Flower Girl Dresses (That Don’t Look Like Mini-Bridal Gowns)


Because two-year-olds deserve better

by Meg Keene, CEO & Editor-In-Chief

tomboy flower girl tux with text flower girl dresses

Coco Flower Girl Tux Shorts & Blouse via Doloris Petunia ($250)

While we’ve rounded up flower girl dresses before. (Remember our tomboy flower girls post that nearly broke the Internet?) But I was recently hit with the real-life revelation that shopping for flower girl dresses is HARD. At least, it’s tricky if you’re in the market for something that isn’t white, and doesn’t look like it hails from a generic wedding ballroom in 1998. (Why some parts of the wedding industry get stuck in the hole time forgot will forever be a mystery to me.)

All that is to say that my two-year-old gets to be a flower girl in a wedding this fall, and I’m super excited about it. I’m delighted for present-day her, who gets to wear a pretty dress and throw flower petals (both are right up her alley). But I’m also excited for future her, who will have pictures of herself as an adorable toddler, wearing a bonkers good dress, with all her little curls piled on top of her head. Because is there anything better than the cutest ever pictures of yourself as a baby? I’d argue no.

However, my powers of denial are strong, which means I’d forgotten what flower girl dresses generally look like. So when I googled “Flower Girl Dresses,” I was hit with a wall of disappointment. And I can’t say Pinterest is much better, unless you’re going for the “mini-bride” version of flower girl style, which, in this case, I’m not.

At that point, even as a professional online researcher, I sat staring at my screen blankly. Should I google “toddler formals”? “Luxury childhood clothing”? Where do you even start looking for a fancy dress for a two-year-old, if the stuff in the flower girl aisle isn’t cute?

So, obviously, Maddie and I hit the ground running researching the best flower girl dresses money can buy. While I’ll spare you the bevy of ridiculous questions we posed to each other (“Is miniature Oscar de la Renta overkill for a two-year-old? How about a swan dress with wings?”), you get to be the beneficiary of our hours of digging, most of it much more sensible than couture swans. Most. We’ve included a range of price options, from super affordable to a few obviously-ridiculous-but-we-can-all-dream-for-a-minute.

We noticed that for the standard out of the big box store flower girl dress price, you can get something that’s amazing/bonkers/a work of art and  often ethically made, as long as it’s not labeled flower girl (because $100+ on a toddler dress is actually a lot of money in the real world), so we’ve included those options, along with super cute and wayyyyy more affordable mass market options. (Pro-Tip: Thanks to the current state of retail, those mass market dresses tend to sell out in a hot second. So if you don’t see what you’re looking for below, Macy’s had far and above the best selection out of everyone.)

While I was given the guideline of no tulle for my two-year-old (which obviously killed me a little inside), I’ve imposed no such restrictions on you, so there is plenty of modern feeling tulle. But we’ve also rounded up other styles. I was delighted to learn that apparently you can get adorable formal dresses for small children without tulle (though you’ll still never pull ridiculous children’s clothes from my clutches). We’ve rounded up more traditional flower girl dresses, boho flower girl dresses, modern flower girl dresses, and more.

If you know you’re looking for a white flower girl dress, I couldn’t suggest the selection at BHLDN more strongly. Their team has exceptional taste, and they really curate the best looks. But if white isn’t how your flower girl is rolling, it’s you and me… and a flower girl dress makes three. (And nope, the dress I bought didn’t make this list… but I’ll share a picture of it on its adorable model sometime in October. One must keep a few secrets, right?)

Boho Flower Girl Dresses

White boho flower girl dress

Vintage Finds Dress via Dollcake ($47.00)

White toddler dress with embroidered hem

Embroidery Flutter Dress via GAP ($22.99)

Pink boho little girls dress with bell sleeves

Megan & Liz Tween Empire Waist Dress via Nowadays ($49.50)

little girl with a blue dress, lacing up the back

Isla Maxi Dress via Tea Princess ($119.95 AUD)

three tiered dress with floral pattern

Flower Power Tank Dress via For Love & Lemons ($74.00)

boho flower girl dress with lace X back

French Vanilla Dress via Tea Princess ($89.95)

purple little girls dress with flutter sleeves

Raina via Luna Luna Collection ($98.00)

Traditional Flower Girl Dresses

two little girls wearing modern tulle flower girl dresses

 Nellystella Peach Dress Periwinkle via POPPY and CLAUDE ($162.00)

blue dress with embroidered bodice

 Embroidered Bodice Party Dress via Rare Editions ($49.99)

Peach dress with a high low tulle skirt with a peplum

Contessa via Luna Luna Collection ($198.00)

dress with a floral top and a feathered tulle skirt

Soutache & Mesh Dress via Nanette Lepore ($48.99)

pink lace little girl dress

Floral Lace Dress via Marmellata ($19.73)

old fashioned pink dress on a little girl

Love Marissa Dress via Nellystella ($179.00)

white lace dress with a white lace collar

 Darcey Dress via Tadashi Shoji ($188.00)

peach tulle skirt with a peach crop top

 Brooke Top & Skirt Set via Miss Behave ($109.00)

little girl with a flower crown sitting on a bench in a grey tulle dress

 The Lauren Flower Girl Dress via Doloris Petunia ($400.00)

pink sequin and tulle dress

Sequin and Tulle Dress via Billieblush ($95.00)

dress with a sequin bodice and tulle skirtSleeveless Sequin Mesh Dress via The Children’s Place ($19.99)

Modern Flower Girl Dresses (with a side of irreverence)

pink shift dress with balloon trim

Sleeveless Taffeta Shift Dress with Balloons via Charabia Ida ($235.00)

white dress with artificial flowers

 Flower-Front Mesh Dress via Jayne Copeland ($54.99)

pink dress with bird heads on the trim

Carli Bird Print Dress via Molo ($99.95)

swan dress with wings

 Bonny Swan Dress via Stella McCartney ($132.00)

platinum lame toddle dress

 Isabella Dress via Velveteen ($67.80)

shift dress with stars with pleated hem

Print Asymmetrical Pleat Dress via GAP ($29.95)

water color black shift dress

Sleeveless Flame Dropped-Waist Scuba Dress via Zoe ($76.00)

BONUS (because you need them)

pink sequin dress with a large shoulder bow

Rose Shoulder Bow and Beading Flower Girl Dress via Doloris Petunia ($75o).
Yes, I know it costs almost a grand. But I’m saving this for Blue and Rumi to wear in big and tiny versions, at Bey and Jay’s vow renewal. Beyoncé, do you hear me?

silver ballet flats

Leather Puntas Ballet Flats ($100.00).
I shouldn’t even have to tell you why.

Have any of you solved the riddle of flower girl dresses? Are you on team “SENSIBLE wear it again,” or “damn it, you’re only a flower girl once or twice or so”? (Raises hand for team two.) Bonus points to anyone who leaves us a photo of their flower girl in the comments.

Meg Keene

Meg is the Founder and EIC of APW. She has written two best selling wedding books: A Practical Wedding and A Practical Wedding Planner. Meg has her BFA in Drama from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. She lives in Oakland, CA with her husband and two children. For more than you ever wanted to know about Meg, you can visit MegKeene.com.

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  • Clare C

    That balloon dress is both bizarre and awesome
    I’m sure I won’t be the first to say, do they make these in my size?

    • I was thinking the same thing: if only they made adult versions of some of these!

    • idkmybffjill

      I wanted to know if the balloons were functional. Obvi that would make it a one time wear only but… worth it?

      • ItsyBit

        That was my exact thought.

    • When I found it, I actually screamed. I was like “WHAT IS THIS, WHY? I LOVE THIS. IT MAKES NO SENSE! I LOVE IT!”

    • Lisa

      I had a barrette my mother made out of balloons when I was a toddler in the early 90s that would match that dress perfectly!

      Also, yes, I want basically all of the modern dresses for myself.

      • Eh

        I had a barrette that had balloons on it too in the early 90s!

  • So pretty! I love the Vintage Finds dress and the Isla maxi. And of course I love several of the tulle options and the ballet slippers!

  • Amy March

    Such fond memories of the puffed sleeved, lace fronted, dropped waist, pink taffeta number I wore as a flower girl.

    • Rose

      My sister and I wore gauzy, dropped waist, puffed sleeved dresses as flower girls, and loved them so much. I remember feeling so pretty in that dress!

    • Right?

      Though to be clear, I didn’t wear that, everyone else did. When I got to be a flower girl (finally), I was dressed in a sort of awful floral calico prairie dress meets puffed sleeves number. I remember feeling so strongly that I was being screwed over. And it looks even worse in pictures now. That’s clearly part of why I’m like “OH GOD JUST GET HER A GOOD DRESS.”

      Though I will say, the more puffy and lace and ruffled the dress, the more the girly little girl seems to actually wear it. Church? Check. Party? Check. Can I just wear it to school today? Check.

      • Megan

        Dresses like that were my normal preschool attire. I just insisted. The teachers would ask my mom if she should be putting me in such nice clothes because I would still play and run around at recess and my mom would just shrug and say she’s going to outgrow it in a few weeks anyway! So I’m clearly team wear the dress over and over again.

    • Lisa

      My mother made me a pink, ruffled number with big sleeves and coordinating white apron with lace trim that was totally adorable. I hope someday I have girl children so I can make them take my family’s traditional 3-year-old pink dress studio portrait in it.

    • Ashlah

      Aw yeah, puffed sleeves and lace. Circa mid-90s in my uncle’s wedding.
      http://i.imgur.com/ysx54FX.jpg

      • Ilora

        This is amazing! Also, it kind of reminds me of The Secret Garden!

      • Sarah

        I love how you’re hiking up your skirt

  • Kaitlyn

    Has anyone ever used Princessly for flower girl dresses? They have these striped dresses I love (and that my nieces can wear again) for a great price, but I need endorsements haha

    • Rose

      I don’t have any experience with them, but I went to look because I was curious and they really have some very cute dresses!

  • savannnah
    • Gap is so good (though they were in the middle of a clearance sale, so we couldn’t find a lot of dresses that would stay in stock for more than a few hours this go round). But they are generally my FIRST stop when I need something cute for the kids.

    • penguin

      None of the links would open for me just FYI. Might just be my computer, it said cookie failure, which is the saddest kind of failure.

      • savannnah

        Boo! just go to gap toddlers and look around!! great stuff

    • emilyg25

      Gap and Boden are the only places that ever make me sad to have a boy child.

  • Meredith

    My flower girls wore floral print dresses from H&M. I am not a fan of little girls dressed like brides and spending that much money on a dress they will wear one time. However, I want the Darcey and the Balloon dress for myself!

  • Eve

    This is making me rethink the “no kids in the wedding party” thing. Luckily, one of my bridesmaids will have a six-month-old baby at the time of my wedding, so maybe she can be an honorary flower girl/baby bridesmaid?

    • Jane

      Definitely!

  • Jessica

    I want that bird print dress in size 8 adult, please and thank you.

  • jem

    +1 to the Macy’s rec– we were super successful there and their sales on kids stuff are nuts. My flower girl’s dress was marked down to $17!

    • AbFab

      Agreed! Especially if you are able to look around the Christmas/Easter holidays. We found adorable rose gold pleated twirly dresses for under $30 for my husband’s nieces to wear (that were originally closer to $80).

  • Laura C

    I went from “I want my wedding to be low-key so no flower girls” to “I would have killed to be a flower girl at that age, how can I deprive the little girls in my life of the experience?” So they wore silver dresses with poofy skirts (my dress was silver but the styles were nothing alike), and that was great, but the best touch was this: https://www.etsy.com/listing/159416251/51tiara-deep-blue-wedding-hair-accessory?ga_search_query=deep+blue&ref=shop_items_search_3

    Those were some very happy girls.

    • Ilora

      That is amazing! I would have had a happy melt down as a child if I’d gotten to wear that!

  • Capybara

    This post is making me want to dress up a little girl so. badly.

  • Alexis

    This is soooo timely! We’re having 2 flower girls, one who will be 6 and a half and another who will have just turned 3. I was never really a fan of the mini versions of poofy white wedding dresses, so seeing this roundup is awesome! I really, really love the pink dress with the birds, the pink two-piece top and skirt, the white dress w/the pink lacey sparkly top, and… that balloon dress!! So bizarre but so oddly adorable?

  • scw

    can I jump on the “leave a photo of your flower girl” bus? these are my nieces in my wedding.

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/33717b80925dceb744f32f7a9a36e2de2d949bbf2432c092da2589d72f45565c.jpg

  • Anne EB
    • Bsquillo

      Um, pretty sure I would wear your flower girl’s entire outfit to work. Or going out. Or, you know, just lounging around the house….

      • Anne EB

        She’s outgrown everything except the cat ears now, but she does still wear them whenever we have out of our girls’ days!

    • Ilora

      OMG the cat ears match the shoes! This is the best thing I have ever seen!

    • ssha

      THIS IS THE CUTEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN? Also, you’re beautiful! I love the light in this pic.

      • Anne EB

        I should’ve posted the photos where she crashed our first dance and stole the show! Thanks — a late afternoon winter wedding works out with fantastic light!

    • Kat

      I love this I love this I love this I love this I love this I love this 😽

  • AGCourtney

    Two dollars at a garage sale. It’s a bit short on her now, but she still loves to wear it.

    (I love this photo; girl is on a MISSION.)

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/a4695ca4db82abe3ba16a3c0c701a2d449df934a14d537f075ce507dfed01d5c.jpg

  • Lindsey d.

    I found dresses for my nieces on sale at Zara. I think I paid around $25 each? I loved that they reflected my dress. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/196f5a5e947f336aab697b6b337f7793b55dc6b6b90b58633049a4ff6f85bfd7.jpg

  • MTM

    I love all the dresses, but can we talk about the serious makeup/airbrushing/photoshopping of these little girls?! The Claude and Poppy picture is too much.

    • penguin

      I knew that picture made me uncomfortable for some reason – totally agree.

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  • Eenie

    I was in a wedding with a flower girl who got to pick out her own dress. She asked if the bride had picked out her wedding dress to match. We died laughing and explained, no, it just worked out that you liked similar things. I’m all on board with letting the kids pick out what they want to wear!!

  • PAJane aka Awesome Tits

    Seriously considering having a tiny army of flower children. Whatcha got for wee boys?

  • Amie Melnychuk

    My flower girl was almost 2 at the time, and I didn’t want to stress my sister out with a fancy outfit. So I found a couple cute white tank tops at Target with embellishes on the shoulders and neckline, and found a wonderfully huge yellow tutu from Zulily that matched the yellow of her mom’s dress. No fuss, no worries about spills (because I bought more than one top, expecting there to be stains) and the tutu was added to her dress-up clothes! Now it’s in my daughter’s rotation of outfits :)

  • Amanda

    I really like the Cat and Jack line from Target for cute and modern kid clothes. I got a very sweet pink crushed velvet dress with a modern looking huge bow on the shoulder for my 2 year old daughter for Christmas. They also had some adorable Dr Seuss printed shift dresses for Easter.

  • Anel B

    I’m totally team two! Some of my most vivid childhood memories were of me being the flower girl, or the “niña de recuerdo” for my Latinx folks, for literally every relative and family friend’s wedding in the 90’s and having to wear the same dress over and over and over because my parents could only afford so many dresses. which made me so salty at the time, cause of course I wanted a new dress for every event! to match the bride! to be 6 years old again!!

    but!!! these dresses are all so cute!!!!!