Our $35K, LGBTQ Wedding Was Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, And Texas Forever

Austin Summer Chic

constance, Assistant Principal & melissa, market communications strategy specialist

Sum-up of the wedding vibe: Texas Summer, Austin Chic.

Planned budget: $30,000
Actual budget: $35,000
Number of guests: 100
LOCATION: Hutto, Texas

Where we allocated the most funds:

Venue, Flowers, Photographer, DJ

Where we allocated the least funds:

  • Dress and Suit: Melissa’s dress was actually cheaper than the suit! She found it on Etsy and had it tailored through the dressmaker.
  • Food: We did Rudy’s BBQ. It was delicious, well-known, very Austin, and very affordable.

What was totally worth it:

Getting a wedding planner six months from our wedding day was totally worth it. Callie really liberated us from all of the wedding stress, and at the same time, made it so we were full participants in the planning. She brought great expertise and insight when making our decisions; it made us feel confident in all our choices. She also introduced us to a group of awesome women who owned small businesses here in Austin. Our florist, photographer, personal trainer, and cake maker were all incredible, hardworking women.

What was totally not worth it:

Oh man, this is really hard to answer. I hate the thought of discounting everyone’s efforts to really make this day special for us! The hardest part was spending money on things that are necessary, but we didn’t really care for. Like, napkins, or chairs. When you total the cost of all of the little things, it comes out to thousands! We rented very nice furniture to create an elegant seating area in the reception room and, although it was so gorgeous and we took a ton of photos, the cost was really high.

A few things that helped us along the way:

Our parents were a huge support financially. They helped us when they could, and we were so grateful for that.

My best practical advice for my planning self:

Always put money away when you can. Every. Dollar. Counts. Set aside a regular weekly check-in with your soon-to-be-spouse to talk through wedding stuff.

Favorite thing about the wedding:

Having our two families come together, specifically on this day, was really special.

Something else We’d Like to Share:

There were many times when I would forget that Melissa and I were getting married as two gay people. It would click, “Oh yeah, we are gay,” when I needed to contact the florist, cake maker, or the tailor for my suit. And in there was always a little anxiety about being turned away. Growing up, I never could’ve fathomed the idea I would live my life with an amazing woman, and everyone would be really into it, too. On our wedding day, I got to experience the love that had always been there for me, but also the love of my parents that was once difficult to receive when I came out. I’m really lucky they were able to complete their journey of love and acceptance with such open hearts. Through the process of planning a wedding and being at the wedding, my parents were able to see their daughter as someone who is loved and cared for, and I’d like to think that brought them a lot of comfort.

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  • Lisa

    Beautiful wedding! I love the giant floral wreath for the ceremony backdrop.

  • theteenygirl

    That ceremony backdrop is everything. Just gorgeous!

  • sofar

    It is a travesty that I have lived in Austin for almost a decade and have yet to attend a wedding catered by RUDY’S.

    • L.

      You live in Austin? Me too! But I’ve never attended a wedding here. :) However, I’ve had my fair share of Rudy’s!

    • Stephanie

      Right?

    • kayceeee

      We ALMOST had Pok-e-Jo’s, but ended up going with Matt’s El Rancho. Either way, BBQ or Tex-Mex it’s still quintessential Texas.

  • Pannorama

    Everything about this wedding is SO BEAUTIFUL. The space, the outfits, the absolute love on your faces! Your wedding looks like a total dream.

  • rqued

    I can’t decide which of them looks more glamorous. What a classy couple.

  • Lisa

    The hippo!! I think we all need more hippo wedding photos in our lives. This is amazing.

    • kayceeee

      It’s the school’s mascot – lots of businesses in the city have them outside their offices sometimes even decorated. It’s pretty neat!

  • PAJane

    Everybody and everything is so beautiful it’s almost painful.

  • L.

    What a GORGEOUS wedding! And I love that it’s in the Austin area, which is where I live, so it gives me ideas. :) Congratulations to the stunning couple! It is so very clear from your photos that your day was completely filled with love and laughter. <3

  • Ashlah

    This has got be one of the most stylish weddings I’ve ever seen. And everyone looks so happy! Congratulations!

  • Ash

    Your wedding is so beautiful, so wonderful, it looks like a lot of fun and a lot of feelings. Congratulations! <3

    This stood out to me:
    "Through the process of planning a wedding and being at the wedding, my parents were able to see their daughter as someone who is loved and cared for, and I’d like to think that brought them a lot of comfort."

    When I first came out to my mom the first thing she said "when I've thought about if my kids had to make this choice, I always hoped they wouldn't because life can be so hard for gay people" and like, we don't need to dissect this statement, but it's one of those things, and I think I've always tried to really show her that my life is so full of love. And it's just comforting to see other queer people share their love and in a gentle way really share with their family that it's okay, this love and care and soft place does exist.

  • Brynna

    This is simply beautiful! Great photos – everyone is beaming!

  • Brynna

    This is simply beautiful – everyone is beaming!

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  • Rue

    This whole thing is so pretty it HURTS (in the best way). Congratulations!!!

  • Another Meg

    That gown is bomb.

  • kayceeee

    Okay, first, these images are gorgeous!! Secondly, it thrills me to no end when I see a wedding happen in a town near where I grew up. I remember when Hutto literally had one stoplight and now they have such a beautiful venue and event space in One Eleven East. Also, props for the photo on the hippo (Hutto’s mascot).. I love it!

  • Fushigidane

    all the heart eyes

  • Congratulations to Melissa and Constance! Such a beautiful wedding. I loved all of the pictures, gorgeous wedding dress, beautiful wedding cake, and amazing floral ceremony backdrop.