A Big Week

So If you can believe it… and I have a hard time believing it… I was quoted in Glamour Magazine this month on, of all things, ugly bridesmaids dresses. I’m sure you’re not surprised that I said something along the lines of, “Your friend’s getting MARRIED for f*cks sake. Have a drink, toast her joy, and get over it (at least for the duration of the wedding). It’s not like anyone thinks that orange 80’s bubble dress reflects on your personal taste.” Except I didn’t swear. Because I’m very well behaved in mass media. And what they didn’t quote me on was my opinion that your friend is going to owe you a lot of very strong margaritas with very good tequila as soon as she comes to her post-wedding senses (and who doesn’t love tequila?)

And, as if that wasn’t enough, reader-of-the-week* Carly got APW mentioned by the Alaska Dispatch, which said nice things about the site, and you guys:

APW features thoughtful, well-written posts about all kinds of issues that might get lost in the excitement of planning a wedding — like what’s the difference between getting married and being married? What does it mean to be a wife, whether you’re in a heterosexual or same-sex union? How do you integrate the traditional institution of marriage with a contemporary feminist philosophy? Not only is the writing smart and engaging, the readers who comment are articulate and intelligent, and actual discussion (!) takes place in the comments. APW is a site I can see myself continuing to follow long after my dress has been hermetically sealed and put away for my unborn daughters to someday turn their noses up at when I offer it for their weddings.


So. For those of you keeping track, that means that David is getting his JD the same week as I got quoted in a major women’s magazine for the first time. Annnnndddddd….. the world feels like it’s spinning too fast this week for me to breathe it in, to get a grip, or just read all the amazing comments.

And what I mean to say is, posting is going to be a little slower for the rest of the week. I’m going to aim for posts that *don’t* get hundreds of smart thoughtful comments. You know. Just for fun.

Because my actual, real-life marriage is going through a big change this week, and I want to be there to pay attention (and celebrate my husband). I’ll be back next week with some amazing stuff, and some wedding graduates I’ve been waiting to post since SEPTEMBER. No joke. In the meantime, raise a glass to David, won’t you? I’ll see you then.

*And you know what you get as reader of the week? A margarita. Obviously.

(I know. Women in bikinis. What can I say?)

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  • Emily

    Meg, apologies in advance if I accost you at graduation. (I am a classmate of David’s.) I will be trashed.

    • meg

      I like that two people exactly-ed this. Trashed at 8am? You are a stronger woman than I.

  • Louise

    Long-time reader finally de-lurking here…

    I’m delighted to see some of Meg’s trademark sanity featuring in a women’s magazine: this blog is grassroots feminism at its finest.

    Let’s hope this is a sign of a sea change in a media sector fuelled by dangerous drivel:

    • Kaitlin

      can you trademark sanity?? I hope not. /snark

      • meg


    • bex

      Now if we can just get ‘women’s magazines’ to feature appropriate cover photos for their cover stories. 3 supermodels with slightly different shapes does not demonstrate ‘suits that fit every body.’ Sorry for that mini-rant.

      Congrats on your Huge week!

      • liz

        oh, you don’t think that “every body” looks like these 3 women?

  • Ooh, this is exciting. And to think, that issue of Glamour has been sitting in my bathroom for a week now, and I haven’t come across your quote! Now I’m excited for when I do.

    (Yeah, I subscribe to Glamour. I find it the least-ridiculous of women’s magazines, and it only makes me roll my eyes 2 or 3 times an issue. I like it)

    • Also, DUH! I forgot to say the most important thing! Congratulations to both you and to David! My fiance just finished his 1st year of law school yesterday, and it’s crazy how suddenly he’s 1/3 of the way done.

  • Moz

    I like Carly’s bit better! And congrats to David! Enjoy the day and try not to think about ‘the bar’ too many times xx

  • Cupcake

    Congrats to David! This is a Big Deal! My FH will get his JD 13 days before our wedding next year, and being in the middle of his law school time is rather stressful, you both have gone through a lot and deserve to celebrate. I have heard that what really tests a marriage is not when something bad happens, most people know they ought to be there for their spouse in bad times, but rather celebrating the good times is what really matters for long-term happiness. So go celebrate and let him know how proud you are of him! (And hopefully he’ll return the favor and tell you how totally awesome it is to have been quoted in a national mag, even if the cover did have bikini-clad 14-year-olds on it.)

    • meg

      I know. Why are they 14? I had such high hopes for the cover, smashed smashed smashed.

  • Congratulations! What an exciting week for both of you! This weekend I will raise many glasses to you and to David! And don’t worry about the slow posting, there’s plenties of goodies to hunt through on APW!

  • jolynn

    Congratulations to both of you! Live intensely this week and have a fabulous time doing it. Margaritas all around in celebration.

  • My ex went through law school when I was with him, so I know you both deserve some congratulations for surviving it! Way to go David for making it through (and good luck on the bar) and good job Meg for surviving the on the other side!

  • Maureen

    Congrats to David! I’ll drink a tequila shot in his honor!

  • I would be more than happy to down several margaritas this weekend in your honor, Meg and David. Congratulations!!

  • Alyssa

    AHHHH! Look at you, being all famous and stuff! Congratulations!

    And congrats to Mr. David too! Is he going to insist on adding “Esquire.” every time he says his name? Because he totally should…..

  • ddayporter

    am I the only one who takes umbrage at the “dowdy-sounding name” comment in the alaska dispatch post?? haha. I’m very defensive of this blog apparently! maybe because I’ve basically lived on this blog for over a year, it never occurred to me that the title sounded dowdy. BUT anyway it’s a great plug and congrats!! have fun this week/end, I’ve got a wedding to go to so I’ll be toasting a whole bunch, at least one of them will be quietly to you and David.

    • bex

      I never thought of APW as dowdy either. Ironic that dowdy is basically the last way I’d describe the content found here.

  • Mary

    I can usually be found raising a glass or two on the weekends. So I’ll certainly be happy to raise it in David’s honor and yours, Meg. Cheers!

  • Margaret

    “Because my actual, real-life marriage is going through a big change this week, and I want to be there to pay attention (and celebrate my husband).”

    Amen. And this is why I love this site (and i swear I won’t grouch if posting is light or non-existent)

  • Drinks and congratulations all around. You’re taking the media and wedding world by storm and David is finished with law school and getting ready to take the world by storm. This is all sorts of happy-making. Go enjoy, and we’ll see you around these parts more actively again when you’ve had some time to take it in!

  • Theresa

    AMAZING! Even if it is Glamour, and there are half-naked women on the front cover of the issue, that’s amazing for you and for our community here at APW!

  • WOOHOOOO, CONGRATS, DAVID!! That’s a huge deal, and well worth a margarita or two.

    My fiance is finishing up his first semester of graduate school (in a PhD program for chemistry), and it is absolutely exhausting him. He’s finished with his own schoolwork– and now he gets to proctor and grade exams for hundreds of undergraduates. Ouch.

  • My glass is raised! Cheers to David for finishing law school, cheers to you for helping him through it, and best of luck to the both of you for the bar exam process to go as smoothly as possible.

  • liz

    i feel famous by proxy.


  • Julianna

    congrats, david! enjoy the celebrations, meg – you deserve them as well!

  • KD

    Congrats to the soon-to-be “ESQIRE”

    I don’t know why that term always makes me giggle…but it does, and one of my friend (jokingly) asked that everyone call him esquire for about a week after he got his law degree.

    And congrats to you for your quote and getting the press you SHOULD be getting!

    • September Bride

      Sadly, you don’t get to be Esq. until you pass the bar. Especially since I never did get around to that…

      • KD

        Ah, I guess this was when I lived in Wisconsin – where you don’t need to take the Bar to practice. Once you graduated you could get a job.

        (only if you graduate from a WI school and practice law in WI…it’s their trick to keep people in WI I’m pretty sure)

  • Emi

    Huzzah, congrats to you both! I love this blog because it’s a great example of real people (not readymade fake celebrities or 14 year old bikini models, not that there’s anything wrong with that) creating community and influencing discussions on a lot of different levels.

  • april

    Major congrats and glass raised to David! And to Meg for being quoted – Aaawww, YEAH! Enjoy the week. I’m giddy just thinking about all the excitement in your worlds right now. xo

  • Carly

    Congrats, Meg! So happy APW is receiving some well-deserved recognition. :-) My sister lives in Sonoma and I rec’d my bachelor’s degree from U.C. Santa Cruz, so when I visit your neck of the woods (yes, all the way from Anchorage, Alaska), I will definitely arrange a margarita meet-up. Enjoy this weekend’s festivities! Many happy returns to both you & David!

  • Congratulations to you both! This is such an exciting time (although, I do not envy David a summer of studying for the bar exam). Once was enough for me.

    Wouldn’t it have been great if they featured a “plus-sized” woman on the cover in a flaterring suit for a curvy body? I might be over-sensitive to this today; the Kn*t sent me a targeted email for a discount on personal training to “lift, tone and burn fat for your big day.”

  • JDecks

    CONGRATS to you BOTH! My guy graduated law school before we met but took the bar in (god forsaken) Nebraska and now we’re trying to move to Oregon – thus he’s taking ANOTHER bar 2 weeks before our wedding. It’s intense, it’s scary and YES – it’s AMAZING!

    Take it all in – LIFE IS GOOD!

  • Alaska Dispatch columnist here —
    Thanks for the link, Meg — and Carly, thank you for turning me on to APW! (And I’m sorry if anyone took umbrage at the use of the word “dowdy.” Clearly I wasn’t referencing the content — just the fact that “A Practical Wedding” isn’t the kind of cutesy name other wedding sites seem to favor. Obviously there’s nothing dowdy about APW.) I’ve got a year of wedding planning and prep ahead of me, and I can’t tell you how glad I am to have heard about you.

  • Liz

    Congratulations to David and to you! I’m graduating from law school this Sunday…and then Monday I start studying for the Bar. Good luck to both of you during the Bar study period…and thank you for everything you post. Seriously. Coming to this site totally makes my day.

  • Jamie

    Long time reader, first time commenter. I just wanted to say: Enjoy the graduation. I hardly enjoyed my law school graduation at all. We had already started the Bar Review course, and all I could think about was “this ain’t even close to being over until July 31.” I wish I had allowed myself to enjoy it. It’s now 8 years later and all I have are two bad pictures and a vague memory of hearing my name. I am much more excited about commencement now, when I participate as a faculty/staff person. So enjoy the heck out of yourselves!

  • elyse

    congrats Meg! and just went i decide to not renew my glamour subscription. . .

    and congrats to David on finishing law school and to you for supporting him through it! my david graduates med school next week, 4 days before our wedding, and after dating throughout his entire 4 years of school, i feel a little like i’m graduating too!

    exciting stuff all around, love it!

  • Sevillalost

    Congrats to you and to David, both! :)

  • LPC

    I told you so:).

    And congrats to David. Best wishes for the future.

  • sarah

    sometimes we forget that even husbands deserve their moment to shine, too… ;)

  • Jess

    Congrats on getting quoted!

    … But I’m having orange bridesmaids. Uh-oh. Is this why people look at me funny when i say my colour theme!??

    • meg

      Yesss…. but if your ladies love it, or you are buying them big drinks, you’re good. The thing is, 90% of us look horrid in Orange (But did you see the wedding on Friday with the neon yellow bridesmaids? I never would have thought that could work, but it totally looked hot).

    • meg

      PS – I’m tipsy, internet filter is off duty a bit. You’re getting what-tipsy-Meg-would-tell-you-in-a-bar (though I would probably use the work f*ck at some point, were it a bar).

      • Jess

        Ha! That made me laugh. Lucky i appreciate honesty!
        Perhaps I’ll go easy and let them wear ‘coral’… I swear I’ll make sure they look hot. Wouldnt have it any other way!

  • Congratulations! Just catching up with three months worth of blogs! Your new look is amazing by the way, love the site :)

  • agirl

    Congrats to both of you! I can’t think of a pair more deserving. xx