How do you want to get engaged?
The cultural narrative is pretty clear: girl waits for boy to ask. Girl starts going slightly crazy because she feels like she has no say in her future. Boy plans big surprise ask. Girl says yes, proceeds to take over and plan a crazy wedding (and the rest of the boys life). The cultural narrative is also bullshit. Maybe you’re two girls (or two boys). Maybe you want to ask your person. Probably you’re both wanting to discuss your future together before you take next steps. There are lots of ways to get engaged, so take some time to think about what might be best for you. Dig into our engagement essays to get started.
Have some deep conversations.
Getting engaged isn’t about picking bridesmaids dresses, it’s about deciding you’re ready to get married. Dive into our Reclaiming Wife section, to think about what getting hitched really means (to you). Read Marriage As Mini-Socialism, to think about money and partnership. Think about the name change conundrum, and ponder gender dynamics and marriage.