What’s the Invitation Etiquette for Casual Friends?

We weren't planning on inviting them, but they seem to think they're coming!

What's The Wedding Invitation Etiquette For Casual Friends as Guests?

Q: Hello APW,

I’m throwing a wedding reception next year and am struggling with understanding invitation etiquette. What’s the expectation with such events? After people found out we were engaged, a lot have been asking questions about the upcoming reception and strongly hinting that they want to be invited. And we don’t consider ourselves very close to some of them and weren’t going to invite them. How does one handle this? We’re not having a “small” reception, so unfortunately I do not have an easy excuse. I’m particularly struggling with this one couple who we are not very close to, but somehow they invited us to their wedding (which is in a few months) and I feel like I HAVE to go because I don’t have a good reason not to. But, if I go, I feel I’ll have to invite them to ours and I really don’t like that idea. Any pointers will be greatly appreciated!

APW, tell us how you chose your list? What do you consider proper Invitation Etiquette, and how much does that matter? Was anyone offended by a lack of invite? Is this a tit for tat situation?

If you want the APW community’s two cents, send it to QUESTIONS AT APRACTICALWEDDING DOT COM, and we’ll do our best to crowdsource you some answers!

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