I am staggered and confused. You saw this amazing dress on Offbeat Bride, right? And you thought to yourself, “That dress is unbelievable! I’ve never seen anything quite like it. I inexplicably want to touch it. It looks so right on her. It’s amazing.” Right? Or something like that? Because girlfriend is even selling me on a train, and I’m very mmmmeeeeeehhhh about the train as a concept.
Which brings me to why I’m confused. The bride said that she got all these comments from people* who said things like, “Well, your dress is sure…. different…..”
Were they searching for the word gorgeous, and had a complete meltdown? Have we really gotten to the point where weddings are so homogeneous that if we see a bride who’s not wearing the standard issue strapless poof that she got at engagement academy, that we have a nervous breakdown? That if someone gets married in a color that’s not white, we think they are “trying to make a statement?” That if a bride rocks a dress this awesome, all people cant think to say is “it’s different?” Because it doesn’t have to be this way. It didn’t used to be this way, even an generation or two ago.** This is it, kids. I’m fed up.
I just have one thing to say: Paula, you sassy sassy self assured bride, with feathers in your hair and teensy black buttons going down your back – you inspire me. You are clearly a woman with taste and poise and a strong sense of self. You’re dress, may I say, is excellent beyond words.
*Clarification, not from her friends, from people who didn’t know her well. But effing still.
**More on that thought later.