Wedding Dress Shopping, Round One

I must have done something good in the world, because when I went wedding dress shopping for the first time this weekend, I got the kindest loveliest woman to help me with the dresses. She didn’t talk even once about “my big day,” she told me that whatever I wore would be bridal and look beautiful, because I was the bride. And my mom got all teary the first time I cam out in a wedding dress.

That said, most of the dresses I saw looked like they were designed by a four year old girl. The little tiny designer clearly kept stamping her foot and saying “More ruffles! Longer train! Add some bows! Poofy-er! And I want a BIG tiara!” And then they sent in a 13 year old girl to bedazzle the dresses (and the veils, and the shoes).

What I learned: while I feel really traditional in the offbeat bride world because I want to wear a white dress and a veil, I feel wildly offbeat in the traditional bride world. I’m looking for a dress that 1) Isn’t strapless (impossible!!) 2) Does not have and sparkly things on it or any appliquĂŠ 3) Is not poofy 4)Does not have a big train 5) Does not look like a negligee or stripper wear. Apparently I might have better luck if I asked for the whole ocean in a jar.

I’m going to go back to looking into getting a dress made.

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  • Obviously you are asking for too much. Glad you didn’t break-out in hives, though.

  • Maybe look into Nicole Miller, they have lots of dresses that seem to fit your criteria. Just found your blog and I love it.

  • I’m not sure what all you’re going for and you may have already heard this by now, but check out dresses made for Latter-day Saint (Mormon) brides.
    Just a quick google search for “modest wedding gowns” should turn up some good stuff.
    Good luck!

  • Oh you took the words right from my mouth! I finally found my non-poofy, non-strapless, with just-a-hint-of-a-train dress. And for such a great price that no one here believes how much it cost. (btw, came to your blog via Offbeat Bride. And I absolutely love it! Thanks for all the practical advice.)

  • enilorac

    Dear Meg, Just skimming through archives because I love-love-love your site so much. Your dress requirements (and yes, I know you found vintage in the end) sound eerily similar to mine, although my first dress shopping experience was less than stellar. I would love to write about it for the blog at some point. ~Caroline

  • That’s what I want, too! Why is this so difficult!?