On Paying Attention by Meg Keene So as we approach the one month point before our wedding (Thursday!) I’m going to be blogging a bit more slowly. It’s not so much that we have piles left to do (we really don’t) but it’s that I want time to pay attention. It’s been really interesting to hear from you guys if you felt a shift in your relationship after getting married, some of you have said emphatically no, some of you have said emphatically yes. I think for us, there will be a change. Our day to day life will obviously stay mostly the same, but here at the one month mark I can feel our relationship changing a little bit at a time, and I want to make sure I’m present for that… just like I want to make sure I’m present for the wedding. So I’ll be here on the blog, but maybe three times a week, and maybe not every morning… my posts might be a bit more scattered and surprising. But, hopefully you will stick with me for the ride. In the meantime, I have to say just how much I’m being inspired by all the past wedding graduates as they grow into their new marriages. There is the adorably pregnant Cate Subrosa wrote about marriage (and you must go read the whole thing): Our dear friend Frog stood up at our wedding and confidently proclaimed, “marriage makes you free.” And I have no idea how he knew it, but he was right. For me, anyway, marriage makes me feel free. And then there is Down To My Soul who’s gone from making her wedding dress to making a baby (and being the cutest pregnant woman in all the land) And East Side Bride negotiating what a partnership means, how sometimes we bring in money and sometimes we allow our creative sides to be supported. And, and, and… I could go on all day. But finally, there is Kristina of Lovely Morning who not only helped launch the fantastic 100 Layer Cake after her wedding, but is filling our heads with inspiring visions of what a marriage can be: growing vegetable gardens and having wayward chickens in the kitchen.And frankly, I feel this change coming over us, and I can’t wait to watch it grow. I hope our wedding is a really fun party, but what I’m really looking forward to is marriage. So hang in there with me while we work on growing ours. Meg Keene Founder & Editor-In-Chief Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. She has written two best selling wedding books: A Practical Wedding and A Practical Wedding Planner. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in Oakland, CA with her husband and two children. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit MegKeene.com.