I’ve been getting your emails: Now that you’re married, what’s next for the blog? Are you giving up blogging? I need Team Practical for XX more months, please keep writing… etc. They are wonderful and flattering emails. They probably speak more to the community that has grown up around this blog than to my writing of the blog. But regardless, I thought they needed answering. So here we go:
Am I going to keep blogging?
Uh… yes. Clearly I love it.
Am I going to keep writing this site?
Am I going to get writing about weddings?
For the moment, yes. I actually really like weddings, and like Ariel, I find that weddings are a fascinating prism through which to examine our culture, our assumptions, the lives that we build for ourselves, and they way we struggle towards truth. So yes. The weddings will keep coming.
But, there is another question, a better question, that I haven’t been asked yet: Are you going to blog about marriage?
Heck yes! And here is why:
One: I think it’s really strange that there are very few places where weddings and marriages are talked about at the same time, and frankly, that makes no sense. With so many media outlets catering to weddings, and then saying nothing about marriage, no wonder it’s so common to experience post-wedding depression. Two seconds ago you had a fantastic, supportive community that was excited for you, you had something to plan, something to read about, now… its all over. Lame.
Two: I’ve complained about this before, but I find that there are a singular lack of positive models of happy marriages, or more to the point – marriages I’d like to have – in the media. A quick look around typical media outlets seems to imply that getting married means I will gain 100 pounds in five minutes and then get a look of resignation and misery and be horribly bored until I have children at which point I will give up any identity other than ‘Mom.’ Oh right, and I’m going to live a super gendered life – change my name, do all the cooking, etc etc etc. And, no. I don’t think that’s what marriage is like. So, I’d like us to talk a bit about how marriage feels, and what you have to look forward to after your finally done thinking about the effing flowers.
Three. I like to write about what I’m living. It’s as simple as that. I’m planning on telling you stories from our wedding, but when those stories are told, I don’t plan on re-hashing our wedding over and over again. I got what I wanted out of our day, and I’m ready to move on (which is what I wish for everyone). For the personal portion of the writing that I do here, I’m ready to write about what’s happening with us now, about what’s next.
So, there will still be wedding discussion galore here, but I’m going to start folding little bits about married life. I’m not sure how its going to work yet, or how you guys will end up contributing to that part of the content, but I’m excited about it. And hey, that’s how I feel about married life too… not sure quite how it will work, but excited for all of it.