Not Even Cancer Could Stop This Amazing Brooklyn Wedding


A celebration made possible by family and friends

Ericka, Sexual Health Educator & Emily, Health Coach

One sentence sum-up of the wedding vibe: An inspiring very Brooklyn loving affair.

Planned Budget: $15,000

Actual Budget: $20,000

Number of Guests: 125

Where we allocated the most funds

We allocated the most funds for our catering, outfits, decorations, and rentals. We knew we wanted to look awesome, so between the two of us we spent $4,000 on our outfits (shoes, flower crown, earrings, outfits included). The Bat Haus is a raw industrial space, so we wanted to have a good amount of decor to fill the space. We spent over $2,000 on decor (this includes flowers). Rentals were $2,000. Our catering came out to roughly $10,000.

Where we allocated the least funds

We gave the least to flowers and decor in the beginning, but that quickly changed as we saw how important it was going to be fill the space with flowers.

What was totally worth it

School bus rental was totally worth it! Having the ceremony and reception in two different places with so many out of town guest, was certainly a hit to escort them from place to place. Custom-made blazer was totally worth having done. The blazers that Emily was finding were super underwhelming and not what she wanted. Having the blazer custom-made increased the cost, but got her exactly what she wanted.

What was totally not worth it

It was all worth it. Even the things we bought in error.

A few things that helped us along the way

In the midst of our planning, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. A lot of our saved money was going to hospital visits. So, we started a gofundme account and raised $15,000 generously from our family and friends. Without their generous donations, our wedding was not going to be possible. We also have a very very very smart graphic artist friend who made all of our signs and escort cards. That helped a ton!

My best practical advice for my planning self

Plan the wedding of YOUR dreams, not the wedding of your guests’ or families’ dreams. Have the elements that you as a couple value. Do not plan to please others.

Favorite thing about the wedding

Everything. Every last detail and moment was absolutely perfect.

Anything else you’d like to add

Emily and I met for the time on our way to serve as Peace Corps volunteers in Ethiopia. When we arrived in Ethiopia, we stood in the lobby of our hotel as they called off the roommates for each room. As people started to dwindle away, I thought Peace Corps really had it all planned out to have the two lesbians in the same room. Turns out that Emily and I have the same initials, E.H. After spending two days as hotel roomies, Emily and I hit it off and the rest was history. We served in the Peace Corps one hour apart and didn’t spend much time apart for the time we were volunteers. We moved back to the States and moved to New York City soon thereafter.

We knew my diagnosis would throw a wrench in our planning but we were determined to still have our celebration of love!


The Info:

Photographer: Bryan Sargent | Location: Brooklyn, NY | Venue: The Bat Haus | Wedding Dress: Lovely Bride | Suit Jacket: My Suit NY | Pants and Bow Tie: J.Crew | Boots: John Fleuvog

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  • vegankitchendiaries

    Wow. Just wow. But seriously though… WOW. This is amazingly beautiful!

  • Kayjayoh

    You both look amazing, and I cannot find a single person in any of those photos who doesn’t look to be overflowing with joy. Blessings to you both.

  • Rebekah

    Oh my. Bald cake topper. That was hands down my favorite detail, and your flower crown was a close second. Congratulations!

  • scw

    I don’t know how much that blazer ended up costing, but whatever it was, it was worth every penny.

    • vegankitchendiaries

      Can’t help but agree…

      • vegankitchendiaries

        ALSO, the dress is *really* hot. (Didn’t want to leave that out!) It’s VERY simple but also very different. I love how crisp it is and the shape and train are stellar. I can’t help but notice it’s pretty similar to the one Intern Kelsey wore, actually… it looked awesome on her too. :)

        • Hannah B

          it’s the same dress :) SEE doesn’t even matter because they look so different (both super hot)

          • vegankitchendiaries

            <3 <3!!

    • Jenny

      She got it at mysuitny … jackets start at about $200 there, custom.

  • Meredith

    beautiful!! congratulations!

  • missladyj

    Beautiful wedding!!! Kick cancer’s ass!

    Peace Corps love is the best love!
    RPCV Philippines 2007-2009 and RPCV Philippines 2006-2009

    • Kirstin K

      Also love hearing about Peace Corps weddings as I plan my own!
      – RPCV Burkina Faso

  • ruth

    The love just radiates from these photos! Thank you for sharing your story – it’s so inspiring to see people powering forward to celebrate their love in the face of whatever life throws at you. Congratulations!

  • JDrives

    This post makes me want to punch my fist in the air and shout “HELL YEAH!!” But since I’m at work, ya know, that’s happening on the inside.

  • Kelly

    DAMN this wedding is bursting with so much love, joy, and vitality! Wishing you many more years of all of those things.

  • Nell

    This is an awesome set of photos! I can tell that you all are full of energy and love for each other. So cool.

  • NMarieH

    What an absolutely beautiful celebration! I’m smiling so big right now :)

  • Claire

    That is seriously the hottest tuxedo blazer I have ever seen any woman rock. Janelle Monae included. You both look so gorgeously happy! Congratulations on your marriage and best wishes for a speedy recovery!

  • Anna

    oh my godddd this wedding is p e r f e c t in every single way!! the first photo is spectacular! congratulations!!

  • Danielle Antosz

    Love the flower crown!! And the last picture def brought tears to my eyes. Its such a beautiful, tender moment.

  • KateS

    y’all (and your peeps) are so stylish it HURTS. that first photo slays me.
    and you both look incredible and radiant. many congrats and so glad it was such a perfect day for you both!

  • effinclassy

    I love this wedding so much! I am also having my wedding at the BatHaus and I love what this couple did to decorate the space. Where was the ceremony held? Is that Maria Hernandez Park? We are also thinking of holding the ceremony elsewhere.

    • Ericka

      Prospect Park- Rustic Arbor

  • EF

    the blazers of the wedding party are also fantastic, but emily’s floors me. oh man. absolutely stunning!

  • Maya

    Congratulations; the wedding looks awesome? WHERE did those bobbleheads come from? My fiancee and I have talked about having bobblehead cake toppers, but haven’t found any we like very well yet.

    • Maya

      Awesome! No question about it.

    • Maya

      Are they fondant models? I’m even more impressed.

  • Jenni

    I love everything about this wedding.

  • Everything looks AMAZING. The joy, the celebration, the custom blazer, and fantastic cake topper….congrats to both of you. Sending good thoughts for health your way.

  • weedingcane

    Ah, APW and it’s wonderful weddings. This one is moving and fabulous. Last night I went on a UK wedding website (that’s where I live) and was asked to choose before I could look at the weddings what ‘sort’ of weddings I wanted to see, WHITE, heterosexual, or PINK, same-sex. I was outraged. I just wanted to see LOVE. So, so, so mad that I was asked to choose. I didn’t choose I just closed that site right down. Keep on going APW with your all, everyone, multi people selves.

  • Wonderful photographs, The photographer did an excellent job in my opinion. It looks like it would have been a lot of fun to photograph this event.

    Robert Knapp
    Modern Art Potograph

  • Bethany

    Super late so I don’t know if you’ll see this, but thank you so much for sharing this. I typed “cancer” into the APW search and am so glad this was the first result. I needed to read this.

  • John A Guthrie

    sweet