APW Book Club Locations!


It’s that time again. Thanks to our long-suffering intern Lauren, we have an update for you on book club locations for our book club meetup this Sunday November 7th. Please click the above image (twice!) to see it nice and big, and see exactly where your local meetup is being held. We’re still waiting on locations and times for a number of cities with planning still in the works. If those are your locations, go check Facebook (or bribe someone with a Facebook account to check for you) for more information. In fact, if you have any questions at all go to Facebook for more information and find your cities meet-up thread.

Now! Just like last time, we’re going to crowd source some book club questions to kick off discussion and break the ice. If any of you have already read or are currently reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s Committed (which, PS, I was hanging out with Maggie Mason this weekend, and she called ‘Shackled’ which I found totally hilarious) and have suggested questions, throw them out in the comment area. Just questions though, no discussion! We’ll follow up with lots of online discussion for those of you who can’t make it to the book clubs.

As for the rest of you, get reading! It’s so easy to make fun of this book, but it’s also really thought provoking. And I’m fine with mocking it, if we’re also discussing it.

See you Sunday (in spirit or in person, depending).


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  • I want to add – Austin APWers! Come join us! I know there are a ton of you out there!

    • meg

      A TON. Seriously, you should go.

    • Vanesa

      And no wussing out because you haven’t had time to read the book yet! You should come hang out with us anyway. It’s not class, we won’t give you bad grades for coming unprepared :)

    • Veronica

      I concur! We should have lots of yummy snacks and booze!

  • No Madison peeps this time around?? I even found the book and am reading it! *sigh*

    • meg

      You have to make it happen if you want it to happen. You can’t expect other people to make it happen for you :)

      • It’s kind of hard to have a meeting of one. No one else has responded on FB since I posted that I could be there!

        • meg

          Ergh. That sucks. Sorry lady.

          • Katelyn

            You’re welcome to join our Chicago meetup! I know it’s a long drive, but maybe you like driving?

          • Kinzie Kangaroo

            I drove 3 hours to Chicago for the last one (admittedly, I had other reasons to be there too, but still…) and it was SO worth it.

          • Ok, now I’m taking matters into my own hands. I’m going to promote this in some of the local communities I know and see if I can get anyone interested.

  • Liz


    we’ll have irish bartenders and sweet potato fries and a fireplace.


    and books. we’ll have books.

    • N

      Sweet potato fries, fireplaces, and Irish bartenders? All in one place? Maybe I need to move to Philadelphia…

  • Marchelle

    Is there a location for TRINIDAD? Guess not. Pity.

    • ooooo no. but next time you should START one!

      • Amanda

        Yeah… I guess I really am the only one in Holland (NL) since I did start the thread …. anyway you girls have fun I will check the discussion online.

        • Someone has suggested a Skype call on the facebook page – I don’t know if you’d be interested in that?

          • meg

            That may happen in the future. Right now though, it makes me so exsausted to think about it that I want to crawl into a hole. But. It’s on the ‘think about’ list.

  • Amandover

    A few questions (setting aside the criticisms for now):
    – How did Gilbert’s list of demographics’ effect on marriage make you feel about the prospects of your own marriage?
    – Do you identify with Liz & Felipe’s geographical/cultural difficulties? Do you and your partner have different traveling styles?
    – How do you react to the “Walls & Windows” theory of intimacy/adultery?
    – Did you find Liz’s portrayal of Southeast Asian marriages helpful/moving?
    – Have you learned about marriage from cultures not your own?
    – Liz seems to believe that no matter what, she could always end up getting another divorce. Do you think this is healthy for her marriage?
    – How has/have your own parents’ marriage(s) influenced your view of marriage? Have you learned anything surprising about their marriage as an adult?

  • ann

    pleasepleaseplease have more! i haven’t been able to make it to either, but i really want to meet you all! i’ll be there in spirit, chicago ladies…

  • Sarah

    Oops! Sorry! DC ladies … you can get a hold of me at sarah.e.ewing [at] gmail [dot] com.

  • While the book is easy to make fun of, what is the one passage or theme of the book that you found to be thought provoking or interesting?
    Are there any concepts in the book that you strongly identify or disagree with?

  • meg

    MORE QUESTIONS! Thanks to the question askers so far.

  • Amanda

    Early in the book, Elizabeth Gilbert says that “every intimacy carries the ever-coiled makings of complete catastrophe.” Do you think that’s true of your relationship? Does it make you feel doomed, or hopeful?

    • meg


  • I’m only about halfway through the book because I’m reading with a pen (so glad I bought it!) but here’s some questions I wrote in the margins early on:
    -Should open marriages pledge to be that way openly? If marriage is a promise to the community, should they know the details of what they’re holding you accountable for? Would this help the flexibility of marriage as a concept?
    -When Gilbert talks about pragmatic marriages, it made me think about my marriage as contributing to the community. Do I/we have something to offer other than a safe space to help each other economically and possibly raise children in stability?
    -Is the compulsive comparing that Gilbert mentions something that leads to the extension of adolescent periods in today’s youth vs past generations?

    • meg

      Could you flesh out that second question a bit more. I’m really facinated in the subject (I think I do have an oddly pragmatic marraige, which is a long story), but I’m not 100% sure what your question is getting it. Maybe re-phrase or add a bit of detail?

      • It’s not a fully formed thought, but Gilbert talks about how pragmatic marriages caused alliances and saved kingdoms and stuff like that. Now marriage is mostly touted as a very individual thing or a “for the kids” thing, but is there something that marriages in general or individually offer to the larger community? Economically? Socially? Emotionally? For our neighborhood, our nation, our friend group, our families, or another group?

        • meg

          Ohhh! Very good question.

  • Paige

    For the APW ladies in Houston, we are meeting at 13 Celsius on Sunday, November 7th at 7. Check the Facebook discussion board for more info!

  • So glad these questions are being posted, because clearly I have to skim back over the book (I read it in April).

  • Kim

    Oh, and let’s not forget the time change this weekend!

    • meg

      Oh sh*t GOOD POINT. I should post that on Saturday!

  • Kim

    Mm-hmmm . . . I know I wouldn’t be the only one waking up on Sunday all out of sorts . . .

  • Christina

    OK. Didn’t read the book. Prolly won’t read it by Sunday. But can I still come?

    • meg

      You can ALWAYS come.

  • Michelle

    Minneapolis/Twin Cities book clubbers: In case you’re confused or don’t look at the facebook discussion, we are meeting at 3:30 p.m. (not 1) at Wilde Roast Cafe. I was a bit late in reserving the room.

  • I have a couple more questions to add to the discussion for Sunday.
    – Has the evolution of men’s and women’s roles in our social network negatively or positively affected our marriages in the Western world (in reference to page 31)?
    – On page 35 Liz states “… the person whom you choose to marry is perhaps the single most vivid representation of your own personality. Your spouse becomes the most gleaming possible mirror through which your emotional individualism is reflected back to the world.” Do you agree or disagree with this statement?

  • Amber

    Gilbert asks on page 185 “how might we work together as a society to construct a world where healthy children can be raised with out women having to scrape bare the walls of their own souls to do it?” Do you think the underlying assumption that women must give up their dreams to have a family is a valid assumption in today’s society? Do you have any ideas to offer in answer to Gilbert’s question?

  • I’m a little late to the game but here are a few more questions:

    How does your relationship/marriage rate in regards to the Rutgers study of marital resilience? Do you believe those factors carry any weight? (education, children, cohabitation, heterogamy, social integration, religion, gender fairness)

    The book talks about the possibility of an affair. Dr. Glass has a theory regarding the “walls and windows of intimacy” to help prevent this danger in relationships. Liz asks the question: How do you guard your marriage against such things?

    • um ya, just noticed my questions were already asked. sorry for the repeats!

  • Sarah

    I posted this on the discussion board for the DC ladies, but just in case anyone checks here..

    We had to change the location of the meetup out here … so we’ll be at 1201 East West Hwy, Silver Spring (it’s an apartment building), and the code to get in is 327. We’ll be in the party room, at the rear of the lobby.

    For any other info, shoot me an email (sarah.e.ewing [at] gmail [dot] com) and I’ll get back to you right away!