How To Do Mismatched Bridesmaid Dresses


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Mismatched Bridesmaid Dresses

Mismatched bridesmaid dresses aren’t necessarily a new “thing” but the concept has gained popularity over the past few years, as laid-back weddings take center stage. It’s one of those rare trends that’s both frugal and fun. But because your BFFs largely want to make you happy, it can also be one of those things where trying to be laid back actually ends up making more work for yourself. (As “wear what you want” is answered by an echo of “Okay, but what do you think about this one?”) But it can work! And today we’ve partnered up with Brideside, the online bridesmaid dress boutique that let’s you shop tons of different styles in various price ranges with the help of a style consultant (because mix and match budgets are also a thing!) to share our best tips on how to keep everyone happy with their wedding day outfits, and not lose your mind in the process.

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What’s Your Angle?

Before you even start down this road, first figure out your main objective in choosing the mismatched wedding party. It’s easy to fall prey to the misconception that telling people what to wear is an inconvenience. But don’t be mistaken: mismatched outfits can be just as much work for the ladies and gents involved as more traditional options. (And they said yes to doing this because they love you, presumably, and already signed on the line for a little inconvenience.) So get real about your motivations. Do you just not want another wedding planning project to manage? Or do you have a specific vision you’re trying to achieve (like the gorgeous skirt and top combos below?)

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Are you only concerned with making sure everyone is truly wearing something they love? Will you care if things don’t turn out the way you imagined them? Answering these questions will help you figure out how much involvement you want, and how much you care about the outcome. For example, if you have a specific vision in mind, don’t just tell everyone to pick out a dress they love. Give direction. Similarly, know your crowd. If your friends don’t get dressed up except for weddings and funerals, it may be more stressful for them to have to pick things out of thin air, than if you give suggestions. That said, don’t feel like you have to manage this all by yourself. Brideside has a team of style consultants on hand who would love nothing more than to manage this project for you. So feel free to delegate your vision to your Brideside style consultant, and then let them keep everyone on track so you don’t have to.

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MODERN MISMATCHING MADE EASY

Once you’ve figured out the why of your mismatched wedding party, time to move to what. Starting with picking your palette. This is the one time when we’re going to strongly advocate for “colors” for your wedding. You can keep things broad with a color family (jewel tones), go with a general color (purple), or narrow it down to a specific shade (lilac). The trick is just to give your trusty shoppers an idea of where to start. Hint: Remember those Brideside style consultants I mentioned above? Well they can also help you figure out what you like and even send you fabric swatches way before you start sending anyone ideas. From there, figure out how much cohesion you want. And once you’ve got that figured out, choose your unifying elements. Pick a few (or all) of the following: color, length, material, pattern. Here are a few ways to make it work.

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Same Color Family, similar styles: Not everyone interprets color the same way (kelly green and lime green are technically both green, if you get my drift). So if you want everyone’s outfits to look mostly cohesive, choose a single shade and then stick with it. Set up a Pinterest board with your color choice(s) along with a few dress examples, send your team fabric swatches with your color(s), or work with the Brideside team to come up with a style board like the one above. It’ll make it easier for everyone to shop, and your your style consultant can deal with answering the endless questions about whether your sister’s dress is more blush or bashful.

Pro tip: if you want cohesion without matchy-matchiness, send them one of those multi-color paint swatches that you can get at your local hardware store and assign each person to one of the shades. Those colors are meant to look good together.

If you want everyone to show up in a similar style, give direction on length and material type. You don’t have to get as specific with your materials as chiffon or silk (though if you shop online at a place like Brideside, you can easily search and narrow by material type). But in general, something like long and flowy or short and structured or please nothing shiny should do the trick.

Recommended for: You like the idea of a cohesive wedding party, but you don’t want to have to micromanage everyone’s selections. Ideally, everyone will be able to choose an outfit they’re more likely to wear again than a traditional bridesmaid dress, but you understand they might not become staples in their daily wear.

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Same Color family, different styles: If you’re not into so much matching, or just want to increase your chances of everyone being able to wear their outfit again, you can stick with one color (or color family) and let everyone dictate their own style. This is particularly good if your wedding party is made up lots of different body types, or very different personal styles, and you want to honor that. To avoid unintentionally matching, this setup tends to be easiest if your color is a neutral (black, grey, cream, gold, etc.) or if it’s otherwise available in abundance. If you still want some cohesion within your wedding party, I recommend agreeing on a level of formality before everyone goes shopping. A romper might look strange next to an evening gown, and you don’t anyone feeling like they missed the memo on the dress code. Your Brideside account is a convenient place for you and your squad to save your favorite styles so you can easily see that everyone is in the same boat.

Recommended for: You’re less concerned with how your wedding party is going to look together in photos than with making sure they’re going to get something they’ll definitely wear again. Or: you have really stylish friends and you want to let their individual tastes shine.

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different colors, different styles (and what the hell, let’s add a pattern!): You can easily add more variety to the two concepts above, by doing more than one color or adding print options. The key, once again, to keeping things cohesive is making sure there are some points of similarity. For example, you can do all cocktail-length pastel florals. Or a mixture of solids and prints within the same color family. Or all floor length dresses in a combination of teal, maroon, and eggplant. (If you want a mix of colors like this, you might want to assign each person their own color. Your Brideside style consultant can be in charge of making sure you don’t end up with four out of five friends wearing teal and one person in eggplant feeling like the odd man out.) Since this kind of mismatching is a bit more advanced, just make sure to be realistic about your expectations, and know your crowd. Do you have super stylish friends who love to get dressed up and go out? Or are your people more jeans and t-shirt types? If you have a clear vision in mind, you can totally make the dress shopping process a collaborative one the same way you would if you were taking a more traditional bridesmaid dress shopping route. You know your people best, but remember that most wedding teams would rather have direction and get it right than be left to try and figure things out on their own (while worrying they’re going to disappoint you).

Recommended for: You have a clear vision of how you want your wedding party to look. You don’t mind giving direction or being a bit more involved in the process so that everyone is on the same page. You’d like it if everyone ends up in an outfit they love, but you also understand that as the parameters get narrower, there’s a greater chance it might still go in the donate pile later (not everyone loves florals or jewel tones the way you might, and that’s okay).

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AND GO, BE FREE, SHOP AWAY

Ta-da! Hopefully this will save your bridesmaids from keeping silent while dishing out money for a dress they will never wear again. Plus, you get to feel in control without actually having to be The Boss. Trust in those career bridesmaids, like me, to send you many excited smartphone photos while we try things on. You won’t be sorry.

Click here to sign up for Brideside and meet your personal style consultant today!

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This post was sponsored by Brideside, the online dress boutique that takes bridesmaid dress shopping out of the salon and into the comfort of your own home. With a selection of hundreds of dresses, in size 00–30, and a team of dedicated style consultants Brideside hopes to make the dress shopping experience a more positive one for all your wedding party members. Click here to explore Brideside’s bridesmaid dress collection today.

Najva Sol

Najva Sol is a queer Iranian-American writer, photographer, branding consultant, artist, and ex-poet.  She’s the token staff Slytherin and—while formally based in Brooklyn—tends to travel as much as possible. Storytelling is her life, but making chicken broth is a close second.
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  • C

    We asked our mixed gender wedding party to wear either suits (any style) or dresses (any style, any length) in any (literally any) sort of black or grey or charcoal or anything in between. It was a success! Even though one person asked if a dark navy blue dress would be ok- it was fine and everyone looked great.

  • Jules

    Oooh. I really like this guide! I told my two maids of honor a color (navy – so many options) and a length and a general idea of the fabric and then helped them find ideas by using a secret, shared Pinterest board. That way they could choose any of my options or keep looking to find something they liked better. There was everything from $20 to $220 on our board. The wedding is next weekend and I’m curious about how it will turn out! There also seemed to be a lot more…excitement? about actually choosing a dress rather than “I’m willing to buy this dress at David’s and donate it because I love you”…

    The guys were just asked to wear a “navy suit” with a white dress shirt, and we’ll supply the matching ties and boutonnieres. They sent pictures in advance of what they owned/were considering buying and were all really on board with it.

    Don’t forget to consider offering some guidance on shoes (nude, metallic, other? heel or not?) and accessories (what metals? pearls? colors? crystals?) too!

    • kate

      yes – i think the accessories guidance is where my missing piece is! i’m kind of aiming for the same color/different styles thing and don’t really care too much about everyone being totally cohesive, but i AM a little concerned about matching the formality level. 2 of my 4 bridesmaids are my 2 sisters who really are very, very casual, basic dressers and don’t own a lot of fancy clothes/go out much and the other 2 are my FSIL and friend/MOH who both really enjoy dressing up and have great senses of style. i’ve made them a pinterest board with a ton of dress options, but still getting some questions/requests for input from everyone and reading your comment it dawned on me that getting a little more specific on accessorizing might really help everyone meet in the middle. good point!

      • Manda9339

        Maybe this only works for a group that’s all close, but could the women with nice jewelry and accessories bring extras? I know in my group of friends, one person is apt to do this for the fancy events, and it is well received.

        • kate

          oh totally – i think my FSIL would actually LOOOOOVE to do this and MOH and i were also discussing just ordering some extra jewelry from RTR (where she’s likely getting her dress from) for everybody to pick from too.

          • Lauren from NH

            They do this Pro account thing you should check out. I rented a dress for my upcoming engagement party and added it on, seemed like a pretty good deal.

          • kate

            will do! i’m actually planning to possibly order some stuff for our rehearsal dinner too, so could be really worthwhile…

        • neighborhoodmap

          My bridesmaids all totally ended up borrowing accessories from each other. I had given them general guidelines (tan or gold shoes, gold accessories) and they all just brought a bunch of stuff they had that fit that color scheme. Since we all got ready together in the morning there was a lot of swapping going on! It was actually kind of adorable.

      • qj

        Yes! Good point. I think an element that really helped here (with different colors & patterns that also complimented one another) was that my sister saw pics of the dresses and made jewelry for each of the gals (she makes jewelry anyhow, and was delighted to do it — so lucky!), which helped to tie everything together, too.

      • Jules

        Absolutely! Not that it has to matter (see above awesome non boring shoe picture), but a specific shoe color family can be a pretty easy thing. There are lots of options in silver, black, “nude”, brown, etc…or you could ask them to go the Dyeables route at Payless.

        I considered giving the bridal party a matching piece of jewelry to help tie things together, but one of my girls is so picky that I simply based the accessories around what she wanted to wear.

      • Greta

        I was recently in a wedding with 6 total bridesmaids. We were told to get a navy dress, cocktail length-ish, and gold shoes. The bride told us to not worry about jewelry, she would provide it. Our bridesmaid’s gift was a white wrap/scarf and a set of gold-white earrings. She went to Francesca’s and picked out 6 different sets of earrings, and she tried to give to us based on our personal style. Even though I have never worn the navy dress again (I picked it out, but it’s not my favorite) I wear my gold shoes, my wrap, and those earrings all the time. And I got to say, as a group, we looked really good together. She also had white and yellow bouquets, and it was an October wedding so really it all came together stunningly. But the accessories were great and really helped us with the vision!

    • Kendra D

      I had my girls wear “non-boring” shoes, which were described to them as anything goes as long as it’s not a neutral color. One of my friends was only 3 months postpartum and traveled by herself with the baby to our out-of-state wedding. So, she got a pass and wore flat sandals that were neutral because that’s what her feet could handle.

      • kate

        cute! i haven’t really specified shoes yet and kind of want to steal this… :)

        • Kendra D

          It was honestly my favorite part of the process! I knew that I wanted to wear boots and I wanted my girls to have fun too! My sister-in-law repurposed the pink heels from another wedding, my sister had the anime shoes hand made, and the girl in the blue shoes spent months looking for them and sending me pictures of shoes because she was taking the opportunity to splurge. I had so much fun by how excited my one friend and my sister were over their shoes. And the other two girls were relieved at the ease, not to mention my sister-in-law got a kick out of rewearing the pink heels. Which is to say, I would definitely do it this way again.

      • Amanda L

        I asked my BMs to wear any shoes they wanted as long as they were silver. Then I changed my mind (still well in advance) and asked them to be navy shoes. All three of my BMs showed up with the EXACT same shoes, two of them in navy and one of them in silver. If you didn’t know, you would have thought I planned it that way.

        Also, the one BM with silver must have asked me 10 times the day before the wedding if I wanted her to go find navy shoes… I assured her that they would all look perfect just the way they were… and they did!

  • Vilmos Kovacs

    For ease, cohesion and maximum re-wear-ability, I went with long black dresses for my maids. Extra bonus: the colorful bouquets really popped!

    • VKD_Vee

      that sounds so hot! not enough black bridesmaids… it’s such a good look.

      • Jules

        Omigosh. My cousin did this and her spring wedding coordinated like a dream! She had white and green bouquets and black & white damask everywhere and it looked great. (plus, how else do you get 9 girls to pick a dress together?)

    • kate

      totally. agree x100 with VKD – black bridesmaids is such a good look!

    • laurasmash

      I did short black dresses, whatever you want. My bridesmaids love their dresses, they were very affordable as they didn’t have to get them from a bridal store, and they will wear them again. Love bridesmaids wearing black.

    • Megan

      Seconding the black dresses. Told everyone to go pick whatever short, black dress they liked from J Crew bridal. They all found something they loved, they’ll all be able to wear them again (I hope I’m not that naive bride, but c’mon – if there’s ANY dress you can wear again, its a short black one you picked yourself) and I trust that they’ll be cohesive enough since they’re from the same place. Bonus – J Crew has been unexpectedly running a ton of sales and will let you do multiple price adjustments so they’ve all been getting them for about half the usual price. Easiest part of the planning process.

      • PC

        YES to J Crew sales! I initially balked at their prices (because honestly, the quality is not that remarkable) but they had lots of options in a color I liked so I decided to go for it. Turns out, bridesmaids dresses are covered by most of their regular sales, and all of my friends have gotten their dresses for at least 40% off!

        • Megan

          One of my bridesmaids discovered that if you call their wedding specialists, they’ll layer discounts if you ask them. So, she got hers 30% off when she bought it and later they ran another 20% off sale, so she called and they gave her an extra 20% off her already discounted price. Their customer service has been AMAZING.

          • kate

            totally second this – i only ended up getting my gown through J Crew, but the customer service has been so so amazing. consultant was incredibly helpful and fun during my appointment, the buying process totally pain and pressure-free, and i was able to get a good deal too. made me wish i hadn’t already given my bridesmaids dress direction so i could have sent them through J Crew too.

  • VKD_Vee

    1. That lavender Wtoo dress is like… so f*ckin’ babely.

    2. I need to brag… because my sisters just nailed it. They’re all flakes and bought their dresses in the fortnight before the wedding but I just told them “buy whatever you want between mint and dark deal”.

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    • Lisa

      1. I was coming here to say the same thing. Seriously the best.
      2. Your sisters look absolutely fantastic! Mine did not like the “pick whatever you want in eggplant” strategy and refused to cooperate until I picked a dress for them (which my mom ended up making).

    • FancyPants

      Good to hear that your ladies had it on lock with less than 2 weeks! We are 3 weeks out and my two sisters are….still brainstorming….

      And now, I am not involved at all (and it is the BEST!) I just want them to love what they wear- I REALLY don’t care what it is.

      • VKD_Vee

        I was the same and I think, as others have said, it almost makes BMs more nervy! Like, nobody can accept a chillaxed bride-to-be…

        • FancyPants

          AND as others have said ‘you are adults; you look good and pick nice clothes for yourselves regularly. Please do the same thing for this event.’

          Also, selfishly, I just really didn’t want to be the one who made them wear something they didn’t like. Poor mothers around the globe are still being blamed decades later for making their children match.

  • Nell

    I did the: “Here’s the color! Go nuts!” thing. Now, some of the girls are showing me their potential dresses and. . . how do I say “nope, not that” without sounding like a jerk? One was just way too short, another was not dressy enough. Those are objective ideas, of course – and I want the women who I’m honoring to know that I think they’re beautiful.

    I feel like I’m being an even BIGGER jerk now, because instead of saying “here is the one dress you can wear” – I’ve made it harder on the dress-wearers.

    Help?

    • kate

      sort of struggling with this a bit too, but what was really a big help for me and my peeps was me making a pinterest board of dresses i like/approve so they had real, live dresses to choose from if they wanted or at least picture evidence of the general level of dressiness/style i’m going for to reference when doing their own shopping.

      also, as jules mentioned in another comment below, mentioning accessories/shoes can really help too – those do a lot to indicate the level of formality you want. and as for length, i think maybe just specify “cocktail length, but no more than x inches above the knee please/keep it around knee-length” or something like that? that seems like a reasonable request, especially if it were for a religious ceremony.

      • Nell

        Yeah, at first I said “short” – because I didn’t want anyone in formal evening gowns. But then I realized “short” means something different to everybody. I’m not having a terribly religious ceremony, but I one of the things that makes it feel like a “wedding” to me is that everyone is dressed a little more modestly than they would be for a night out on the town.

        I’m going to do that Pinterest thingy and see how it goes!

        • Jules

          Yes, I highly recommend a collection of “approved” dresses. That way if your girls are getting stressed out by having to do the shopping themselves, you can point them to an option that you think works. For “short” – yes, there is so much variance! Pin down a length – like should it be to the knee? can it be a few inches above? tea length? Let them know.

    • macrain

      This route actually IS a bigger pain than people think. You are trying to be laid back, and then you end up feeling not laid back at all.
      That said- you should be happy with the end result. I think it’s totally fine to say no, and also- give them some examples of dresses that do fit the bill to give them an idea. Try to be specific. Pinterest is a great idea, I’ve done that and it worked beautifully.

    • Sarah E

      I think the not-dressy-enough issue is totally one you can offer more guidance on. Even guests want to make sure they’re hitting the appropriate formality mark, and feeling over- or under- dressed isn’t a great feeling.

      On the too-short dress, I’m not sure. I saw your further comment that longer dresses feel more wedding-y to you. . .I might stick with the “that seems too casual” line, because everyone’s version of “modest” is different. And it starts to feel a little high-school-dress-code to be told “that skirt’s too short, young lady!”

      • Nell

        Right! I don’t want to shame my friends about their bodies. Obviously, on any other occasion, they can wear short short skirts. Just not the look I’m hoping for on the one day that they’re bridesmaids.

    • Meg

      I have a friend going through this as the bridesmaid and whatever she suggests the bride shoots down. I think if you shoot something down, make sure to send her another option just so it feels productive

    • MABie

      Ah, that sounds really uncomfortable. I echo the advice of others who have said that you could say something like, “That’s a little less formal than I wanted.” I’d even say something more specific like, “I was hoping for knee-length to floor-length to give it a more formal vibe.”

      …And you’ve just reminded me that even though I thought we decided to go with a pretty foolproof approach (we picked a color/fabric at J. Crew), I neglected to tell the BMs NOT to choose the one dress I think is way too short, and I just know that one of them is going to choose it. Sh*t!!

    • Kendra D

      I think you just have to be honest. When my sister was searching for her dress for my wedding – she sent me the photo of one that I really didn’t like. I was kind, but honest, and told her that if she really liked it, I would be okay with her getting it (only because that was true) but that I would be happier if she would keep looking for something else. She did and found a dress she loved way more.

    • Vilmos Kovacs

      So I wasn’t crazy about one of my bridesmaid’s dress. It just wasn’t my taste. But I said “pick what you want” so they each would feel great and that is what made her feel great. So I didn’t say anything. And she looked great and confident that day.

    • neighborhoodmap

      I did the “here’s the color, have fun” thing too. One thing that I found that helped was sending out pictures of the dresses to the whole group as each individual bridesmaid picked her dress. That meant that they had an easy visual of the formality of the other dresses (plus my dress, which I had also sent out to them) and they could shop accordingly. The dresses they all picked turned out to vary a lot more in color than I would have predicted, but it turned out to really, really work. And I had no issues of formality.

      • Greta

        This is such a great idea! When I was in a mismatched Navy bridal party we all had a big moment getting our hair done where we explained our dresses. There were so many options in navy that it would have been great to know in advance what other people in the party were wearing. I would have felt more confident in picking out my dress.

        • neighborhoodmap

          Yup! And I forgot to add — my maid of honor bought hers first, and I was with her when she bought it (not because I needed to be in control, but because she lives out of town and bought it while visiting the same weekend that I bought my dress and we finalized colors together), so that kind of set the tone for the rest of them. I’m sure some of them thought I was nuts as I was doing it, but it made everything easier in the end.

    • Laurel

      Hi! I went through this last year. I have to say that having a pinterest board really helped. I did actually nix one or two dresses, but was able to specify why (ie: too short, wrong color, too casual). It was definitely not at “easy breezy” as I expected it to be, but since my ‘maids are crazy different and also have wildly different clothing budgets, I am really glad I did. I sent out emails with links to dresses at variety of stores and had a heavily curated pinterest board. We ended up with a used dress purchased on ebay, a designer dress rented from Rent the Runway, one of those wrap dresses that can be worn 15 different ways, and a dress (I think) from a thrift store.

      So, I would say that it’s totally ok to say no, but you’ve got to be constructive. Also, if you really want to be the “let them wear what they want” bride, you have to kind of let go of the visions you have of the type of dress you thought they’d pick. Does that make sense? If they pick something that seems to fall within your guidelines, you should give them the green light — or drastically change your messaging :)

  • laurasmash

    I remember the post from wedding in the first image! Best mismatched bridesmaid dresses I’ve seen, and it made me wish I could get married here in LA because Baldwin Hills overlook is so gorgeous!

    • kate

      no kidding! those ladies KILLED IT. doesn’t hurt that they are all drop-dead gorgeous either…

    • VKD_Vee

      this. exact. comment.

  • macrain

    I pretty much love an excuse to share a wedding photo! Here are my mismatched bridesmaids- they are in two different BHLDN dresses. Also, we aren’t talking groomsmen here, but- we had them all use their own black suit-or rent if they didn’t have one-and put them all in the same tie. I was feeling really iffy about how different suits would look together, but I was delighted when it came together and it was pretty easy for them.

    • VKD_Vee

      So, so, SO DREAMY!

    • Natalie

      gorgeous!

    • Carly

      So pretty! I love your dress, too!

  • Meg

    I went with the “mismatched but same color” motif for my wedding and my older sister complained.
    My little sister was going to but decided to go with matched dresses….and my older sister complained.

    I felt vindicated that she’ll just complain about anything

  • Katie

    I did the “any shorter dress in blush” route. I had three bridesmaids and two young girls, and the bridesmaids all feverishly emailed me dress ideas as they were shopping. It turned out better than I had imagined.

    Beware the Uncertain Mother. Neither my own, nor OH’s mom, could wrap their heads around the idea of mismatched dresses and it was a long standing source of concern for them. They got it once they saw it, but it was OBVIOUSLY a concern for the whole planning process.

    • macrain

      It’s so weird that this is becoming more and more of a thing, and yet- people still don’t get it!
      Pretty photo!

    • jubeee

      I really like this, I don’t understand why anyone would be concerned about such a thing…

  • Kendra D

    We did the mismatched look for our wedding and I absolutely love how it came out. My dear ladies all picked out black cocktail length dresses and the gents all wore dark suits with light shirts – with the exception that anyone in the military was given the option to wear their service dress uniform. Also, this photo is one of my favorites because my sister-in-law picked up the kitten that was following us around.

  • carolynprobably

    A cautionary tale: I really like the look of mismatched dresses and preferred it strongly. BUT, we were planning a fall wedding and my sister and friends were trying to get their shopping done in late spring and early summer- when deep jewel-toned dresses are NOT in. Going a more traditional route ended up being easier on everyone even though it wasn’t my first choice.

    tl;dr be aware and be practical of the season you’re shopping IN and the season you’re shopping FOR. It isn’t going to be easy if you’re asking your bridesmaids to shop for floaty floral garden dresses in November.

    • Natalie

      Yes! I tried to help my best friend find a coral sundress in New Mexico in the fall. It was impossible. The other bridesmaids lived in California, where such dresses were easy to find year round.

    • Anon

      Yes! I was shopping for coral in the winter, for an early summer wedding, and it was tough! But I felt rushed because I could tell the bride did not want us to wait until the last minute to find a dress, and I was anxious too. But by May, I kept seeing more dresses come out that I liked better than the one I had committed too. Oh well.

  • qj

    1. Thank you for including images of plus-size women and women who are pregnant in this roundup!
    2. Something that worked REALLY well for us (since we went with the last option, aka more complicated matching-but-not-matching): I sent my two best gals a picture of my dress and sash & my sister’s dress, and a handful of links to various dresses I thought looked awesome and said, “Go wild! Pick something you think would generally fit into this ballpark.” They picked really different dresses from one another, but both “fit” with my sister’s dress & mine, with the general theme of “mismatching patterns, neutrals + metallics) (what?). My sister and I happened to go shopping together and find dresses we both liked on the same afternoon, which made that so so much easier.
    3. Once he realized what we were doing with the dresses, my partner was not about to wear matching suits + ties with his guys. Knowing our audience, we ended up just purchasing a handful of ties in various patterns/shades of greens, and they just picked the one they preferred the day of. (Plus, adorable little-boy green bow tie with bicycles on it = cutest ever.)

  • Natalie

    One thing that really helps dress buyers is going with a traditional bridesmaid dress supplier (like David’s Bridal), choosing a specific color, and letting your bridesmaids go from there. I helped a friend buy a bridesmaid dress that she was told should be any “knee-length coral sundress”, and it was a pain in the butt. Coral was an “in” color that year in her hometown, but not in the city we lived in. We couldn’t find anything appropriate. We kept finding dresses that were almost coral, but too orange or too pink. This same friend was one of my bridesmaids, and she told me how happy she was that I gave her more specific direction: go to David’s Bridal and pick any dress in their “oasis” color.

    Our mismatched bridal party looked awesome, and they each chose a dress that looked great on their body and that they would wear again. I love how they all looked together.

    • Natalie

      here’s a photo of our mismatched bridal party:

    • Maddie Eisenhart

      That’s actually a really good point. Some colors are harder to do. If you go with one that is up for interpretation, for realz send a sample or pin an example or SOMETHING. Because even *I* got schooled a few weeks ago on the difference between teal and turquoise.

      • Jules

        Oh my gosh – coral. We ended up going with navy because peach….wasn’t going to happen. Plus, there was a ton of variance on how orange or pink “peach” was, and navy was elected as the more flattering color. Paint chips! (Though, since they have a matte finish it’ll look different…but you can at least get the color tones right.)

        • Maddie Eisenhart

          It’s so true! My mind interprets coral much more orangey than, say Meg, who thinks of coral as a pinker hue. (I’m pretty sure this is a real conversation we’ve had.)

    • Brooke

      Be careful with this, though, if you want the color to match exactly. I was in a wedding where the instructions were just to get a long dress in the bride’s specified color at David’s Bridal, but due to the different fabrics, the shades still didn’t look identical. I still think it looked great, but it bothered the “BRIDESMAIDS MUST MATCH” brigade. I really appreciated it though, because I did wear that dress again!

      • Natalie

        good point! When you try on dresses of different fabrics in the “same” color, you see that colors read differently on different fabrics, but unless you see them in person, it’s not obvious. Our wedding party was wearing 3 different fabrics (satin, chiffon, and cotton), and they looked slightly different colors when they stood next to each other, but I have to look really closely to see it in the photos.

      • Natalie

        My mother is of the “bridesmaids must match” brigade, and it drove her nuts that I didn’t specify a length or fabric type. But each of my ladies wanted something different, and I just wanted everyone to be happy. Which they were. Except my mom, who wasn’t the one buying or wearing the dresses.

        • Brooke

          Haha, I hear ya. My mom fought me tooth and nail on the whole mismatched bridesmaids thing. But even she ended up liking how they looked in the end. (Or lying to me, possibly, but I think she meant it.)

    • CP2011

      I second this for sure. Especially if the women in your wedding are in separate cities.

  • pajamafishadventures

    These are all awesome dresses and awesome overall advice (personally I like being told exactly what to wear), but honestly no matter how much I love a dress or how much say I had in choosing it, it’s not going to get worn again unless it’s super casual or work appropriate so I feel like there’s no point in even trying to make that work. Unless more people want to start inviting me to fancy events… which they’re welcome to.

    • Eenie

      I usually wear dresses to weddings. The aforementioned black dress or other non obviously bridesmaid dress would get worn to a different wedding for sure.

      • pajamafishadventures

        I generally do too! I’m just not invited to attend that many where a dress is appropriate attire for the formality/location (and already have a closet full of dresses I’ve bought to attend those weddings prior to becoming a bridesmaid). It’s great if a bridesmaid dress is re-wearable, the one I’m in for a friend’s upcoming wedding is certainly something I’d love to have the chance to put on again, but “will they wear it again” doesn’t really seem like a practical selection guideline

        • Eenie

          Sometimes I feel like “will they wear it again” and “will they feel like themselves” are interchangeable. And even if you have a whole closet full of dresses for every occasion, I still want you to fell like yourself at my wedding. That’s the reason I think it’s a practical selection guideline, but you don’t need to kill yourself to make it happen.

  • Fiona

    This is SO COOL.
    My bridesmaids are wearing mismatched dresses, and it was A LOT of work. They’re each wearing a different jewel tone, floor-length, chiffon dress. We kept having to edit our pinterest board because one person would pick a color, and that would limit the choices for the other two. I like the way they look together, but it was definitely not the easy way out.

  • emmers

    We did mismatched (black, non-shiny, kneeish length), and it was very little work, other than a pinterest board for style inspiration. I gave them a pink scarf for cohesion, but they looked beautiful, and it was easy!

    • emmers

      PS, I think it was easy because black is so easy to find, but also because I really did not care, and made that known. There were a few ladies who asked me to review their dresses (every time, I told them I liked them, even if they didn’t fit the criteria 100%), but other than that, it was easy. But I can totally see how this would have been harder if I’d been trying to match a color!

  • ML

    Thank you for dispelling the myth that mismatched bridesmaid dressed is the laid-back, easiest way to go! It CAN be, but not if your maids are not into shopping, if you have a specific vision, etc. It can often require MORE coordination than just picking out one dress, or one color/style a la David’s Bridal. It was very frustrating for me as a bridesmaid to pick out something that I liked, and then to get the bride’s approval, and to make sure it went with the other bridesmaids’ dresses, etc. Way too many texts and emails exchanged over the matter. It really can look and be amazing to have variety, but I am so tired of hearing people say they are doing this to be the cool, chill bride!

    • macrain

      Also important to remember that mismatched doesn’t HAVE to mean you let them choose.

  • Lauren from NH

    Yeah two of my ladies “get it” but my mom and other bm don’t. They are very concerned about it coming together. I gave them a bunch of reference images and links to possible dresses and stipulated I was looking for a saturated pink coral, yet they are insisting I pick a length, we need to go shopping together and all this anxiety about we are running out of time! The wedding is over 4 months out and I am trying to delegate, so I sent a bunch more reference links and ordered swatches and things have quieted down, but my goodness! I am giving you mostly free reign to dress yourself, puleese just pick out your own outfit!

    • macrain

      My sister thought was straight up nuts. She changed her tune when she saw it all come together, though!

    • FancyPants

      Sooo….I fully get the ‘getting it’ thing. My 2 sisters are my MOHs- and yes, I did a semiterrible job of leading the direction of dresses (started out: “No typical bridesmaid dress please”, sharing tons of dresses in emails, then morphed into “a dress of any kind in coral, gold, grey or not-navy blue”. Now none of us like the dresses they ordered online (matching) and are now back to a WHOLE NEW idea: they get white dresses in whatever style they want and have them natural-indigo dyed by a professional. In < 3 weeks.

      Let's just say our fingers are crossed.
      And if it's a bust? They go one day before the wedding to the many J Crew/Anthro/Target/TJMaxx stores TOGETHER and just get dresses that look good together.

      All I can say is I am so glad I took myself out of it! It helped move things along so they didn't feel bad about hurting my feelings when they didn't like the dresses I selected. My opinion (THIS WHOLE TIME) was pretty much 'I really want you to feel awesome'. But it was way harder to get here than I thought!

  • Bket

    I don’t have any pictures back yet, but I was surprised at how difficult it was for my four bridesladies when I said “wear whatever you want”. I meant it, really. Really. It just DID NOT COMPUTE. Finally we ended up with “jewel tone color of your choice and my dress is short so short is better. Here are some example pics.” We eventually got there, and they looked fabulous in their mismatched jewel tone glory. I have been in many weddings, and I can honestly tell you I just didn’t feel … pretty … in them. I’ve had to do the teal, spaghetti strap number, the two-piece David’s Bridal in a pastel with a different top (twice), the long nude dress that was clearly picked by a maid-of-honor 5 inches taller and 50 pounds lighter, matching silver shoes, matching jewelry, etc… (and clearly many of these weddings happened years ago, oh, and I once had a photographer insist on taking my “bridesmaid” pic without my glasses…I look cross-eyed)…. I guess I just don’t understand the idea of wanting an “aesthetic” in a way that literally dictates what people you care about – who are adults – wear. I have parties all the time, and don’t ever coordinate anyone’s outfit. I really meant “wear whatever you want that you think is lovely that you would wear again.” Really. I understand that my priorities for a wedding were different than my friends that had such aesthetic ideas, and that others may think my priorities weren’t worth prioritizing, but I guess when going through my own wedding planning process I realized I still look back on those experiences and think that I don’t understand why in order to demonstrate my support for someone’s marriage I had to spend thousands of dollars (over the course of many weddings) on unflattering matching outfits/shoes/hairdos/jewelry in a specific color.

    • kate

      yep, i’m pretty much with you on this: “I just don’t understand the idea of wanting an “aesthetic” in a way that literally dictates what people you care about – who are adults – wear.”
      it’s really the part where that attitude can be hard to understand for your bridal party, depending on their own temperaments and experience with weddings, that makes it harder to navigate – it kind of seems like no one believes me that i basically just don’t want anyone to feel wildly over- or under-dressed and otherwise don’t really care a whole lot.

      • Bket

        Yep. What’s really interesting is that one of the ladies is getting married this fall, and she keeps telling me about all the stuff she just DOESN’T care about that other people have opinions on, and all I’m thinking is “are you the same person that was upset about me telling you to wear whatever you’d like because coordinating bridesmaids wasn’t important to me”?

        • kate

          haha, yes! it probably all makes a lot more sense to her now that she’s in the driver’s seat…
          just like Addie’s wedding post about budgeting the cares to give – there are only so many to go around, so some stuff is gonna end up in that 0 cares column, it’s just a matter of what your priorities end up being.

    • laddibugg

      You’re still dictating what someone wears by requesting they wear ANY specific color. I don’t have any ‘jewel toned’ dresses that I’d feel comfortable wearing in a wedding–every single one of my party dresses is black. so I’d still have to purchase something to fit within your aesthetic.

      • Bket

        Nope. Black would have been totally fine. We got to jewel-tones after lots of conversations about just wearing what you want. I really meant it, and none of them believed me.

  • Christina A.

    The women who stood with me at my wedding looked fantastic in their mismatched dresses, and it was actually a lot of fun going on shopping expeditions with the group (or singles) and knowing we didn’t have to find the One Dress To Fit Them All. We went with the same color, same (general) length, different style, which meant we all still looked like a cohesive group. Somewhere along the way, silver shoes were agreed on and added to the cohesiveness

    The men all wore grey suits in varying shades, but again, looked like a group thanks to ties and pocket squares (with pi embroidered on them–totally not my doing!).

    Different suites + different dresses = absolutely lovely.

  • jubeee

    So i’m having 3, one is my brother and another is our 10 year old niece. My MOH is wearing a wine colored gown, my brother can wear whatevs and the niece wants to wear pink. I think I am just going to have her find a dress in a blush chiffon for matching fabrics.

  • Erin

    I has mismatched bridesmaids too! I definitely second the recommendation to make a pinterest board so they have something to reference if you pick a color that’s not super obvious, like black or navy. I did darkish purple, and I was really happy with the results (and just want to share a wedding photo!). My sister ended up in a more berry tone (not planned), which I loved, because it set her apart a little as the MOH.

    • jubeee

      I like the different shades look, it makes everyone stand out and its more interesting. Lovely picture!

  • MommaCat

    This is a quote from the email I sent my bridesmaids as to what I wanted their dresses to look like.

    “Blue (any shade not tending too far towards purple or green)
    Solid color (or subtle pattern)
    Tea-length/knee length
    Simpler is better (take cue from wedding dress for simplicity)
    30’s thru 50’s inspired is a plus!
    (oh, and while some volume in the skirt is fine, nothing that needs petticoats. If I don’t get a petticoat, neither do you. ^_^)

    If you’re not sure the dress you want/have fits in these parameters, send me a pic, and I’ll let you know. In fact, send me a pic anyway, I wanna know what the dresses will look like.”

    They nailed it. We also had a bridesman and groomswoman who ended up doing their own thing, but it totally worked.

    • MommaCat

      Main reason I let them choose their own dresses was that I was NEVER going to find a dress that suited all of them, as they all have such different body-types!

  • We did mismatched blues for our own wedding and even extended this to our immediate family. All of our formal portraits looked amazing and cohesive. That said, this was one of my FAVORITE mismatched bridesmaids dresses to date: gold and sparkly! http://www.rachellerawlingsphotography.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/heights-fire-station-wedding_0007.jpg

    • CP2011

      Oh wow! Sparkly gold dresses were exactly what I wanted for my wedding but they ended up being too hard to find, especially for a low price. Jealous!! I ended up going with one color/any long style David’s bridal for the girls in our mixed gender wedding parties. Guys wore whatever suits they had plus matching ties from Macy’s.

  • chloe
  • ART

    I sent mine a roundup of photos of the style/length of dress I was hoping for (I sort of cheated b/c I color shifted it in Inkscape to make the examples purple) and basically just said “as long as it’s a summer-y purple and about this length, I won’t veto it.” I got a little nervous when I saw photos as they found their dresses because I thought they would be too different in dressy-ness (one was from the Ross clearance rack, one was from the thrift store, one was an honest to goodness bridesmaid dress bought online). But I just gulped and said “that’ll do!” and honestly, it worked out perfectly. The only thing they did matching was put their hair up and put some baby’s breath in it. I loved it. We also asked our groomsmen to wear pants and vests “in the brown-ish family” with white shirts. They looked like a million dollars. Some had matching suit pieces, others didn’t, it looked like fine.

  • Gwen

    Ohhh man, choosing bridespeople outfits! I did go the mismatched route, which was wonderful, and I’m actually not sure how our peeps got the colour so well matched, given that I was in Ottawa, Canada with one bridesmaid, while my bridesbutler and maid of honour were in Vancouver, Canada, and then the wedding was in the San Francisco Bay Area with my now-husband and his best man, while his other groomsman was in Southern California. On top of that budget constraints meant typical bridal places just weren’t going to work.

    Everyone was unhappy with being asked to help figure out what would work for them. I certainly didn’t have time to figure it out for them, though, as I was finishing graduate studies, doing paperwork for immigration proceedings, and getting ready to move, while planning the whole wedding. So from an initial “something burgundy, probably knee-ish-length, but make it something you’re comfortable in,” we went through a zillion emails and text messages and suggested ideas, and ended up with everyone rocking their look.

    My maid of honour wore a necklace she received as a gift when the two of us were travelling in West Africa. My bridesbutler wore John Fluevog shoes with blue shoelaces. My sister-in-law rocked a full-length gown that made her feel beautiful in spite of a challenging pregnancy and jet lag, and paired it with burgundy and navy nail polish (what!). We bought a vest the week of the wedding for the best man and it fit him perfectly, after him being unable to find one for months. My brother-in-law tried to coordinate vest and shirt colours but was ridiculously happy after we warned him off, saying nothing else was going to match so he’d best not.

  • Brooke

    My priority for bridesmaid dresses was that they wouldn’t have to buy a new dress unless they wanted to. I specified only that the dresses be black–everything else was up to the bridesmaids. The ones who had more money bought new dresses they were excited about, the ones who had less money got together for a dress swap where we all brought all the black dresses we owned and they tried them all on and picked their favorites (which was a LOT of fun, by the way!), and it looked great on the wedding day. The dresses were not the same length, fabric, or even the same exact shade of black, and it STILL looked good. I highly recommend this route!

  • Sarah N.

    Mis-matched dresses, bodies, and even ages. My mother was my Maid of Honor! Plus all my ladies had a variety of body types, financial needs, etc. There was no way I was going to pick a dress for them. They each bought a black dress that suited their phenomenal personalities (even my mom, who also wore a special lace bolero) and proceeded to look absolutely amazing, but still looked cohesive as a group. Wouldn’t have done it any other way.

  • anneschwal

    I got married on Valentines day (all the cheesiness!!!) and told my commitment crew ladies to wear red, purple or pink. That was my only instruction and we all looked pretty amazing, imho! I did get some red, pink, and purple scarves from target on clearance at the last minute, and they ended up matching really well.

    • Manya

      Wow! I love this! And your rose gold sequin dress… GAH!

    • Jess

      I grew up a few blocks from the St. Paul College Club and it was our top choice for the reception before we settled on getting married in our house! Gorgeous!

      • anneschwal

        It was a perfect venue for us! And St. Paul in general is awesome, obviously ;)

  • Farmgirl13

    I’m in a bridesmaid mess… I chose 2 different colors from jcrew and a fabric from jcrew and told my girls they could pick any style and asked them to tell me their preference before purchasing. Well not all of them did that. So now I have 4 girls in teal and 2 in pink instead of the 3 and 3 I had envisioned. One of the girls ( my fiancé’s sister) dress is backordered so I asked her if she would switch to the pink. She said NO! Which put me into a total wedding meltdown. I haven’t found the words to respond. What to do…

    • Brooke

      I think 4 in teal and 2 in pink will look just fine! Especially if they stand symmetrically in pictures. (Does that make sense? Like, pinks on the outsides, or in the middle, or teal pink teal teal pink teal?

    • Amanda L

      What Brooke said. I definitely don’t think is a total disaster! I actually think the pictures will be beautiful without it being exactly symmetrical.

  • Kate SB

    I actually went for ‘whatever you want, as long as it’s formal enough that you would wear it to church on Sunday, and I would prefer it would go with the (dark red) flowers that you’ll be carrying, but it doesn’t have to.’ My reasoning was that pictures of prom or formal or what have you always look fine even though the dresses aren’t matching at all. Two of my bridesmaids thought I was the best ever and wore dresses that they had in their closets, and the other three had read something that said ‘when the bride says that you can wear whatever you want she doesn’t mean it’ (ummm, no, I really meant it) and tried to talk the other bridesmaids into all matching. But in the end I had two bridesmaids wearing red, one wearing purple, and two wearing black and they all looked awesome. I don’t know if they have worn the dresses again, but it was totally their choice.

    One of my friends got married last year and she decided to go with the mismatched look, mostly to accommodate different people spending different amounts (I was already flying out, renting a car, and staying in a hotel so I didn’t really want to spend a lot on a bridesmaid dress, but some of the other bridesmaids were more comfortable spending more). She requested that everyone find a dress in the peacock / teal family. I ended up talking her into letting me wear a dress from eShakti.com , and I actually love it. It isn’t the dress I would have chosen, but I was able to get it made to my size, in a comfortable jersey, with *pockets*, for less than most bridesmaid dresses. I’ve worn it several times since then. Oh, and the mismatched thing worked out ok. It even looked like we’d planned it, because some of the bridesmaids were wearing a darker blue and some were wearing a lighter color.

  • Manya

    Nicely done, Najva!

  • dogmouth

    I wound up mailing paint chips to my bridesmaids to help them shop, and they both (independently) picked out different styles of the same J.Crew dress (which was on sale). I bought them small floral fascinators, and told them to wear nude shoes. They picked out similar necklaces together. I think the whole thing worked really well, and I know that they have both worn the dresses again, which makes me extra happy.

  • Here’s mine! The instructions were to do something in a blue, grey, chambray– kind of like sea pebbles. My Honourables (Sister, Maid, Man) told and showed me well in advance what they had chosen, but to see it all together on the day was awesome. B’s Best Dudes, on the other hand, had told us nothing, so I was soooo happy to see that it all worked out on the day of!

  • channa

    The quality of this photo is lacking because the only copy I could find quickly is low-res, and it’s not the best photo of me, but it shows off my bridesmaids’ dresses. I went with “semi-formal, jewel tones, long or short is fine, tell me your color choice and I’ll make sure it doesn’t match too much with anyone else’s”. I had to do some management to make sure we didn’t get three blue and one purple but otherwise let them go wild. 2 wore dresses they already owned, 1 bought a dress she’ll wear again and I bought my sister her purple dress.

  • Andria

    For my bridesmaids, I wanted a cost-effective option they’d love and wear again, in vintage-ish styles to fit our look. So, I made a secret Pinterest board and spent quite a bit of time pinning every dress on ModCloth that fit in with our colors and styles. Then I sent it to the girls and asked them to give me a top 3 by a certain date. I just made sure all the dresses they picked would look mostly cohesive (ie not six navy dresses and one turquoise floral), and told them which one out of the three to buy. It was mostly painless; 5 bought right away (1 actually chose a dress she already owned, which helped her currently limited budget), while 2 had issues with sizes being available in their chosen styles. We figured it out, but not without long text strings, a secondary Pin board, and me ordering one of the dresses because I couldn’t get ahold of the bridesmaid before it went out of stock in her size. It helps that my girls are all really wonderful (hence why they’re bridesmaids), and they appreciated that I basically let them go shopping for their own dress, in a way that they still knew I’d love what they picked. I’d recommend similar methods to other people, however, I might consider using a website or store that doesn’t routinely run out of stock.

  • laddibugg

    I hate mismatched dresses, even if they are the same color *for me*. I fully admit I am not laid back enough to say “do whatever you want as long as it’s X color”. I like simple, but uniform. I’d totally be fine with a sundress from Gap/Old Navy/Target in our color(s), as long as it’s the same dress.

  • A

    Has anyone successfully implemented this concept for two mixed-gender bridal parties? I love the look visually and it’ll work nicely for the vibe we want, but I don’t know how it would play out for two sides. Like should they be mismatched across both sides, or do we each pick a color family?? I guess it all comes down to whether we want “cohesive” or “sides”, but pretty pictures might help us decide?

    • CP2011

      We had mixed genders on both sides and toyed with the option of doing opposite/contrast colors for the sides (ie my guys in gold ties and my girls in gold dresses, his girls in pink dresses and his guys in pink ties. And we would have gladly accepted if any of the girls opted to wear pants.) I think part of our desire for the color contrasts stemmed from not wanting people to assume that the girls were all my bridesmaids or the guys were all his side. that ended up being a lot of work, especially because gold dresses were super hard to find. And the more we thought about it, the less we even wanted to delineate by gender anyways. We went with pink all around (any suit + white shirt + matched tie for guys) and a light pink open option at DB. My husband and I wore gold tie/sash. It worked ot very well. And regardless of what they’re wearing, mixed gender wedding parties are awesome!

  • Angie

    I told my nieces peach and my sisters to think old dishes. I knew from the beginning that I was not going to have my girls match but I left the choices up to them and they did a great job!

  • steph schneider

    I, too, did mismatched dresses and encouraged my girls to find a mix of stripes, polka dots, color blocking, and SEQUINS. There could never be too much glitter at my wedding. I think they did a lovely job of finding a great mix and I think (hope) they enjoyed it. Each girl was different – some emailed me their picks, some I sent suggestions to, and two of the girls wore dresses they already had – score! I loved how it turned out. I can’t wait to borrow THEIR dresses for upcoming weddings!

    • Maddie Eisenhart

      HOT. And totally working.

  • Sydney Nichols

    My look for my bridesmaids evolved over the course of my engagement from allover sequin short dresses in a range of neutral colors, to finally all black with some sort of sparkle. I never thought I’d have bridesmaids in black, but it ended up looking super glam, and their choices were killer and went together really well. Two wore beaded short dresses and two ended up wear jumpsuits – one with a beaded top and one with a sequin blazer over. I thought they looked awesome!

    • Maddie Eisenhart

      Um, belated reply, but what is happening here?! Do I see TWO bridesmaids in pants? Plus sequins?! Are you submitting your wedding? Oh please oh please oh please say yes.

      • Sydney Nichols

        Yep, so many sequins, two pants jumpsuits…I can humbly say my bridesmaids looked incredible. I would love to submit! It’s the greatest compliment that you asked :) Thank you!

  • We did this! It worked out so well! I just told my bridesmaids to pick any knee length pastel dress in their budget. I really dngaf about picking their dresses for them and I tend to not like things too matchy matchy in my own personal style, so I didn’t have any preconceived notions about how it would work out. It was so much fun to see what each of my friend’s picked out!

    In the beginning, I did have to reaffirm to my friends a few times that I really was happy with anything that they chose! Having a few loose guidelines (length and color palate) seemed to make it easier on them.

    I love how it cam out!

  • Leah

    Late to the conversation, but can’t resist joining in – had a mixed experience with mismatched dresses, though they ended up being fantastic. I said “blue, grey, or blue-grey, and other than that I don’t care” hoping that all 3 of my ladies would get dresses they liked, looked good in, would wear again, and were in their budget. However, these girls are wonderful and got really invested in all of their dresses looking good together, and in having them look perfect for me – so began a long long email chain, with dress suggestions, possibilities, etc. I got stressed because I felt like I’d made this MORE work for them, rather than less – and kept wondering if maybe I should just PICK something for them and that way they wouldn’t have to worry about it. But I stuck with it and bit my tongue, and it all worked out fine, and everyone looked wonderful. Definitely not a painless process though. Here’s a pic of them with my hubs:

  • I swoon over all the mismatching. It’s a totally dream to me! Why not right? It’s so fun, and we’re all unique, so why not have the dresses be too?

  • So beautiful, i love the dresses..)

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  • Lisa Resnick

    In an overwhelming majority of weddings, bridesmaid dresses ar chosen to complement the wedding’s distinctive colours, style and feel. This may mean that Girls Wedding Shoes wear identical dresses, but this is not continuously the case any longer. Some brides maintain a coordinated look by buying dresses that vary slightly in style or color however still match the formality of the affair and therefore the overall look of the wedding gown.

  • Guenevere

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/c6b6f0a5e2e18df77a50cb26355b8b1e085ba9b711fbf8a9addaa2b95ba999d7.jpg https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/9ab41b58b8c573127dc4973342ba9c6affbefde55f200818795e288226a4ba63.jpg
    I wanted shades of purple and long, flowy dresses – that’s basically what I told my bridesmaids. I did ask for them to share a picture of what they wanted to get and I helped a couple of them shop at their request. Photos by Kristen Thorne Photography.