I got this question from reader Amy, and I thought it was such a good one that I had to throw it out to you all (especially you wedding graduates). Also, the title of this post was the title of her email, which made me sit up and pay attention.
How are you planning on managing the hosting responsibilities along with the marriage and wedding and events? I’m so excited to see my family and his family and our dear friends… everyone is traveling great distances to be there for us and I want to make sure they’re comfortable, happy and I want to visit with them (not just pass by in a whirl of disconnected and distracted activity). We’ve planned activities and time to spend with everyone, but I’m nervous about feeling split. I’m nervous that I’ll get so caught up with everyone else’s moments that mine will slip by.
So my personal answer is this: we’ve scheduled time to see people, and then we’ve been very strict about scheduling time that is JUST for us. The first day that I have off work is mine, I’ll sleep, I’ll hang out around the apartment, I’ll do whatever I need to do personally to get ready. I’ve warned all and sundry about that time, and will stick to it. We’ve scheduled other moments like that through out the weekend. Our time to leave our welcome picnic even has a enforcer… someone has been assigned to forcibly throw me out of the party. I think this is key, especially in a wedding planning world where you are expected to be available 24/7… after party, after-after party and all. Then, we’ve also scheduled time that is together time – a picnic, for just hanging out and chilling, a cocktail hour post wedding that we plan to BE at (Eff taking extra pictures).
So that’s my super organized type-A way of handling it. But in a less organized, more free flowing way, I think just being aware of the issue is 50% of the battle. What about you Team Practical, what are you doing?