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So what is wedding weekend like so far? I would say that it feels like the toughest yoga class I've ever been to, but also the most rewarding one. Because here is the thing - when you get all of your friends and relations together in one place for an event that feels high stakes - people will get stressed out, things will not always go as expected, though wonderful things will happen to. That's human, that's normal. But most of the time, when stressful things happen, we can give in to being annoyed. We can let the crappy bits of life stand larger than the joyful bits. But for your wedding you can't get thrown by little things. You have to pull yourself back to a core of calm that you've created for yourself, over and over again. You have to remember that a wedding is about love, and people stand still for love. You have to remember what wise wedding graduate Christina told me: "It is not your business what other people think of you." Because it's your wedding. You can't leave a bit of you behind gnawing over that little thing that went wrong, or that weird comment someone made. You have to show up with all of yourself.
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*For those of you, who like me need precise times for these things, please give a cheer at 10:30 AM PST, when we will most likely be walking down the aisle.
Photo: Us, Emily Takes Photos
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When we were about to leave our best man asked me if it was everything I’d hoped for. Without hesitating I said yes. Yes, yes, yes.
And anyone who tells you that you won’t remember your wedding is a fool.
PS Before you ask, I made my own hair thing, in the end. Well, WE did.
PPS Please note the guy dancing in the sweat soaked shirt behind us. That really says it all, no?
The evening of our wedding day we were browsing in a used bookstore (this is not surprising to you, is it? Of course not). I was looking through the magazine section and I stumbled upon a wedding magazine, a wedding magazine that I *like* at that. And I had this dull feeling in the pit of my stomach.
And suddenly I realized, “It’s not my problem anymore!” And I felt terribly terribly free.
You hear a lot about post-wedding depression. You hear about how when you wake up the morning after your wedding you will feel happy, but also a little empty… sad that the party is over. Maybe. Maybe this will happen to you, I don’t know. But what I can offer you is a ray of hope – it did not happen to us. Our wedding was wonderful. Our wedding was absurdly joyous. Our wedding was one amazing party. But it was exactly the right length, and when it was over I ran out of that door, making long strides in my silver heels as I dashed to the car.
Aside: When the stewardess just came by passing out landing cards, she asked if we were a family, and David said, “Yes.” So how great is that?
So. I want to tell you about the wedding, a little bit at a time. This community made me far braver, calmer, and more honest on my wedding day, and that made all the difference. Because of that, I want to share some of that joy with you. The problem is, like East Side Bride before me, I’m having a hard time writing about our wedding. It’s not so much that I’m afraid of shaking the glitter off, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t come off if I tried and I know that there are parts of the wedding that we’ll keep just for us. The problem, I think, is that the wedding feels so big. People always tell you about their wedding details, or their wedding timeline, and I suppose I could tell you about those things, but they miss the point. They are not the wedding I experienced. This is the wedding I experienced: Continue reading Back From Bliss