Twelve Days to Go

Today is our last day at APW before the holidays, and as the year closes, my feelings are all over the place: I’m excited to go home and see my family, baffled that the year is up, and maybe still a tiny bit exhausted (though that could be because I forgot to have coffee today). But really, I think this morning’s post from Christine does a better job of explaining the buzz around me than I can. She wrote this twelve days before her wedding (she’s married now, so let’s give her a hearty congrats, eh?) and while it’s a short piece, she nails Every. Last. Word.

—Maddie for Maternity Leave

That’s how many days until our wedding. Twelve. Is there still a long list of things that need to be finished (or, let’s face it, started)? Of course. Are we fielding emails from friends and family, coordinating airport pick-up times and planning a post-wedding brunch? Yes. Have I spent hours cutting out tiny lavender hearts, tying ribbons on things, and wandering the aisles of craft stores in a daze? How did you know?

And yet, when I think about our wedding, I don’t worry about the long to-do list. I don’t think about the unfinished projects littering my desk and taking over our guest room. I don’t think about the spreadsheet which keeps track of all the little ways we’ve gone over budget. I don’t feel calm, exactly, but I’m not panicked, either. I feel like there is a tiny alarm clock just beneath my skin, counting down the minutes until the day we’ll spend with everyone we love, until we’re celebrating and getting wine-drunk and crying happy tears, until that magical moment when our marriage begins.

One thing we’ve been practicing is wearing our wedding rings. We only slip them on at night, after the dishes from dinner have been done and the wine has been poured, when we’re sitting close on the couch at the end of the day. Neither of us has ever worn a ring regularly and, just like thinking of each other as “husband” and “wife,” it takes some getting used to. It’s not a bad feeling, it’s just an odd awareness of a part of yourself that you never paid much attention to. It feels strange, and then it feels fine, and then we almost forget to take them off before we go to bed, because suddenly it’s the most natural thing in the world.

Because of those small moments, I’m sure that, despite the scraps of ribbon and bewildered moments, our wedding will be the best day ever, and our marriage will be even better.

Twelve days can’t go by quick enough.

Photo by: Emily Takes Photos

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  • Oh wow, yes, that is exactly how it felt. It all really started on Wednesday (our wedding was on a Saturday) when we picked up my family from the airport, but from that Monday when I had supposedly already ticked everything from the to -do lists I did not stop, and I might have taken one or 2 extra last minute projects that I had not previously prepared. And then it comes, and all the joy and love and magic of the day hit you.

    • Thanks Amanda! It was definitely a joyful and magical day (if totally crazy – so many last minute things to do!), and so far being married is pretty cool, too. :)

  • Peabody_Bites

    This is really lovely – and a great counterpoint to Wesley’s beautiful and moving piece yesterday. Both focussing intensely on the tiny and all important things which carry relationships through and beyond.

    Christine: So many congratulations on your wedding. It sounded glorious in the preparation (I love the tiny lavender hearts) and I hope you revelled in the day.

    Maddie and Team APW: Happy holidays of all shapes and sizes. Have a great break at the end of this awesomely exciting, high achieving year. I am intrigued to see what next year will bring for you and for all of us. It is great being along for the ride.

    • Thanks for the congratulations, Peabody_Bites! The preparation, while crazy-making, was actually really fun. Even better was the day itself – we had a great time, and are currently enjoying quite a lovely marriage. :)

      Happy holidays to you too!

  • Gigi59

    Congratulations. I love the fact that you practiced wearing your rings. That’s always been my clue that something was exactly the right choice – if it very quickly became “the most natural thing in the world”.

    Happy Holidays, everyone!

    • Thank you for the congratulations! And just so you know – wearing a wedding ring has become completely natural, very quickly. We did without engagement rings, so having something on my finger really was a brand new thing. Not anymore! :)

  • What perfect timing – I’m 11 days out! To do list, projects taking over desk and guest room, airport pick ups going on Google calendar. And I can’t wait! Congratulations!

    • Good luck with the last minute madness! It might make you crazy, but it will be worth it in the end. Also: congratulations! You’re so close! :)

  • Really good post! I also felt that same anticipation without panic, and I noticed a lot of little things took getting used to (but also a lot of things were no adjustment at all).

    Cheers to 2013!

  • carrie

    This! While I don’t miss wedding planning, I am nostalgic about the feelings the days leading up to the wedding. We got married on July 17th so when the calendar page turned to July, that was really exciting b/c OMG it’s our wedding MONTH. And then when the weekend got there. There’s nothing like that feeling. I’m so glad you could express it in such a lovely way. Congrats!

    And to you baby brides-to-be, I hope you feel this joy and anticipation in the best ways before your weddings.

    Happy holidays, all!

  • Emily

    Yes. Just, yes.

  • I LOVE trying on the rings… and I love that both of you did it. So cute. I love love love my rings, and I look at them fondly many times a day. Wearing my rings feels natural, but it never gets old! And I never seem to tire of seeing my husband’s ring on his hand.

    • We skipped engagement rings, so it really was a brand new, totally weird experience. But you are so right – even more than wearing mine, I love seeing my husband (!) wear his. Makes me swoon every time!

  • alyssa

    okay, way to make me tear up! It’s 13 days until my first anniversary. Congratulations, Christine! You said it best: strange, fine, the most natural thing in the world.

    • Thanks lady! And congratulations on your first anniversary!

  • Thanks to the team at A Practical Wedding for publishing this little piece of mine. I’ve loved the blog for so long – it’s an honor to see my words up there.

    Happy holidays, and thanks for so much good and important posts. I can’t wait to see what y’all do in the new year!