This Is What Genderless Posing Looks Like

Shots that actually, really look like our relationships: Modern, inclusive, beautiful, and real

We’ve heard you, and we’re right there with you: Conventional, gendered wedding posing can be All The Weirds. Marriages don’t look like they did in the 1950s anymore, so why do the photos have to? My husband and I, who are the most awkward people in the world, tried out ALL the go-to wedding shots: Him kissing me on the cheek while I looked at the camera (in what I thought was) coquettish allure. Him holding me from behind like we were about to do some weird judo move. Him dipping me, his face cropped out, but then me almost falling because: awkward. Pretending to be some delicate flower on camera when I’m not one in real life was… hard. Unsurprisingly, the best shots of us were the ones where we were just being who we are: equal partners. Holding hands as we pick our way over the rocks in a stream. Walking side-by-side through a tree tunnel. Clutching at each other, tummy to tummy, and open-mouth laughing in each other’s face because that’s basically just who we are as humans.

Enter Shawnee Custalow, who just gets it. She’s a Richmond, Virginia–based photographer (who travels anywhere in the United States for FREE, and has equally badass associate photographers in Richmond, NYC, and LA) with a self-described “super queer feminist heart” who doesn’t live in a Cold War–era box when it comes to photographing her couples. Aka, no one gets relegated to background set-dressing. Groundbreaking! (Also very important when you and your partner are both bringing it in equal measure.) And do you want to know what happens when you throw away outdated wedding industry crap in favor of something a little more authentic? Photos that are really good. I mean:

A strong woman stands in an alley wearing a golden dress, smiling, holding a bouquet

And also:

A wedding couple embrace in front of a blue wall

But really:

A couple in love walk down a hillside as a ridiculously beautiful sun sets behind them

Raw talent aside, when we tell you Shawnee C. is inclusive and real, we mean it. As Shawnee says, her work is all about “authentic documentation of offbeat, intimate, LGBT, gay, lesbian, queer, genderqueer, trans wedding and love stories” and, along with genderless posing, she does body-positive intimate portraiture, yassss. Shawnee explains, “I pour a lot of my own emotional energy into my work. I can’t help it, and I think that it lends to creating a more authentic view of an event. I’m not there to check off a shot list and call it a day. Instead I’m constantly looking for connections and little moments that, in the end, create the story for your photos.”

A wedding couple kiss as the wedding veil blows in the wind

Even more radical? Shawnee C. throws out the rule book for transparency in pricing. She never hides her rates: Wedding coverage starts at $3,200, and all packages include whatever travel is necessary, because we need all the information we can get without having to call or email a vendor a hundred times. But she’s also always down to talk honestly and openly about your capabilities and constraints, and customize packages.

And she is super excited to now have three amazing associate photographers in Richmond (Virginia), New York City, and Los Angeles, so there’s way more availability for folx, even in the busiest wedding months! (Tl;dr—even if you’re getting married this year, it can’t hurt to reach out and check which of these lovely humans is available for your date.

Two women in wedding dresses hold hands and walk togetherTwo persons in suits hold each other As she says, “If you feel like we’re the right photographer for you but are unsure about your budget, please reach out anyway! Money is scary, but it doesn’t have to be when you’ve found the right person to work with. From the planning process to the big day, we’ll be there cheering you on and pouring my heart into your celebration.” There are so few wedding professionals out there willing to have an open and honest conversation about money, I just kind of want to give Shawnee a hug for that alone.

Two women in wedding dresses smile at each other

I told you Shawnee C. gets it. And, right now, she’s offering a free 10″ x 10″ wedding album, a $1,000 value, to the first three couples who book. If that ends up being you, send us those pics! We (and the world) need more inclusive, gorgeous wedding photos in our lives.

CLICK HERE TO CONNECT WITH SHAWNEE C. and be one of the first three APW couples to book and get a free 10″ x 10″ wedding album (a $1000 Value).


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