wait, I can’t call you a skank? I am SO BUMMED. There goes your next sponsored post down the drain…

        <3 You guys <3

        • If you insist… :)

          • LPC


      • ka


        I used to be one of those uber-competitive people who thought that success and prosperity were finite resources. (I blame growing up in the heart-breakingly competitive world of professional ballet, where acceptance into summer programs, roles in performances, and acceptance into companies that might actually pay you to do what you’ve been training for are verrrrry scarce.) But discovering this community really turned my misinformed attitude around. DUH, there’s room enough on this planet for all of us to pursue our dreams—and I’m so thankful for a place where I can support and be inspired by smart women who are doing just that! (And admit to being a schmuck when I need to. )

  • Aparna


  • Danielle

    Way to go Meg! If anyone can do it, its you. Your writing is a joy to read and you have a real handle on knowing what people need to hear, and saying it clearly. You are building something important here! Keep up the good work.

  • You are such an inspiration to me! And now you can do it full time and share your positive influence with even more lovely ladies. Yay, congrats!!!!

  • Amazing! SO happy for you that you are taking this leap! As someone who has leaped herself (leapt, leaped?), I can tell you it won’t be easy, but it will be infinitely more rewarding.

    This blog continues to be such an inspiration! Congratulations!!

  • Oh marvellous! Marvellous! Marvellous! It gave me goosebumps. 2011 is a pretty fantastic year already.

  • Amazing!! Congratulations!! I already love the work that you do, and am so excited that you get to do it full time now. Thank you for helping me bring some practicality into my wedding, and my marriage!

  • Oh wow, Meg! Congratulations! As a “you’re not a secretary you’re an office manager” secretary, with a husband who hates his job, a small farm plan in the works and… dun DUNNNH… talks of talking about (not a typo, we’re a planning bunch) adding to the baby family, I am all at once so inspired and also a little jealous. But then again, APW has been inspiring me for the last 2 years. Thanks for the nudge to take the leap. :)

  • Aww, Meg – so happy for you. Can’t wait to see how APW changes (and stays the same)! :)

  • Congrats! That’s so exciting and sounds like it took a TON of courage.

    • meg

      Maybe. But sometimes its way scarier to stay unhappy. So, in a way I took the easy way out, I think.

      • Marisa-Andrea

        Well said, darlin. It took me all of my 20s to figure this out.

      • THIS is a motto to live by! I hope everyone caught it.

        Congrats, Meg! Way to let your light shine!

      • This needs to be tattooed on every single person’s forehead, I think.

  • Cynth

    Congratulations!! Such great news! (As I sit here Less than loving my job, sigh.)

  • hooray!
    I’m so happy for you- and I can’t wait to read all the fantastic, awesome, very cool stuff coming here :-)

  • I am SO SO proud of you, truly. This is really fantastic news.

  • Hoooooooray for you! You and this site inspired me to quit my job and try to make things work the way I want them to; you so deserve this. Don’t forget to ask for help if/when you need it – we all want to help! Thank you for making such a wonderful place for so many women who need it.

  • Woo hoo! What exciting, inspiring, just plain awesome news! Congratulations from one former secretary to another.

  • wow! congrats meg. that is huge and very very exciting indeed. enjoy it! :)

  • As someone who worked in the editorial department of finance textbook publishing, I totally know how draining it can be to work on something you’re not into. So glad to hear about how APW came to be and how it’s growing. It’s a fantastic site; can’t wait to see what the future holds!

  • Jessilane

    Cheeky. Defiant. Very Fabulous.

  • Daly


  • AHHHHH!!!! YAY MEG! I’m beyond words, tearing-up-at-my-desk, excited. just over the f*cking moon. AHHHHH!

    • ka

      What dday said. :-D

      • I said that (“What D-Day said!”) in my comment, too. :)

  • Meghan

    MEG! This news is so much better than any thing I hoped for with all your “big news coming” teases. This site has been more influential than I can ever say both in navigating being an independant and thoughtful engaged woman and now wife, and has made me think deeper and harder about the kind of life I want to lead with my partner and for myself. I am so thankful, I could not be happier that on top of being so damn awesome, it’s now allowing you to live the life you want. Congratulations!

  • Carbon Girl

    Congratulations, Meg, on living your dream! I am really proud of you and really excited to see how this blog will grow. You are an inspiration to us all.

  • Congrats Meg! It’s always inspiring to read about someone who is following their dreams, and I am excited for you to write more about starting your own business. Even though it’s not something I’m really considering, I think it would be so helpful and interesting to hear about. :)

  • Alyssa


    *ahem* Sorry.

    But seriously. You already know how excited I am for you, Meg!

    And readers? This year is gonna rock so hard, y’all don’t even KNOW

    (but I do.)

    (know, that is.)


    • <3

      • Alyssa

        Right back at ya!

    • You’re too nice, Jolynn. Should’ve said :P!

  • Marguerite

    Yay! I have a good feeling about this. I’m looking forward to what you’ll be bringing us.

  • Jess

    There is not nearly enough of this in the world! Congratulations, Meg! I hope it turns out to be everything you need and want. I’m really looking forward to getting through the next period of time with your/APW’s insight, compassion and intelligent discussion. Go team!

    Ladies, let’s remake this world into something worth our blood, sweat and tears!

  • Mallory

    Congrats! It’s comforting to me to see people finding their true passion some years after college and such. It reminds me that I don’t need to have everything figured out right now. Thanks.

    • meg

      Yup. I think to clarify, I very much had my passion after college, and went for it. I worked in professional theatre in NYC and was rocking it out. And then I decided I hated it, and I quit. And I tried something new, and I hated that WAY MORE and I got stuck in it for financial reasons. And then I found something else I really loved, and went for it.

      So it’s ok for it to be a complicated road, and it’s ok to change your mind and be honest with yourself about what makes you happy, and it’s ok to get stuck sometimes. If you keep fighting, you’ll start to work it out, if only because you won’t quit trying things till something works.

  • Wow, Meg, amazing news – and very well deserved! I hope you have much success and happiness.

  • Wow, Meg! This is incredible news! I’ve been reading APW for a while now, not because I am planning a wedding, but because I needed strong, inspiring, funny, smart women in my life, and I found them here. In the future, I hope to be self-employed, and to see you making this leap yourself inspires me to hop out of the nest and try making a go of it. I am so excited for you and the APW community!

  • Con-fucking-gratulations. Quitting what’s safe ain’t easy at all. I shall have a drink to you tonight.

  • WOW. I’m delurking to tell you that this is the most inspiring and hopeful thing I’ve read in a really long time. Just… wow. Congratulations. I’m SO looking forward to seeing where you take this.

    • meg


  • Hooray!! I had a hunch this was your big news, and I’m so glad to know you’re making it a reality. And we’ve all got your back!

  • Irene

    Congratulations, Meg! I am fairly new to this website (this is my first actual comment), but having read your posts and the comments made me feel welcome; I very much appreciate the pleasant, open-minded and smart thinking that one can find here. So I think it’s wonderful that you can support yourself and your family while building on this great APW community. Best wishes to you and APW!

  • AEL

    YAY! Congratualtions! I can’t wait to see what comes next. I, too, am supporting our little family (as one of the lucky lawyers who has kept their jobs), but we have the dream of making the leap in the next year to buying an old farm and starting our own business(es). We’d love to eventually be a venue for rustic weddings and maybe, one day, could be an APW sponsor! But first I need to learn how to create a business plan. And branding. And other things I don’t even know the words for yet. Maybe some topics for future posts? :D Congratulations again!

    • meg

      Yes. Also my biggest tip: ask questions. Ask lots of questions and keep asking them.

  • Congratulations! I would love to work for myself one day and am trying to take the first steps towards it this year.

  • Wow! Huge congratulations. “you can build the kind of life you want for yourself, no matter how much money you have.” thank you for the reminder. It can still be hard and hard work but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth it and you’ve made it happen. So pleased for you. (And don’t hesitate to have another fundraising drive).

  • Kristin

    Meg, I rarely comment, but I just want to say congratulations! You are so brave. Your blog and general badass-ness inspire me daily and keep me sane. Thank you!

  • so proud and happy for you. <3

  • Mel

    Woo hoo! Congratulations. I, too, just found out I got a job yesterday. Here’s to new beginnings and moving forward! Hey, and let us know if you need anything, OK?

  • w00t!

  • Amy

    YAY!!! Congratulations to you, and to your husband/partner, and to APW in general! This is so inspiring- I’m 26 and considering taking an overpaid secretary 9-5 job so I can bake on nights and weekends and create a little business for myself. It’s not the job I thought I would have, but it’ll support the business to get started. Thank you for being a constant inspiration as a smart, SMART woman, and I love that APW will still be around in some form when I maybe get married YEARS from now!

    • meg

      It’s not a bad plan, I’ll tell you that. Not being broke kept me sane enough to get APW off the ground.

    • Class of 1980

      The world if chock-full of women who have used secretary jobs as a springboard. It’s a proud tradition. ;)

      • meg

        I like that. I’m part of a proud tradition. I want to put that on my wall.

  • Go, Meg! This is a good time.

  • caroline

    Yay, Meg! You are an inspiring example of facing The Fear and walking on by toward the life you want. Enjoy that well-deserved tea in your well-deserved office!

  • I haven’t read any of the comments yet. I just had to say that I am sitting here crying in joy and the culmination of all of the awesome that this has been. I’ve picked up on that this was what was happening and I literally feel that my heart will burst as I’m so excited for you, excited for us, and d*mn happy that the world has another instance of a woman doing her dreams practically and awesomely and in full support of other dreams.

    So this is a blissful glee for you, and a very selfish happy for APW as a whole, and a sort of triumphant YES to the world that another one stands strong.

  • ka

    Finally!!! There are no words for how happy I am for you. :-D

  • Congratulations! I’m a relatively new reader of the site but I immediately realized what a great resource and community APW is, not just for those of us planning weddings, but for all women who are trying to figure out how to do their own thing in a world that gives us a lot of pressure to conform to sometimes-conflicting ideals. I look forward to everything!

  • Jo from Reno

    Excellent workspace on Tuesday at 9:30 am. That is a keeper snapshot!!! Best of luck to you!!! I love the story about driving over the golden gate. And as lawyer who wore a suit and went to court a lot but somehow had a weird job situation the last six months, I know the uncertainty that comes with that kind of gig… this too, shall pass. I really believe that. Why not pursue the dreams? Congratulations!!!

  • Jessica

    I was hoping the big news would be something along these lines! Congratulations, and thanks for sharing this story – it’s inspirational!

  • Morgan

    This is such lovely, exciting news. Congratulations!

  • Meg, congrats! This is fantastic. Working for yourself is such a blessing!
    You will continue to do great things. Keep up the amazing blog!!

  • So incredibly happy for you! This blog was such a lifeline for me as I planned my wedding, and I’m thrilled to know that you’re going to be able to keep up the good work full time! Can’t wait to hear more about your continuing adventures building this business and growing this awesome community.

  • Tonia

    Too. freakin. cool.

    I somehow feel honored to be a part of this, even though I didn’t do anything except fall in love with a blog, read the crap out of it, and care about what happens to the people who are behind it.

    Break a leg! (Do theatre people still say that?)

    • meg

      Yes they do. And your reading is part of what made it happen, don’t kid yourself.

  • amy

    Standing. Ovation.

  • Sara

    way to rock those boots, Meg!

  • Jen

    I love this site more and more everyday.

    Congratulations Meg!

  • tupelohoney

    Meg, this is really inspiring!!! Congratulations to you for taking that leap!

  • Holy cow, that’s fantastic! Congratulations!!!!!!

  • yay! I am so excited for you. I am also happy that we could (stealthily) help you raise some of the money to make this fabulous transition.

  • Jenny

    Sweet! Super excited for you and if it was not already impossible to look forward more to reading this blog, I am more looking forward now! That was terrible english. Anyways, as an approaching 30 woman who is wanting/considering/obsessing over starting a new business and who found out two days ago that my current work project is “on hold” I need some inspiration careerwise. This is just what I needed to hear today.

  • Analise


  • Congratulations! I was wondering if this was in the works for you soon. I am so happy for and proud of you that you are making your career dreams happen!

  • Congratulations! This is such a great and obviously needed step for you and I am SO looking forward to the growth of the Reclaiming Wife section. You continue to inspire!

  • Congratulations Meg!!! When I quit my job for photography I had a smile plastered across my face for 3 months. I hope many warm fuzzy feelings come to you for taking this amazing step! You rock my world!

  • kyley

    Congratulations!!!!!!!!! I’ve been reading APW for a looooong time, and I am so very happy to hear this, Meg. You deserve. All the very, very best.

  • Marley

    Congratulations!!!!! This is really awesome and very inspiring!

  • Kristen

    Congratulations – you are an inspiration!

  • Wow. Wow! Congratulations!!!

  • mere…

    As I sit here at my desk as an “office manager” (read: secretary extreme) having my umpteenth freak-out since coming back to work after the New Year about what I’m doing with my life and why exactly I am letting myself work at another dead-end job that comes with very little respect and a great deal of b*tch work – your footnote made me feel like there is hope. Knowing I’m not the only one and reading your story, I was given a dose of hope that I desperately needed this week. Thank you – and best of luck on all of your new endeavors. I know you will do amazing things!

  • 1. Yay for leaping! I am so, so excited for (and proud of) you!
    2. David is seriously awesome. I think he might save the day more often than anyone else I know (besides my own partner, obviously)
    3. Yes, please do talk about developing a business. To paraphrase what D-Day said on Twitter, when you do these things, it makes us feel like we can do these things.
    4. YES + *happy sigh* to expanding Reclaiming Wife. I can’t wait! Of course you’d mentioned it before, but it’s more real now that you’re working full-time on making it happen already!

    • Also, 135+ comments in 4 hours? Rockstar.

  • Yahooooo! So, so, so, so stoked for you Meg. You truly deserve this. Let us know how we can continue to support you, because we need you. For real. Cheers!

  • YES!!! I’m so happy for you! Go Meg!
    And I’m so excited about Reclaiming Wife!
    Requests: More money talk
    More building your own business talk
    More Meg

    • meg

      Awwwwww…. noted.

  • I’m so so so so so so happy for you! Keep on keepin’ on and we’ll back you up! <3

  • Carreg

    That’s fantastic — congratulations!

  • Congrats to you Meg – APW will continue to move in wonderful directions and grow tremendously, and hopefully now that you don’t have another job to worry about, you can do the same! And here is to very-smart-and-over-qualified-fancy-lawyer husbands getting jobs!!!

  • Amanda

    AMAZING! THIS. Calls for another APW SF cocktail night…but with YOU there this time to toast to!! So inspiring, from one super secretary to another. So excited for more Reclaiming Wife! =D

  • You are a total badass.


    And then Mighty Summit happened, and my take away from that weekend was, “F*ck it. I’m just going to make this thing happen.”

    I’m a secretary. I went from office secretary to personal/semi-executive secretary (I get to plan someone else’s travel, goodie!), and have put off graduate school TWICE (once so we could figure out where my husband was going to graduate school, once to plan and pay for our wedding). I am applying for next fall and praying for financial aid.

    I’ve been having this (really hard) conversation with my mother all week, and I’m forwarding her this link. Because you know what? FUCK IT.

    • Fuck it indeed.

      I’ll be hoping that you get financial aid as well.

      • Thanks!! My husband is in graduate school and thankfully has full tuition plus a fellowship (lucky PhD candidate!), but we need my salary to pay the bills. If I were in graduate school full time, I need either financial aid (please God) or loans. Since applications are still being considered and I’m just completing the FAFSA (ugh), we still have no idea what will happen. But not trying is even worse. So Fuck It.

        Thanks for the words of support, Kimberly. :)

        • I am planning to make that leap sometime in the next 2 years. I would kill to enroll this fall but it will likely be next fall. pulling for you to get the finaid you need!

          • Yeah, I put it off for a few years. First, we didn’t know where my husband would be going to graduate school, so applying didn’t make any sense. Then we got engaged, and so my time and money went to planning the wedding. I had to cram working on my applications in after we got back from our honeymoon, but I wasn’t about to wait another year. Good luck!!

        • meg

          Fuck it is right.

          And fuck travel. And expenses.

          • Time to start MY life, and MY dreams. I’m done waiting.

            …..oh, fuck expenses. Fuck international expenses with four different currencies.

  • That is just all kinds of AWESOME and I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t jealous!

  • Amy

    Congratulations to you Meg! This is really something. I’m a little bit jealous that you’ve figured out exactly what you want to do in your life right now :-) You are an inspiration to all of us!

  • Kashia

    YAY! That is so so exciting, and inspiring, and wonderful! Congratulations!

  • Madge

    oh hurrah! What a kickass role model you are, Meg! thanks for that :) i hope it’s more than everything you dreamed and hoped it could be!

  • HOW AWESOME! Your journey to this place (of owning your own business) is INSPIRING!

    I’ve been reading for about a year now.
    I am not married.
    I am not a wife.
    And I am not (yet) engaged.

    But I LOVE what you do!!! LOVE it! :)

    Keep at it! You’ve got a loyal reader in me! :)

  • Aimee

    Congratulations! As someone planning her own leap, it’s incredibly inspiring to read about others who have the courage to forge a unique path. Thanks for this site, and for your continued passion.

  • Vmed

    See and here I thought you had sold the rights to your story for film-making purposes (which I am still hoping will happen).

    But seriously, way to go, Meg! Your post about doing the scary asking (where the answer might be No) really REALLY made me think about how kickass a lady can be in this world. And of course:

    This. Kickass.

  • Ara

    Congrats Meg! I’m standing several years on the other side of taking one of those huge professional leaps and it was the scariest, most wonderful, fulfilling, and life-changing decision I’ve ever made. I don’t regret a second of it, and I wish just as much success, happiness, and adventure!

  • yea, you did. way to go lady.

  • Meg, that’s awesome. Congratulations.

    I did the same thing right after I got engaged. I went from a temp secretary to a small business owner and planned a wedding all in one year. It’s awesome on this side, I gatta say.

    And although I loved APW a lot, I think I might love it a little more now. I’m always excited to find ways to support women business owners, and now every morning when I open up APW I’m doing that. I feel like I’m a part of some powerful sisterhood.

  • lolo7835

    So many comments to wade through, but I’ll just say YAY! And that you are so brave and amazing to take this step for your own personal professional growth. I LOVE it.

  • Ooooh, excitement!!! Copious exclamation points worth of excitement!!!!!

    Wishing all good things – including lots of consistent income – for you. And I’m so glad you won’t be sick anymore! I can’t wait to see what you do with your new, health-supporting, full-time jawns.

  • Harriet

    Congratulations, Meg! 6 months ago I would have laughed out loud if someone told me I would be checking a site with “wedding” in the title every day (okay, multiple times per day, and sometimes on the weekends when I forget there is no posting), but I am so, so glad I found APW.

  • Congratulations!!! That is a hella brave decision to make. I hope that having a little time to take a deep breath and hang out with your husband will make for a happier and healthier new year for you!

  • Lauren K.

    Congratulations! That is completely, absolutely, and utterly wonderful. I’m looking forward to continuing to read this site.

  • This is so awesome, Meg. It struck a chord with me because I myself currently work for an investment firm, more specifically in the world of Compliance. It can be seriously boring as hell, but it’s a job and it’ll have to do for now. I also love to write, and edit things, and so with this job, I take what I can in terms of writing and proofreading/editing people’s work here, so maybe in the future I can use that in my resume for a job that is more in the field I want to go in.

    Anyway, just wanted to say congratulations to you and let you know that this is definitely inspiring. It’s something I can look at for the future and gives me a boost to definitely achieve what I want with my life when it comes to a job… which would be writing/editing (total English nerd alert).

  • Rachel

    I needed this today. I’m getting ready to quit a job that I love because the environment has become toxic to my mental and physical health. It’s a place I’ve felt a strong sense of belonging for over 3 years, but I can’t live forever with insomnia and thinking I might be getting ulcers. My plan when I quit? To volunteer at the local SPCA taking care of animals that people haven’t been kind to before.

    So, Meg, I feel ya. And thanks for being brave. I promise to do my best to make this worth your while.

  • Oh yey! This is really happy news to come home to today :)
    And it gives me inspiration and hope as someone still stuck in a soul-sucking job and tyring to figure out next steps. I love hearing the success stories and yours is the best kind, when you know the person really deserves it.
    Enjoy the rest of your first week doing what you love!

  • merryf

    I’m sitting here at my desk just about crying tears of joy for you. Hooray for you, Meg. I’m so thrilled that you could take that step and I’m so jealous that I’m not brave enough.

    You are doing such important work here, I’m so thrilled to watch you build APW into a force to be reckoned with — not that it wasn’t already, but I’m so excited to watch what happens next.


  • Fitz

    Hooray! I know we’ve never met but I am so proud :) I can’t wait to see what happens next!

  • A BIG congratulations to you, Meg! I am so happy for you, and I can’t wait to see the Reclaiming Wife section expand. Thank you for everything you do!

  • Kate

    Meg! This is so exciting. I haven’t commented much before but I want you to know how awesome your site is and how happy I am for you. I’ve been reading for a year or two as I was dating my fella… we got engaged in December, and I feel like having been a reader has prepared me really well to NOT freak out as we begin the planning process. So thank you, and I’m so happy for you!

  • Lor

    As always you are an inspiration!
    You going out on your limb hopefully will lead me to one day going out on my own limb!

  • jenb

    This is so effing awesome. Way to go, Meg! You’re an inspiration. And I’m super excited about where APW will go.

  • YAY!!! Congratulations, that is SO exciting and inspiring! Please keep us updated as to how it goes. :)

  • Congrats! It’s better already (just look at all those lovely pink comments!) I would love to hear more about the hustling side of starting a business. I also can’t wait for more, more, more Reclaiming Wife. Here’s to 2011!

  • Meg, you’re the best! I cried reading this because I am so, so happy for you. And I am so proud of this community and how many smart, awesome women there are reading and commenting every day (and sharing dresses and stories and everything else!). Congratulations on your leap of faith and if you ever need anything, let us know and APW will come through for you.

  • Hoppy Bunny

    Yay to following dreams and taking risks! I am in the middle of a job experiment myself, and this totally gave me hope that it will all work out if I hustle hard enough and keep my dreams on the front burner. Congrats Meg!

  • Rasheeda

    So I read you every morning before my feet hit the floor…and this morning you gave me so much to thank the universe for…and I came back to this explosion of love. Had to throw my congratulations in the ring because you do this for us…

    “We are here because you taught us
    that sisterspeak can continue to be our native
    no matter how many languages we learn as we
    move about as citizens of the world
    and of the ever-evolving universe.”- Pearl Cleage

    Thank you for all the G.O.O.D. (getting out our dreams) that you do…Rock on, like only you can!

    • meg

      Teary. Thank you.

    • Mel

      Woah, Rasheeda wins for best comment! Gorgeous.

  • Cristina

    Congratulations, Meg! You are an inspiration. This is a year of many changes for me (and for many people on this wedding site, obviously!), and it is always great to hear about other women taking risks, making empowered decisions, and doing what is best for them and their families.

  • Stephasaurus

    Congratulations!!! Not only are you a reminder that it’s okay to not have everything figured out right out of college (like most of my friends somehow managed to do), but you were part of what inspired me to finally start the photography blog I’ve been wanting to start for a couple years. Well, you + the fact that I finally have free time now that I’m done with school. ;) Keep on chugging and I’m excited to keep on reading!!

  • Congratulations!! Your journey is very inspiring and motivating and I wish you best with the future of APW !!

  • Ashley B

    What an inspiring choice to make for yourself and your family. As a secretary type person who isn’t quite sure what she wants to do with her life, it’s making me hopeful to hear from someone who has made it work.

    I’m soon-to-be engaged and can already tell that your site is going to keep me sane (and practical) through the wedding planning process. I’m having a blast going through the archives and seeing how the community has grown and of course, getting ideas for my own wedding. Hopefully I can contribute a post during my own experience.

  • Amy

    Congratulations, I look forward to seeing what happens! You (and everyone who contributes to this site) keep me sane.

  • KWu

    I am so proud of you, Meg!! Congratulations.

  • Mollie

    havent read all the comments but i just want to say AHHH!

    i’ve been reading religiougly, commenting sporadically, donating minimally, but LOVING everything and recommending this site to every one i know who is engaged.

    basically, so so so excited for you, maybe more than i should be for someone i’ve never actually met, but you know.

    !! eeee!

    ps. used printable press invites for my wedding, and, um, SO many compliments.

  • Lindsay

    Awww hell yeah Meg! This site is completely invaluable and it’s an awesome accomplishment that you can now run it full time without making yourself crazy. Congrats and thank you!

  • congratulations and can’t wait to see what comes out of more time and your OFFICE – woot!

  • Andrea

    aaaaaaannnnd more congratulations!!!
    This is beautiful. Every time there’s a post even vaguely related to business-building (this includes basically every sponsored post by your kickass entrepreneur sponsors), I sit at my desk and brainstorm and make ridiculous flowcharts and write out ideas and think more and more that I could make those ideas a reality. This morning was no exception. Thank you for that.

  • Heather G

    First, it’s my birthday and what better gift than to see the ONLY blog I read religiously take a giant leap! I mean this. It is a gift that we have exposure to a blog that is dedicated to openness, promoting each other, demoting the “shoulds,” AND support for the after wedding part (yeah, the MARRIAGE). And it is also a gift when we get to see how other people make what they love their living. Cupcakes are also nice, but this is longer lasting.

    Second, this reminds me of the quote, “Leap and the net will appear.” (Sure, you’ve probably done a TON to prepare that net, but still.) Congrats on the Leap.

  • Steph

    Meg, I’m de-lurking to say thank you. I really needed to hear your story today. You’re such an inspiration, not just for those of us who want to start our own ventures, but to people like me who just need a shove to do what they really love instead of what is easiest. Thank you for your continuing honesty and for letting us all be a part of this with you.
    In other words, this is the kick-ass-ing-est news I’ve heard all day!

  • And Cheers to you. You should also be toasting yourself for making it hapen. If you didn’t have a current voice with valuable things to say, nobody would be listening!
    Soooo… Cheers to you! and keep up the good writing and just don’t loose your voice in the oversaturated and noisy wedding arena.

  • Anicka

    Congratulations! You’re an amazingly brave person. I’m really looking forward to that even-more-comprehensive-life-resource.

  • I’d like to be the one-zillionth person to congratulate you!!! And maybe more importantly, to thank you again for you awesomeness. Just at the moment when I feel like I’ve fallen out of sync with life, it is often you who pulls me back in and reminds me that there is loveliness and kindness and sanity out there for me to hold onto, if only from a distant computer screen. Good luck with this most amazing of sites!

  • Meg, I can’t tell you how happy I am for you. I’ve been reading your blog since summer of ’08, and to have seen it grow the way it has is amazing. I’m so glad you’re finally able to focus on what YOU want to do.

    The timing of your announcement is kind of funny for me: I finally decided (this week!) to plan an exit from my mentally & emotionally draining job (I totally empathise with all the job-related crying – some days I can’t stop) so I can actually start figuring out my coffee shop plans. Big & Scary, but that’s alright. And it’ll be a while yet (husband to start law school in the fall), but at least it’ll be something to look forward to.

    Thanks for taking the plunge. It helps me to know it’s possible.

  • Congrats, Meg :-) I’ve been DYING to know what the big news was. This is fantastic! I love the part in the beginning where you said “shoulders were shrugged and new jobs were taken.” Haha. That’s how I felt about joining the Navy after college. I mean, why not? It’s been a great experience full of amazing opportunities (not to mention stable during our economic crisis), but 5 years in I find myself in a job I really don’t enjoy (working in Finance and managing balance sheets, strangely enough). It’s taken a lot of thinking, but I’ve finally decided to walk away. Into the unknown. I’ll be honest, it’s pretty scary some days, but you’re right when you say the thought of staying unhappy is scarier. So. I’ve gone from majoring in English, to Finance in the military, and now I want to get into speech and language pathology with kids. Sort of a meandering path through life… it seems I figure things out best by process of elimination! Anyway, best of luck to you; I love APW and am so excited about all the wonderful things to come! Most of all, I’m happy you’re finally working for yourself, doing something you love and that feels meaningful to you (and to a lot of us, too)! Congrats.

    • Denzi

      Oh man, I am totally figuring stuff out by process of elimination, too!

      Lab assistant? Hmm, major depression, anxiety disorder, suicidal ideation. Um, no.

      Grad school? Hmm, f*ck no.

      Part-time glorified secretary/event planner? Uh, no, but getting closer…

      Volunteer stage manager? Getting closer…

      Best of luck to you, Kelsey, as you make your own leaps of faith! :)

  • Rymenhild

    I’m so very glad. Luck and deserved fortune in this new endeavor.

  • Yes. YES. Run with it, we’ll be right there with you. So so very happy for you!

  • That’s absolutely wonderful! Best wishes – I hope you love it!!

  • Kathryn

    Congratulations!!! I spent a long time in the Finance industry (great experience, but it didn’t exactly give me the warm and fuzzies), and now I have my dream job teaching people about leadership and how to make better decisions. I don’t ever look back. Kudos to you for making it out alive and doing what you love full time! ;)

  • Class of 1980

    Okay, my first comment is …

    OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!

    My second comment is that I did my fair share of secretary work AFTER 30. Indeed, in my generation you could find a much larger percentage of women doing so. And may I say that I hated it when people started saying “administrative assistant” because they felt “secretary” was demeaning. I wondered when it went from being considered a respectable job to something that needed a new name to make everyone feel better.

    Anyway, I despised it and it made me lose my sense of humor for a while. The only upside is that I worked for so many grammatically-challenged people that it forced me become a decent writer myself.

    I still use those skills even now that I own a business. So, there’s that.

    • Morgan

      As an admin assistant (and yeah, I’m going to argue and say that I am that and not a secretary), some of my work is so far away from what I consider secretarial work. I schedule hundreds of people on 737 planes, get to tell off managers for major international corporations when they screw up, do ad-hoc projects for five team leads and a group of ~30 people. I get to travel to the field to inspect my work. I get to be involved in billion dollar projects.

      I don’t: take minutes, do my boss’s powerpoints, open mail, organize anyone’s personal life, make coffee, know shorthand, file anyone else’s papers, et cetera. I’ve had jobs like that, and this one? Isn’t.

      If names are power, and matter (and I agree they do), then I’ve been promoted away from being a secretary, and it makes me happy. But then, I’m in my late 20s, and keep getting an impression that the rest of the world looks down on my job. So I’m probably a little defensive about the distinction.

      • meg

        You may be right. I, however, was a secretary. The office managing kind, who worked for 30 people, but a secretary none the less (and treated as such).

    • Morgan

      Addition: I think the new name reflects both the change in scope of tasks, and because yeah, people ARE demeaning about secretarial jobs. Why would I want to call what I spend 40 hours a week doing a name that too many people say with a sneer?

      • Mel

        Morgan, just want to say I think your perspective makes sense.

      • Class of 1980

        Morgan, I’m coming from a different place and time.

        I was pissed off about the sneering in the first place. You see, I am old enough (52) to remember when “secretary” was not sneered at.

        You didn’t see the sneering in the 1980’s, even though unprecedented numbers of women were going into management jobs. In fact, in my very early twenties, I worked at an oil company where some of the secretarial jobs were coveted if it involved working for an officer or president/vice president of the company. Those secretaries had their own ENORMOUS decked out offices.

        It only became sneered at later once women achieved management jobs on a regular basis. I remember the exact moment I knew the sneering had become a mainstream attitude. In 1992, Michelle Pfeiffer starred as Cat Woman in “Batman Returns”. Her character was very down trodden and put upon until she turned into Cat Woman. There is a scene where someone says she is a “secretary” and she very defensively says she’s an “administrative assistant”.

        A couple of months before that movie came out, a female manager I was working for said “Oh, you’re an administrative assistant – you’re MORE than a secretary.” It wasn’t TRUE. My duties were the exact same as any secretary had always done and I was insulted that what I did for her everyday was evidently something to be ashamed of.

        I also remember a guy I worked with on a side job who had achieved absolutely nothing with his life say “I always thought the term “secretary” was a demeaning title.

        The whole point was I never anticipated that opportunities for women would result in a new lack of respect for certain jobs! It seemed like saying you were a secretary became akin to saying you were a street walker!

        I didn’t enjoy secretarial work because my personality is happier working independently and making more decisions. I knew I wasn’t going to do it forever. And now I own a business.

        But I didn’t feel like I needed to apologize for the job either! Oh, and I never once knew a secretary who got coffee for the boss. Also, shorthand was dying out by the time I came along.

        Morgan, I agree that you are an administrative assistant. But as I said, the advancement of women should not have resulted in the disrespect that is rampant now.

        • meg

          Really, really interesting stuff…..

          • Class of 1980

            Yeah, the curse (or blessing?) of getting older is that you find yourself marching to the beat of a different drummer more and more.

            It’s okay though because you also get less and less wound up. ;)

  • Big congratulations! You have made something truly unique and amazing here, which I know has changed lives and relationships, and I wish you and everyone on Team APW the absolute best of luck.

  • Sarahbean

    Awesome! You go girly- when you’re sitting in that armchair in a retirement home you can say you lived 110% and followed your dreams. Immense!

  • Kayakgirl73

    Congrats. Onward and upward with APW. I love the Reclaiming wife material. Thank you for your hard work.

  • Amber

    I read this post with tears in my eyes. You deserve nothing but the very best and thank you for empowering so many other women with this story. We are all right here at our desks silently cheering you on.

  • aarika

    Damn good for you Meg! Cheers, I can’t wait to see how you grow this =)

  • Danielle

    Girl(s), you are awesome! THIS is awesome!

    I want to say that lowering our expectations as we turn 30 has probably happened to a lot of us… as secretaries, or INTERNS, or volunteers, as we wait for this crazy economy to work itself out.

    CHEERS to you for creating opportunities for yourself and inspiring others to do the same.

    (Sidenote: If you want a wedding-dropout post that includes international relocation, please let me know!)


    • meg

      Of course we want one of those!!

      • Danielle

        Awesome dudette! I will take some time to think about it and then email it to you. It will have to be anonymous though, and some details will be vague in order to protect the (not-so) innocent…

  • Tracy

    Thank you for sharing about your leap of faith – it helps me to handle mine. I’m about to quit my very stable job to move with my partner to where we really want to live, and how we really want to live, but without certain employment. Scary, very scary, and sometimes sounds so unpractical. But I truly believe it’s worth it. So Cheers to taking a career risk for the life we want to live. I’m glad you have faith, and I will have faith too. Congratulations and good luck.

    • Me too. I made a leap of faith in 2009, and am still trying to figure out how to navigate it all and am in kind of a waiting phase (career-wise) cause of immigration stuff. But I think (hope) that will be over in the coming months and so I am trying to figure out how to pursue my dreams in this still-new-to-me country. So I hear you on the scary aspect and the idea of trying to figure out how you handle the leap of faith.

      Good luck to Meg and all of us who are trying to follow our dreams now and those of us trying to work up the guts to follow our dreams!

      • PS. I love the new way commenting on other people’s comments is set up!!!! Fabulous. :)

        • meg

          I know, right. I finally had time to fix that yesterday. Or, uh, get it fixed is more like.

  • Amazing. You are just amazing – both in what you have already done and what you’re taking the leap of faith to accomplish. Well done, you!

    And this may have been the prompt I need to finally write a Wedding Graduate post and send it to you & your team, with fingers crossed. :)

  • Libby


    As someone who started practicing law 17 years ago, and has wanted to do something ELSE, but hasn’t, for about 16 of those 17 years, I’m really thrilled for you! APW was a godsend for me this year — I had a not-very-good first marriage, all 16 years of it. I spent two years single, and learning how to be a grown up on my own, and then met the most wonderful man in the world.

    I’ve gone from not believing in marriage or thinking it could be worth doing, to a happily married for the second-and-last time dammit, woman of one month! I spent two years engaged this time, and was completely overwhelmed by the idea of a “wedding” and whether to do and what to do. I found APW shortly after we set a date and it is the site I still read, even though I’ve survived the process.

    I think most of y’all are younger than I am, but you have SO MUCH wisdom to offer, even those of us doing all this stuff for the second-and-last time. Such a wonderful resource and I am so determined to work harder and put more into my marriage than I did the first time and I’m so happy to have this phenomenal relationship — whoda thunk I would be THANKFUL that husband #1 would have a girlfriend and decide he wanted out? I’ve often thought about sending her flowers as a thank you :) APW and Reclaiming Wife ROCKS. And all of you that share your stories do too — what a wonderful community!

    Go Meg! And Alyssa, and Lauren!

    Libby (and Meg, I would like to submit a grad post at some point, and appreciate the note you sent about wedding dress fabric — I eventually found the most gorgeous silk for the Vogue vintage 2903 dress pattern and happily rocked it, with a tiara, for my wedding!)

  • Anne

    Congratulations on taking your bold leap! You’re an inspiration!

  • Abby C.

    YAAAAAAyYYY Meg! And the rest of Team Practical!

    Can’t wait to see what the future brings.

  • FrozenPenguin

    Love it! Congratulations!

  • Denzi

    FUCK YES MEG!!! \o\ /o/ \o/ *more dancing*

    I am so excited for you to get to support yourself by doing something you love. Plus, it is making me think more and more that I can dream of event-planning as a career and succeed. You are a role-model and pure awesomesauce. :D :D :D

  • Caitlin

    ahahhha congratulations! Wonderful news and I am so very proud of you for taking the leap, it is a wonderful move and such an inspiration!

  • You go girlfriend. Thrilled to hear!

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  • Marchelle

    And now you take over the WORLD. :D

    Seriously, lady. This? This is AMAZING. And you are my inspiration. One day I will be running my own show, damnit. Damnit it to hell, I certainly will!

  • Yay, Meg! Huge congrats and huge admiration coming from me!

  • Robin

    First- Congratulations, again, for this enormous success. I am so so thrilled for you.

    Second- It is such a testament to who you are, to what APW is really about, and to the power of community in general, but also, too, the community you have created, that the comments today are filled not just with expressions of congratulations (of course) but with voice after voice of people who feel inspired, encouraged, levied and *personally* joyful over your success. This, to me, is HUGE.

    So…mazel tov, and thank you. For modeling for all of us what it means to chase down your dreams and catch them (in sparkly vintage shoes, natch). And for giving us a space to cheer and carthwheel for you and for each other.

  • Hannah NJ

    Congratulations, Meg and Team APW. As someone who often makes impulsive decisions based on intuition, hearing about how you did all the work asking questions and getting set up so that you could do this is inspiring to me. It’s the preparation phase of the going-out-on-a-limb-to-find-the-fruit that I really really love to hear about. And thank you, Meg, for sharing this story with us. I feel so so lucky to have found APW when I did (mid-2009) – I’m not engaged or married – but I do feel that I have ‘a place at the fire’ here as Lisa puts it so well – and space to share hopes and dreams and fears – and that is invaluable.

  • Another Emma

    I read this at 1 in the morning last night (australian!) and I couldn’t write back because I was worried that my iPhone keys clicking would wake my fiancé up. But I went to sleep with a giant grin on my face. And the first thing I had to do this morning is come online and tell you that I am SO PROUD. And thrilled, and inspired. Well done Meg. Congratulations times a million.

  • Stephanie

    Wow, congratulations Meg for having the guts to “take the leap”. I’m so excited for you and thrilled that APW will be exapanding. I want you to know that even though you never met most of us, we are behind you 100% so you don’t have to feel scared or worried that it won’t work out financially or otherwise. When you really LOVE what you do, everything falls into place.

    Congratulations again!

  • Hugs to you and congratulations! It’s time.

  • Hooray! This really is big, enormous news. I love APW so much that I tell many, many people about it. Now I will be sure to tell more.

  • Kate

    I have neverEVER commented on any blog, period. But I’ve been reading this one since way before there was pretty lace at the top and continue to draw daily food for thought/inspiration from the community you have built. I couldn’t resist adding one more well deserved YYEEEAAAHHHH!!!! Thank you for leaping- and for encouraging us all to do the same, in whatever sense applies.

  • Congratulations! APW helped me immensely through my wedding planning, but I keep coming back for all the wifey wisdom around here. (I’ll click through from Google Reader, too… good to know.) I’ll look forward to more of Reclaiming Wife. Enjoy the new adventure!

  • Welcome to the ranks of us working for ourselves :) It is liberating and terrifying. I like to think of it as “liberfying” (rather than “terrorating”).

  • Congratulations Meg. So proud of you!

  • Laura

    Aaaaaahhhhhhhh! This seriously makes my heart swell with joy and excitement. So awesome, Meg!

    I have had no doubt it would come to this for the last several months of seeing APW grow, but reading this still gives me a major jolt of excitement so big it makes me a little queasy in empathy for you. woo hoo!

    There is no other place quite like this and you have such a unique voice and vision and it is so, so positive. I am personally super, super excited to see the continuance and development of Reclaiming Wife. Rock this thing! Congratulations and cheers.

  • I have been noticing a baby, pregnancy, pre-pregnancy planning theme in some of your comments Meg. I was hoping this news would be related. Reclaiming Mom would be a good site too. Just sayin…

    • meg

      No, no, no pregnancy for me. I’ve been parenthood planning since I could walk and hold a doll, so never ascribe any particular weight to those comments from me. I do own, but we’re not there yet, we’re several large steps away.

      • Andrea

        Goal: be one of the first sponsors on

        just putting it out there in the universe :)

        • Seconded.
          I just need Meg to wait 4 or 5 years so I can get to the point where I could be :)

  • kc

    Cheers to you Meg. I’m sitting in my office feeling inspired and a whole lot weepy after reading this.

  • Rock on, Meg! I got all kinds of weepy and inspired when I read this post this morning. You’re an example to all of us about chasing your dreams.

    (Also, the more I read stuff like this, the more my brain goes, “Hmm, maybe you should listen to the part of your soul that’s saying you’re really unhappy in academia and eff the voice that shouts, ‘But what would I do? How would we eat? Where would I get insurance?'” So please keep posting about bravery, yes/yes?)

  • Maria

    Congratulations! I am so happy to see that you’re taking this leap…APW makes my day every single day. Some days it makes me think so hard and others I just walk around with a grin on my face. Thank you for starting this amazingly inspiring community! Eeeekkk! It just makes me so happy! :D I can’t wait to see what else you have up your sleeve!

  • Congrats Meg!! I can imagine your decision was super scary, but really exciting and amazing! I’ve read APW for a long time but hardly ever comment. You should be so proud of yourself for building such a great community and site! I will be planning my wedding soon and can’t wait to really utilize everything here.

  • Jessi

    Congratulations! Thanks so much for writing a blog like this! My boyfriend and I have started down the getting married path. Due to job situations, we’re living about an hour and a half apart. We’re waiting until we live in the same state to get engaged. Every time I look at blogs or wedding type things, it’s always the most expensive and outlandish stuff I could imagine. I don’t understand how anyone can think Louboutin shoes figure into a “budget” wedding … because my budget will never be that big It’s great to have a practical place to go for ideas that won’t break the bank. Thanks and Congratulations again!

  • Jennifer

    Let me add my voice to the congratulations! 2011 for me is about building a freelance editing business after waiting and hoping for several years that a library job would open in my small city (and that I’d actually get hired.) It’s been so empowering to make my own job, doing something that I love. Because of my own journey, I’m looking forward to your business posts along with the posts about being a wife!

  • I am so! so! so! so! excited about this! Congratulations!

  • Ariel

    Congratulations Meg!
    And thank you for all the work that you do. APW has had a profound impact on my life. Thank you for working so hard on it, and for sticking it out through hard times in the name of doing what you love. That passion is just one of the reasons that I find APW so inspiring.

  • i know the comment is a bit late, but i read this post this morning at work and have been excited for you all day. i’m happy and proud for you and excited for all the women the site will help. HUGE congrats! and hooray for no more martyrdom!

  • i know i’m just an apw vendor with a little box ad in the margin, but i can’t help but feel like the proud father…

    • meg

      Aw. And well you should. You guys have been supporting this site for a really really long time.

  • So proud of you, lady! I think I was sitting next to you when you got your message from the universe…and look at you now!

    • meg

      Well, I was already acting on the message by then (more on that in the next few weeks). But it was a REALLY nice reminder.

  • Angela

    Good for you! Congrats! It’s been awesome to watch this blog grow. You’ve worked hard and facilitated a wonderful community. You deserve all the good things coming your way.

  • Yippee Meg!!! So, so super excited for you. Can’t wait to see what the next era of APW will bring. I’m so proud to be a part of this amazing eco-system that you’ve created. xx

  • Elizabeth

    So wonderfully excited for you and inspired by you.

  • Loz

    Although I’ve never posted before, I’ve been reading for months and I absolutely, hands down, love this site. My wedding was in November and I’m still checking in almost every day.

    Meg, I cried when I read your post about David graduating from law school, and how much you had supported him through it. I can’t tell you how happy I am for you that you now get to follow your dreams.

    Also, congratulations to Alyssa and Lauren!

  • AWB

    I almost cried when i read this- Congratulations Meg! I am so so happy for you!

  • Krista

    Meg, you are truly inspirational. I greatly admire you for being so passionately driven to live for yourself, to do what YOU want to do and what makes YOU happy, as well as for your f*ck it attitude. I hope that someday I will have the same guts to follow my own passions (once I figure out what they are), and take such a leap of faith on myself and the world.

    Congrats of APW (the little blog that could) and on all your future successes (because I know there will be many). :)

  • Carla

    Yaaaaaaaaay! *\o/*

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  • Emma

    Meg! Congrats :) This kind of bravery and attitude of “yes” motivated me to join team practical with a donation. Newsflash: that page needs a little editing to reflect how exciting it is that those funds are actually funding REAL LIVE PEOPLE making this happen! The language is the same though, “Meg’s salary, she makes that on her own”. Congratulations on being even MORE self-sufficient! Cheers!

    • meg

      Mmmm…. good point! Will do.

  • Congratulations on your leap of faith! A couple of years ago, when I was on the cusp of quitting my job to go to school full time to become a massage therapist (completely different, less lucrative field), I called my dad for moral support. He said, “do what you love, and the money will come.” Granted, this man has always been pretty broke himself, but he is happy, and those words helped a lot. So do what you love, girl, and the money will come, maybe not in massive abundance at first (but hey, maybe), but at least enough to sustain you. Good luck, best wishes, and I offer support in the form of gleeful continued readership.

  • Trudi

    Congrats, Meg on such a brave move! It’s brilliant!


    I didn’t even get to read the comments and I’m sure this has been said 1000x already, but THANK YOU for sharing your personal story about your journey of self-employment. It is so inspiring and motivating!! As someone who came here to get practical wedding advice, its great to read about big real-life topics that are (right now being thrown to the back of, but will soon be forefront) on my mind.

  • Congratulations! I love your website, and read it frequently, and I think it’s fabulous that you’ve managed to take this step! I’m very much looking forward to following all the upcoming growth. Thank you for providing and facilitating such an incredible resource.

  • Huge congratulations and so many good wishes!

  • Chelsea

    Congratulations Meg! I have been reading APW since I got engaged in the summer of 09 when I was starting and you were finishing planning a wedding. It has been so fun to see how much you’ve grown this site since then and I still enjoy visiting (though less obsessively, I’ll admit) now that I’m married. Good luck on such a big step. You’ve got balls.

  • Yay Meg :)
    This year is my year to build up to the big leap OUT of the corporate world and all those awful jobs I have had (I’m 28 and my best permanent job has been as a receptionist – after a 3-year degree and 6 years workplace experience).
    So, this year I practice in my spare time, hopefully next year I launch into doing photography solidly enough that I dont really need a full time job.
    Once thats going well, I’ll come back as a sponsor. And probably before then I’ll beg you to let me showcase with an offer to the few other lovely APW ladies down here in NZ :)
    Good luck with being your own boss. Have fun – finally!

  • Raqui

    This is wonderful news and my first time commenting, but just had to bless you!

    I am a fellow Tisch Grad and gritty NYC secretary at 35. I’ve been known to weep out on a rock at Coney Island and can be found reading Bruce Lee’s ‘Striking Thoughts’ in the law firm cafeteria. Also taking the steps to make a leap back to the West Coast, lose the secretarial bit, and practice full time in the healing arts – I’m originally from SF – grew up in Bernal Heights!

    Anyway, you’re an inspiration! And thank you for giving space to let me and all these gals enjoy and communicate our complicated, many layered thoughts and feelings about marriage.

  • Tina

    Ahhh!! I’m so proud of you! This is so motivating I can barely stand it. Watching this and you grow into what it has is quite the treat. Not only that, but the story you share is one very similar to my own these last few years. Battling a difficult job, an unemployed partner and the lot. I’m ready to do something very different, and this is the inspiration that makes it seem possible. “I think I can. I think I can,” is what I hear in my brain as I read this. Hats off to you and to everyone here that made this possible.
    All my best!

  • I did NOT read all the comments, and am coming late to the party, but I just wanted to yell a big “F*** YEAH!” at you and all the other ladies making their passion their lives. It is due to all of you that I’m attempting to do the same thing. :-D

  • Heather

    This is the first blog post I’ve ever read on this site, and I feel like I’ve known you for years :) Congratulations! I’d wish you luck, but it doesn’t look like you need it!

  • Cheers to you Meg! I am so glad to be a part of your newest series and excited to watch this site grow. Every new bride I meet gets a link to this practical community.

  • amy

    This made me break out into a big grin! It feels a little as if you’re an old, long-lost friend and I’ve always thought you deserved a turn just like this … I can’t say it better than Maddie up there so let me throw in my congrats!!!

  • Jen M

    so is it totally lame that I feel cool for having been reading long enough to see all these fantastic transformations? from the sponsors to the re-launch, book clubs, staf?!?!? ahh it makes my head spin! And I’m totally OG!!! I can be like, “Oh APW? Yea, I started reading back before Meg even got married.” lol…I’m such a nerd. So many congratulations, you are an inspiration.

  • So, so, SO excited for you!

  • Milla

    Congrats, Meg! That is wonderful news, and inspiring for all of us. Warm fuzzies for the community here.


  • so proud of you Meg. you’ve done an amazing job so far so I can’t wait to see where APW goes!

  • Christy A.

    SO FREAKING HAPPY FOR YOU!!! Wow, wit, candor, and bravery. Girl, you got it all!

  • Extragrunty

    I’ve been reading almost from the start and although I don’t comment very often (maybe 3 or 4 times total) I feel a big connection to APW. As I’ve seen your blog grow, I’ve wondered when you would go full time. I’m so happy for you that the time is now. Congratulations.

  • So happy for you, Meg! Live your dreams! Had to de-lurk to say congrats! Will try to do so more often. :)

  • I’m a little late to the party, but holy hell- BIG, HUGE, AMAZING congratulations! I’m so excited for you and the site! xoxo

  • I have gushed about this site from the moment I got engaged in June and a friend told me about! Read it as often as I can (what with being a full time student and part time worker). I’ve even linked to you on my blog, facebook and sent your URL to numerous friends! Thanks for your work, your honesty and your perseverance…it is appreciated beyond words!

  • eli

    As a newbie of today to this blog (and sad I missed so much)….you are what this business (the business part too) needs. With all due respect to blogs devoted to vintage-style photos of wildflowers in mason jars….brides need you. And post-brides.

  • Alexandra

    Huzzah! That’s fabulous. Congrats to you and all of Team Practical. ;D

  • You are such an inspiration! I dream of turning my site into a full time job, and it’s overwhelming and daunting every time I think about it and everything I need to do… reading this post was very encouraging for me. I may need to pick your brain about the whole intern thing…that’s my next step, hiring help!

    And wow all the legal stuff is expensive! :)

    As an avid reader of your blog (and now planning my own wedding this year…yikes), mucho congrats on taking the big leap into self employment!