How Do I Tell My Family We Want to Elope?

I don’t want to break my mother’s heart

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Q: Hey guys. So here’s a big one for you: How do I tell my family and friends that we want to elope without breaking their hearts? We’ve been talking about eloping for a while, because we can’t afford to spend on a wedding, we think it’s a partnership between the both of us, and we don’t really need other people’s validation. We’ve never really been the happily-ever-after types until we met each other, so we don’t really care about a wedding and traditions.

However, we don’t want to alienate the people that we love. I don’t want to do a song and dance for a crowd, but I also don’t want to break my mother’s heart. Is there such a thing as an elopement party with tacos?

Did you elope? How did you break the news to your family?
What are some of the precautions you took, or should have taken?

If you want the APW community’s two cents, send it to QUESTIONS AT APRACTICALWEDDING DOT COM, and we’ll do our best to crowdsource you some answers!

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