Angela & Jorge’s Spanish Two-Day-Long Wedding

Ok, I’m actually off galavanting today (more on that later) but in my absence you guys are getting what is quite possibly the best wedding ever. I know. You don’t believe me. BUT SOON YOU WILL. Angele & Jorge are Spanish, and their beautiful two day celebration with a backyard party and surprise drumming (!) is joining our growing passle of international wedding graduates. I love these weddings, because it makes me feel like I went to visit a totally new-to-me culture, and someone invited me into their home at a important moment in their lives and I got to run around and drink  and dance and be fascinated and overjoyed and learn all this new amazing wedding stuff. And international brides? Angela is not totally fluent in English, so she sent us her post, and we edited it up to be totally clear. So don’t be scared, send me your wedding. Please? And now, the brave and wonderful Angela:

I am, in fact, not the kind of girl that dreams of white dresses, weddings, etc. When I was a child I just wanted to be a boy, mostly because boys run faster. Put in the mix a feminist mother, a career that’s not traditionally for women (I’m a forestry engineer) and some stubbornness and voilá! It all begins to make sense why I would not be into fluffy dresses.

Ten years ago, I met Jorge in our eramus year (we were both studying abroad in Sweden). In April of 2009, I was wondering if I wanted to be married at all some day, and if the answer was yes, why? I began thinking about me and Jorge, our love, and our dreams, and what we wanted to do with our lives. I felt as though I was ready to make a commitment to him, and I felt that I would marry him some day soon.

And then, Jorge asked me to marry him.  But, before we told anyone, we first discussed details: number of attendants, catering versus restaurant, civil or religious ceremony, etc. When we found an agreement between us,  only then did we feel ready to tell anyone—and then we told anyone who would listen. Both families were completely astounded, but also really excited for us.

We finally agreed on a civil ceremony on a Friday, and then having our celebration with our relatives and friends on Saturday. So yes, we created two wonderful, marvelous, very-attached-to-our-hearts days. The Friday of the ceremony, we got ready together in our own house, and then went together, hand in hand, to the place in which the ceremony would be held. Both of us are Spanish, but I’m from the south (Andalucia), so my ancestors were at some point Arabic. Jorge is from the north, and his ancestors are from Castilla. We chose to get married in my birth town, where we currently live. Most of the civil weddings in my town are held in a beautiful place, which just so happens to be a national monument. This place actually mixes Arabic gardens with some Roman touches (like mosaic in the walls) and some Catholic architecture, and therefore mixed our origins and our identities perfectly.

Jorge wanted something that he could use again, so he bought a dark chocolate suit. For Saturday(celebration day) we didn’t want our guests in formal attire, we wanted everyone to be comfortable. So, we asked the girls to wear red and the boys to wear blue shirts and jeans, and they actually did. I wore a long, red fun party dress to match, and Jorge wore a pair of jeans and a blue shirt with red stars on it.

We had the appetizers outside, on the porch, then entered the main building for a seated meal. We sat with our brothers and sisters in law, which is very unusual in Spain, as normally both parents sit with the bride and groom, but because my mother and father are divorced and they brought their parents, we decided to seat them at their own table, making it much less stressful and much more fun where we were.

After the meal, we partied until midnight in an annex building, and there, we surprised everyone with a dance we choreographed. Then our attendees turned the tables on us and surprised us with a PowerPoint slide-show of photographs from our childhood. But -and this is a big BUT- the major surprise was a group of 8 to 10 guests, playing drums for us! The style is called Batukadas and is energetic drum music, normally accompanied with dances. It is originally from Brazil with some African influences. It’s amazing for dancing and they ended up playing for over an hour!

These were two very fulfilling days with our family and beloved friends, who came from all around the world. Coming together, and taking the time to celebrate our love and commitment to each other was incredibly important to us.

The one thing that I know now that I didn’t know then: all of the issues with vendors, any problems or stresses with the venue, the catering, the florist, and who will do what, etc etc etc – you will remember these as a little rock in your shoe, something that you had to pay attention to, but in the long run didn’t disturb you so much. In the end, what really matters is you, your partner, and your new life together. Everyone who loves you will be glad to be with you on your day, regardless.

Pictures: Family & Friends

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  • anna

    Loved this! Especially this:
    “all of the issues with vendors, any problems or stresses with the venue, the catering, the florist, and who will do what, etc etc etc – you will remember these as a little rock in your shoe, something that you had to pay attention to, but in the long run didn’t disturb you so much.”

    A little rock in your shoe. So true! it seems like a lovely wedding and I hope they can build a wonderful life together.

  • I love, love, love that red peacock dress. So gorgeous!

    • Mallory

      That whole wedding is fabulous, but that dress…. ah I’m in love with it!

    • Alyssa

      And that pretty fluttery green one! SO pretty.

    • Yes!!!
      Totally and completely yes :)

  • sparkleparty

    Felicidades! Sounds like it was lovely and festive. And luckily those little rocks in your shoes help you realize the distance you’ve come.

  • As an international wedding undergraduate as I am, I’m so happy to read about weddings outside USA as well. And who knows… maybe I’ll write and send my Italian style graduate post sooner or later.

    I like Angela & George’s choice of going together to the ceremony place. My boyfriend and I are going to do the same, because we’ve been living together for more than 2 years and it would feel weird to us if I walked to the not-altar (it’s a civil wedding so I don’t know how I’m supposed to call it ^^) with my dad.

    PS I love both the green and the red dress, I don’t usually wear red but it looks awesome on her!

  • Jen M

    a little rock in your shoe…EXACTLY!!!

  • Liz

    i love that this wedding was so full of surprises by the guests and friends!



  • Alyssa

    I’m loving these international weddings, it’s the same things that use North Americans go through, but it’s also so amazingly and beautifully different, I love it!!

    And Angela, you’re lovely and so is your wedding. I mean, two dresses, two days of fun, surprise dances AND drumming?? I can’t handle that much awesome in one post….

  • Lor


  • So beautiful. The looks on the faces of everyone just melts my heart.

    Love the surprises. The tradition. The joy.

  • Love the colors and how they really made it their own and low pressure! This really helps reinforce how not all weddings look alike and that there are those of us out there who choose to do it a little differently :-)

  • Katie

    I lurve the little rock in your show – going to try and keep that mindset on my wedding day. Beautiful post

  • The Dress! The DRESS!

  • angela

    thaks girls, for all yours marvellous comments!! and also to the practicalwedding team, to make this happen…wooouuuuhhh !!!

    yes, we feel really very loved on both our days, and also i will say to the girls and boys that will get married: please, enjoy, enjoy all the tiny details, all your changes, all the preparation time!!! the time flyes when you are sourrounded for people that love you and see in you and your partner this new love growing…
    for the girls that want to know, my red dress was made to my measures for a spanish designer that live and work in vietnam. If anyone need more info, please, email me.

    The green dress was made for a bride and party line aire barcelona. they have the same patrons as rosa clara, but normally for parties, i mean, all dress are coloful.

    About the drumming: my brother is actually a drummer, and has a group to play with, they usually go to weddings, to local parties, etc…and they told me in advance that they were like on vacations those days, and that it will be imposible to play in our party….that´s why all was more impressive…we have no idea they will be playing!!! all our guest call us afterwards, to say thanks for a marvelous party, for all the fun and for all the good humour they found in our party. I feel myself really, deeply honored by those calls.
    please, ask anything if you want to! i will try my best to answer quickly
    maybe you find a little ti much, but i send kisses to all of you wonderful marvelous women and men around the world!

  • Carreg

    Love the dresses! Especially the green one. And I love the fact the you had an informal dress code and people actually went with it.

  • “And then, Jorge asked me to marry him. But, before we told anyone, we first discussed details: number of attendants, catering versus restaurant, civil or religious ceremony, etc. When we found an agreement between us, only then did we feel ready to tell anyone.”

    So smart. I’m constantly getting asked these questions by family and friends – and I’m not even engaged yet! When the boyfriend and I do decide to take this step, we have every intention of planning the major details before talking to anyone else.

    • KristieB

      YES! This is the exact way to do it.

      D & I had a pretty good idea what we wanted before we even got engaged. In the end, that changed quite a bit (a large home wedding to a small destination wedding). But, it is better to be on the same page before you involve everyone else.

  • Harmke

    Ohhhh, that red dress! With the so-colourfull peacock! I really want to eat it! If I go on a holiday to Spain, can I come and wear it for a few minutes? Just to take a picture and feel like a very fashionable daredevil princess?

    And the rock in your shoe is a great image. I should think of more annoying things like that.
    Congratulations and thanks!

    • angela

      HARMKE: sure!
      thanks to you all, and all your well furnished brains that keep us sane all through the wedding process….

  • I am still trying to get over the architecture and that you held your civil ceremony in a national monument. That is so cool.

    Your wedding looks like it was filled with so much joy. I love your practical approach to wedding planning — figuring out the details of the wedding plan before announcing your engagement. This kind of foresight would probably help a lot of couples, including my partner and me.

    • angela

      thanks for your kind wishes….i will recommend you to talk beforehand with your partner about all the big things(venue , civil vs religious ceremeny, list of attendants, and very important: things that are non-negociateble….as in real dj vs ipod dj for example or fake flowers, vs real ones for decoration) both may want, or may not. And then, and just after that talk, be joy and tell anyone who would listen!!

  • KristieB

    Hooray for 2 day celebrations! I love how relaxed and not fussy this wedding looks. *sigh* The two dresses. The drummers. Lovely!

    Congratulations to you both.

    P.S. Your husband’s name (pronounced the Spanish way) is one of my very favorite names in the world.

  • Susan

    What a wonderful celebration. Thank you for sharing, Angela!

    I especially love the last photo. My husband and I have a very similar wedding picture of him kicking up one foot and giving me a kiss. :)

  • Meg

    Felicidades Angela y Jorge. Espero que su vida junta sea increible y lleno de carino, amistad, aventura y lo bueno que la vida les pueda ofrecer. (lo siento, no puedo descubrir como poner accentos en los comentarios).

    • angela

      Muchas gracias Meg!! es cierto eso que dicen que con compañia, las penas son menos penas, y mayores las alegrias!!

  • ¿ESO es vuestro Registro Civil?! Wow! El Registro Civil de Barcelona (mi marido es de allí) es feísimo en comparación… ¡qué suerte que habéis tenido!
    Me encanta que te han sorprendido con la Batucada. :)

    Gracias por enseñarme que incluso en España se puede tener una boda “no tradicional”, me ha hecho muy feliz ver que es posible! Nosotros no hemos tenido tanta suerte con nuestra secunda fiesta (la primera era ceremonia + fiesta en EE.UU.), dado que los padres de él son muy tradicionales y querían impresionar sus colegas (médicos) y amigos. Ahora también se casa mi cuñada el año que viene, y seguro que será lo típico de iglesia, restaurante de lujo, baile… Anyway, me alegro por vosotros que habéis podido montarlo en vuestra manera. Y como han dicho muchas ya, ¡MUY BIEN hecho lo de poneros de acuerdo sobre lo que queríais antes de contárselo a nadie!

    ¡Muchas felicidades en vuestro nuevo matrimonio! Os deseo muchos más años de felicidad y amor.

    • angela

      Muchas gracias Kahlia!
      no es el registro civil, es el edificio destinado a ceremonias por el ayuntamiento, tanto ceremonias de bodas como resto de protocolos del ayuntamiento de Cordoba. Es un edificio historico, que inicialmente fue arabe, posteriormente romano, y actualmente sede de este tipo de ceremonias….y si, tenemos mucha suerte!!
      Gracias por comentar!

  • Alexandra

    Como Kahlia dice: ¡Muchas felicidades en vuestro nuevo matrimonio! Os deseo muchos más años de felicidad y amor.

    Mi Espanol no es perfecto, pero puedo leer los comentarios aqui! Me da felicidad. Abrazos!