One Week Out: Wedding Zen

by Meg Keene, CEO & Editor-In-Chief

Long time reader Lauren is getting married next weekend, just like we are, and sent me this email:

In 1.5 hours, we’ll be one week out. I thought you’d enjoy this picture- tonight I made what is (I hope) the last Mexican paper flower I will ever make in my life. But they’re pretty! Hope you are calm, centered, and happy- I’m finding it hard to stay calm because I am SUPER EXCITED for everyone to get here. Enjoy this last week!

And the picture she sent encapsulates exactly how I feel right now:

I was talking to a co-worker on Friday, and I mentioned that I was getting married next week. He did a double take like you’ve never seen, and said, “You have GOT to be kidding. You are so laid back I would never in a million years have guessed.” So, I sat down at my desk and tried to figure out how I felt about the wedding. And I realized I just felt happy. Not excited, not nervous, just the most Steady-Happy I have ever felt in my life. But it’s better than that. I feel powerful and very clear, like we’ve burned off all of the pollution of what we ‘should do’ and what we ‘have to do’ over this 18 month process, and all that’s left is us. Us in our most pure form.

And it’s wonderful.
Bring it, baby.

Meg Keene

Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. She has written two best selling wedding books: A Practical Wedding and A Practical Wedding Planner. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in Oakland, CA with her husband and two children. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit

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  • Glad you're feeling this way one-week out. I'm excited for you!

  • Meredith

    And that's the way you SHOULD feel! The only person stressed out before my wedding was my mom. She was stressed because she was worried I wasn't stressed enough! I kept saying that since we did everything ourselves (and what we didn't do, we were having friends do) then you have no one sketchy to rely on, no faceless florist, no wedding planner, nothing. Hope this week brings you the happiest memories!

  • sam

    I'm 10 weeks out and looking forward to being where you're at. Can't wait to see the wedding photos and hear about your day!

  • That's a great way to feel less than a week away… (I was like that too. My MIL was more stressed out than I was, and my DJ said I was the less stressed bride he'd ever seen !).

    I've just got one word for you, one last advice for these few days… ENJOY.

    (Wedding blues is not a myth, and yes, it sucks).

    I'll be at a wedding, acting as a photograph for an internet friend (I love that), but I'll think of you (and of the 2 other brides I know getting wed this WE…).

  • I'm getting married this weekend, too!

  • I've gotten the same reaction from people too. I think we're getting married the same weekend, Meg. I chock it up to knowing my limitations. My work travel schedule just did not allow me to do things like DIY. Plus, I'm not good at it. We got a lot of things out of the way, and I kept my wedding simple. Will I have a wedding blog worthy wedding? Probably not, but I am sane right now and focusing on the emotional and spiritual transition that I am about to make. I'm happy.

  • So excited for ya and I hope I can be "zen-happy" when I'm one week out (in 3 weeks!!)

  • man, do i like you! i know everything will go well for you. i have a feeling.

  • Stay relaxed and enjoy this week – you're going to have a blast!

  • Meg,
    I'm getting excited for you and so happy that you are in such a great place. Pure joy!! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy. We're all celebrating with you in our hearts!!

  • yay for feelings of calm and happiness (a little giddy too). we just got married june 26, and i remember meeting with out photographer 4 days before our wedding, and he was like "wow, you guys are the most stress-free couple we have seen." i think the only time i got stressed was a little on the rehearsal day (oops for underestimating time for the little things). enjoy!!!

  • Enjoy the week before – it goes very quickly.

  • Congratulations!!!!! I am getting married in 6 1/2 weeks and need to make some paper flowers for my Mexican rehearsal dinner—where did you get the how-to?

    xox Melanie

  • Melanie- I used the instructions here:

    My mom made them on sticks, which if you google, you can probably find the instructions for. I used a pipe cleaner instead of string to tie the middle- much faster. And the flowers you see in the picture were made by folding three sheets of tissue paper in half, and then pleating them on the half (for 6 sheets per flower total). But you can make them as large or as small as you want. Rumor has it that Martha Stewart has some instructions if you want to make them full balls (instead of just half). Sorry for the long answer- I have been living Mexican paper flowers for 9 months now ;)

  • Great, you've hit the spot! Enjoy it, enjoy it, and also, enjoy it.

  • One week! One week!

    I almost had a meltdown when I couldn't find your blog the other day. Glad to see you're back.

  • That is so awesome that you're so chill! I hope that when that time comes for me I can be that calm as well. Those flowers are gorgeous, too!!

  • aww…nice.

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